(Brittani Louise Taylor)all of a sudden we told me that because he had money he said and have
fun in Russia when I first met Amy told me about this tastes like the sanctions
we got him elected I'm gonna get money out he told me is getting 10 billion
dollars
trust me I just finished watching the brand-new Shane Dawson conspiracy
theories video with Brittani Louise Taylor but there's something really
important that they left out of this video what is up everybody this is Chris
from the rewired so where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution
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unsolicited advice alright baby was jumping into the topic like I said my
beautiful girlfriend Tristan and I we just finished watching the new Shane
Dawson series where he talked about Chucky Cheese that voice changer thing
the hoods really goofy and then also we talked with his good friend
Brittani Louise Taylor and her abusive relationship great job I am interested
in checking out her book now to learn a little bit more about it too
and actually sent me a video of a book review and the story is really
interesting and there's a bunch of different angles I could take on it I
went on Twitter and I asked all of you like what mental health topics would you
like me to cover and everybody was saying the Brittani Louise Taylor story
so they did an excellent job I think you know the audience can empathize and
hopefully understand what Brittany was going through and you know why it was so
difficult to leave that relationship but something I'm gonna be talking about in
this video which was left out of that video and no fault of Shane by the way
but I want to talk about signs of abuse how to leave an abusive relationship
okay so in this video we're actually going to
be talking about the National Domestic Violence hotline okay so I'm gonna be
going off of some things in this so please if you are in an abusive
relationship or if you know somebody who is like make sure you share this website
with them alright so when you first go onto the website you get this little
pop-up and it basically tells you like like because sometimes the abuser will
monitor your you know computer activity your phone activity like there's an easy
way to like just hit escape or the axe or whatever and it takes you to Google
so if they're walking in the room top bone you just do that alright so before
I dive into that kind of like the signs of abuse I'm relating it to Brittani
Louise Taylor story like let's get this out of the way
real quick like men need to be better but I will say you know abusive women
need to be better to some of you you know acknowledge that yeah
a man can be getting abused as well I've shared some of my stories where I have
been and emotionally abusive relationship some of them got a little
physical where I was you know being abused I'm not afraid to talk about that
so this can happen both ways but abusers need to get their act together all right
so what I want to do in this video I want to go through you know this power
and control wheel which is at the National domestic abuse hotline website
and talk about Brittani Louise Taylor story and hopefully you guys
some of these signs that either you might be going through or a friend might
be going through or it'll help you spot the red flags earlier on in a
relationship okay hi so according to the power and control
wheel some of the signs to look for are using intimidation using emotional abuse
using isolation minimizing denying and blaming using children using male
privilege using economic abuse using coercion and threats so there's a few
that I want to touch on specifically from what was mentioned in the Shane
Dawson video that Brittani Louise Taylor talked about there might be more
examples of this in her book like where she dives deeper but I want to use some
examples from the actual video all right so first obviously using intimidation
making her afraid by using looks actions gestures smashing things destroying
their property abusing pets displaying weapons alright so there was a lot of
intimidation like you saw the text messages that he was sending her or she
explained the things that he would say to her like when she was like trying to
leave alright um using emotional abuse putting her down making her feel bad
about herself calling her name's making her think she's crazy playing mind games
humiliating her making her feel guilty so like making her feel guilty so there
was the part where she where Brittani Louise Taylor talked about how he was
like coming at her and you know and then she was like kind of like defending
herself she you know poked him in the eye and he said he had to go to the eye
doctor and she talked about feeling guilty for defending herself all right
and you know this is a form of gaslighting as well trying to make the
other person feel bad that's in a form of manipulation and like one of the
reasons is called a power and control wheel a lot of abuse like a lot of the
dynamic in an abusive relationship is about one person having power over the
other person and and the thing that a lot of people don't understand is this
thing can be slow okay this could take time like over time the person breaks a
person down the abuser brakes the abuse down so they feel
smaller and smaller and smaller and weaker and weaker and weaker alright
using isolation controlling what she does who she sees and talks to what she
reads where she goes limiting her outside involvement using jealousy to
justify actions alright so like some of this was like she talked a little bit
about how like she don't really go out that much there was you know parts where
you know he didn't want her like seeing her family and things like that and it
was like that's a really weird story really weird and I think we can all
agree on that but yeah like Brittany didn't really have people to turn to and
I'm gonna talk about the fact that she was a youtuber in just a second -
alright so another perfect example for this situation is using children making
her feel guilty about the children using the children to relay messages using
visitation to harass her threatening to take the children away so like there
were different examples but he definitely was using the fact that she
was pregnant and the child and all these things you know to keep her in that
relationship like that's the thing like from the outside and I talked about this
in my la maison video - on the outside looking in it's easy to be like ooh why
don't you just leave why don't you just leave why don't you just do this one you
know and it's scary it's very very scary when someone's threatening you when
someone's threatening your child and it's almost threatening to hurt your
family right but he was using the child as a way to control Brittani Louise
Taylor so then using coercion and threats making and or carrying a thrust
to do something to hurt her threatening to leave her to commit suicide to report
her to welfare making her drop charges making her do illegal things so this is
something that I don't know it might have gone in in that story but like they
talked about how there was like a call girl involved and things like that that
was kind of weird it did you know and I'm sure Shane Dawson had tons of
footage that was left out but this can happen in abusive relationships getting
the other person to do illegal acts and you know that's a form of intimidation
too but also like threats so this is something that you know she may have
been dealing with as the victim so something that Shane
talked about and it's something that you know I was thinking and all that was
that Brittani Louise Taylor is a youtuber she's a big youtuber right she
has a huge massive audience like why didn't this melosh dude pick somebody
else you know what I mean and here's I just want I just want to
bring up two topics okay so one of them is like some people are hiding in plain
sight all right so it's important to look for different signs of abuse like
it's a point like I read a book on body language and like they talk about like
things to look for in a person because you know this is what FBI agents or even
police officers or investigators use like when they're looking at children or
they're looking at you know partners who might be abused like the way that their
their body is behaving around the abuser because what Britney was doing was like
you saw she was vlogging with him acting like everything was happy and hunky-dory
and all of that but some people they have bruises and obviously you know some
people try to cover up for the abuser and say oh it was an accident I fell
this happened that happened you know whatever but like by knowing like not
only the body language but where like a bruise might would be like it's very
important to learn those things if you think somebody might be in an abusive
relationship but also noticing this wheel right if like you have a friend
who's in a new relationship and they're starting to get isolated or the other
person's controlling the money like one of the things in here was like the epic
economic abuse where like this I didn't read that one but usually it's like the
person is afraid to leave because they're financially dependent on the
other person but in this case like Britney was supporting him and this can
be something else too and that can be you know part of it can turn into like
codependency where you want to help this other person you keep doing this and
you're trying to protect them and all of that but aside from like hiding in plain
sight like something I want to touch on and like this is just something I just
keep trying to talk to all of you guys about is that we need to realize that
what seeing on social media is not always the
reality whether it's with a youtuber whether it's like somebody on Instagram
it might even be your friends or family on Instagram or Facebook or whatever
like just realize what people are putting out there on social media is not
always the reality and the only reason I talk about that is so you don't based
your self-worth your self-love off of what you're seeing other people posting
and Brittani Louise Taylor is a prime example of that because there was a lot
going on behind the scenes that nobody knew about right
but the last thing I will touch on with this story is like I am super proud of
Brittani Louise Taylor not only for like writing a book and being open about this
but then going on like Shane Dawson's channel for like a video that's gonna
get tens of millions of views to open on like that is so inspirational this is
something that I've been talking with other creators about something I'm
always trying to teach you like we're all at different points in our recovery
but just realize that your story is powerful your story can help somebody
else so I'm so grateful that Shane Dawson and Brittani Louise Taylor got
together and they're able to you know give this a platform and talk about how
abuse is not okay you don't have to go through this and especially for a mother
like Brittani Louise Taylor like working in mental health treatment I've seen
women stay in relationships for years because of the child but finally
Brittani Louise Taylor got to a place where you know she knew that you know
she would rather be a single mom with Rex and get out of that situation then
you know just keep the family together right because a lot of parents do this
they try to keep the family together things that that's benefiting the child
when in reality it could be much worse and Brittani Louise Taylor has heard
stories you know like much crazier obviously like you mentioned like it's
you might have been getting you know groomed for trafficking or whatever that
is but just realize in any type of situation like it is better to leave
this situation raise that child on your own then have
to raise a child in that abusive household because like we've discussed
in many many many other videos a child is much more likely to have mental
health issues growing up in that kind of household you know what I mean so again
super proud of Brittani Louise Taylor thank you Shane Dawson for doing it
another amazing series and giving somebody a platform to talk about
domestic abuse and how it's not okay I'll write it and again I will be
providing the resources down below to the hotline so make sure that you check
that out give it to somebody you know if you think they might be in trouble and
then again just a quick reminder my boy Matt now we are starting the unsolicited
advice podcast make sure you check down in the description and in the pink
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