We had a really horrible incident a few weeks back.
I'd come in from a long day at work
and my wife was drunk at the computer.
She was just singing and having a good time.
Tamara's mixing Adderall with whiskey...
I'm like, "(Beep)."
I can't think of a more lethal combination.
She did it three days in a row.
I'm not afraid of what's gonna happen;
I know what's going to happen.
This is going to kill her.
Now Tamara admits that Adderall has created issues
in her and Steve's marriage,
but she says the real problem
is not the pills,
it's Steve judging and shaming the new her.
I'm giving birth to something beautiful here-
Four years! And he can't even see it.
Adderall has caused me and Steve to grow apart.
She's going through hell,
and her husband is standing over her
judging her every step of the way
telling the neighbors what's goin on...
Our marriage is not great
but she is possessed and has been taken over by Adderall.
The old me is dying away
and the new me is being born...
And my husband might be botching up the process because-
It's all (beep). Steve judges me.
Sometimes I feel shamed by Steven, or constrained by him
like he's my father or my prison warden.
I'm the bad guy.
She won't listen to anything I say.
She has no sense of reality.
Do you plan on staying on Adderall your entire life?
I don't know what the future holds.
I'm in the middle of my transformation.
I'm changing, and he's not.
He's like, "What is she doing?
"She's not being the way she used to be;
"she better go back to the way she was," you know...
I'm hot in the kitchen, I'm makin some food.
We have gone (softly whistles) in two separate directions.
We're more like roommates right now.
It's like The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe.
It's like Alice in Wonderland;
all my fairytale dreams are coming true!
Steven wants me to go off to...rehab,
and come back not taking Adderall.
He's constantly on me
like I'm a bad kid doing something wrong.
I still love Tamara with all my heart,
but I fell in love with this power player
and we were gonna take over the world
but she completely fell.
I just don't know what to do.
Sometimes I think
maybe he's the one that needs a little Adderall
and we'll both be on the same frequency.
The woman I fell in love with doesn't exist anymore.
I want her back.
I have a challenge for you.
K.
This is a role play.
Go back to the old you,
anchor woman you... and just interview me.
Okay.
So Dr. Phil, welcome to the Dr. Henry show.
We're so glad you could be with us today.
Glad to be here.
What I would like to ask you is...
What have you seen with some of your guests
that come in on the show?
I'm sure you've had
a lot of people struggle with alcohol and drugs...
And so, in terms of pharmaceuticals,
what are some of the biggest risks
and what are some of the stories that you've heard
about pharmaceuticals?
Mostly denial because people don't understand
how it affects the brain chemistry
and because it's altered their consciousness
they're unable to see what's going on inside their body
and it takes away their ability to have insight
and understand what's going on inside them.
So how do you get those people to see themselves clearly?
Well at some point
they have to trust people that care about them
and understand that those people
are going to be kinda their touchstone.
They're gonna be the ones that say,
"You know what?
"You may not be able to see this
"but you're gonna have to trust that I love you," and I do;
and believe in yourself enough to know
that there's another way to get what you want
rather than chemically.
Mm-hmm, and what are some of those ways that
your guests have found?
Well, I think they find it by
deciding what the obstacles are within themselves
that are draining their life energy...
What it is that's keeping them from being
everything that they believe they are on the drugs
that they can really be.
Maybe it's unresolved trauma in their life,
maybe it's a lack of confidence because they have
had failure experiences,
maybe it's the fear of being judged by others
and so they just don't feel the ability to go out and do
everything they wanna do.
And when they get the confidence,
it's always because they've changed their internal dialogue.
They've changed what they're saying to themselves
about themselves and about the world.
And once you wipe all of those things away
and their authentic self is able to come out and blossom,
then they don't need the drugs.
I like that, when you talk about the authentic self
because I think that's what I'm trying to do
is give birth to my authentic self...
And it's so hard to do and to anchor that in
when you have a lot of people in your life
who care about you and who are worried about you.
Well you've had me as a guest here...
What do you want your viewers to take away
from my being here today?
Well, I just want them to, um...
I mean you have the number one show,
the number one talk show.
Just to be here and be part of it,
that's really amazing.
And you did this without Adderall.