we are shocked when we learn that somebody overcame their addiction to alcohol cigarettes
any other drug first attempt a lot of the time we don't even believe that they were truly addicted
i want to talk about the difference between someone who can let go of an addiction first try
versus the rest of us mere mortals that take 15 to 20 attempts before we can walk away from what's
making our life miserable in my experience you might have trouble ending your addiction
because of two major problems issues that are happening that you're not even aware
you're dealing with the first one being you're not convinced that you truly need to put this
addiction down so that would mean quitting because of friends and family's disapproval
because somehow what you're doing interferes with your interactions with them or you're looking at
this from a perspective of i kind of see where they're coming from but i still believe that i
can do it casually just like everybody else which means in both of those scenarios you're not really
acknowledging that there's an addiction there and that you don't have control over your behavior
the other thing that's blocking you from being successful and in your addiction
is that you're not acknowledging the role the addiction actually has in your life the
addiction has become the way that you take care of yourself right so that's self-soothing with
whether it's food alcohol or whatever gambling whatever it's the way that you help yourself to
feel good it's the way that you entertain yourself it even helps you to block
problems and that one's more tricky when it comes to food but in fact if every time a problem comes
up i allow myself to eat for the 5 10 15 minutes that i'm eating i'm paying attention to what i'm
eating i'm not paying attention to the problem same thing with drinking same thing with any other
gambling or anything else that you might do addictively and in some cases when we don't
have friends in our life our addiction can even become our companion and if i'm not letting myself
see what my addiction is doing in my life i will not be able to change it people who solve their
addiction in that first shot something else that i noticed is that they tend to be people with an
internal locus of control that means that they believe that what they do impacts
what's happening in their life and so they set an intention for themselves to set your intention
part one is being clear with why you are trying to put this addiction down and
truthfully reason number one needs to be for yourself you need to see that your life will
be better if you put the addiction down if you're doing it for your kids or your spouse
that doesn't work unless what you want is that your relationship with your children
or your relationship with your spouse be better because you want it to be better because you
miss it being good to set your intention you also need to know how this is going to impact
your life so what benefit will i live because i put this addiction down improved relationships
improved health a lot of the time whatever we're addicted to except in the case of like gambling
for example but other things that we might be addicted to are impacting our physical health
if i'm drinking if i'm taking some kind of other illicit drug if i'm overeating that's actually
impacting my physical health how will it improve my relationships will i be able
to do more activities with my children will i spend more time with my spouse a lot of the time
when we're doing addictive behaviors and our spouse or children disapprove or friends
disapprove then we need to hide that behavior from these people which means now we don't get to spend
as much time as we would like to spend with them because we're hiding this activity that we're
do so this addictive activity that we're doing we lose time so we will regain positive time with the
people that we care about we will have improved interactions with the people that we care about
because when you're being honest with the people around you of course your relationships improve
and when we set an intention we need to know how we judge that we were successful
in accomplishing our goal it seems obvious to say oh you won't be addicted anymore when it comes to
food it's not that simple because we will be eating and all vegetables have carbohydrates
so how will i know that i've accomplished the goal that i set out to accomplish one of the
things you're going to notice is that you have no more cravings they're just going to
be gone and so whether it's alcohol or food if my cravings are gone that's a great sign
that i'm no longer addicted that i'm choosing healthy things to eat or drink or choosing healthy
ways to entertain myself when it comes to the other drugs those are all ways that it's going
to help me to see that i'm no longer i think i accomplished my goal when it comes to food i'm
also going to have the added positive of no more physical pain now alcohol and other drugs might
give you the same result depending on yeah like my body might feel better because i'm less inflamed
because i'm not ingesting things and causing my body to have reactions like i was doing before and
the ideas in my head will be different the things that i think about again when i'm addicted a lot
of my time is spent thinking about the thing i'm addicted to when am i going to get to drink when
am i going to get to gamble when am i going to get to eat but now my mind will be hopefully filled
with things that i used to love before i fell into this addiction maybe my mind will be filled with
new things that i'm enjoying like my children or new things that i'm enjoying like my hobbies maybe
my mind will be focused on improving my work and being the best doctor lawyer psychologist
craftsman whatever job you are doing and when i get stressed when i'm upset about something what
does my mind do if i've overcome my addiction my mind focuses on the problem so that i can solve it
it doesn't take 17 tries to quit an addiction it takes one committed investment in yourself
now a truly committed investment in you is one that's well thought out and it's one that's
planned out appropriately but you can't do that if you're still addicted to carbohydrates or
any other thing so i want you to click on this video right here where i talk about how you can
end your carb addiction click on the link and i'm gonna meet you over there