Hello, my loves.
Welcome back to Lavendaire.
Today we're gonna reflect on 2022.
It is that time of year to reflect on the past year
before we can begin planning for the new year.
I always like to do this video every single year
because I want us to reflect together on how the year went, what we learned,
how we grew and evolved this year.
The prompts I'm sharing today are based off of the Artist of Life Workbook.
I always like to share the prompts from the workbook,
just in case those of you who don't have it
or can't access the workbook from where you are,
can still reflect on your year almost as if you had it.
I'm gonna share most of the prompts from the ‘Goodbye 2022’ section.
If you have the workbook,
of course you can use this video to journal along with me.
But if you don't have the workbook,
just use any notebook or note-taking device.
And if you like interactive planning or journaling videos like this,
make sure you're subscribed to this channel first off.
Also, the next video I'm gonna upload after this will be planning for 2023.
So keep an eye out for that.
Today we're reflecting on the past year.
The next video will be planning for the new year.
Another fun thing we have going on is
we have two challenges for the new year that we've been sharing.
The first challenge is already out.
That was the Get Ready for the New Year Challenge
and that is an email series where each day,
you'll be emailed something to help you prepare for the new year.
That's already been out, but you can join anytime.
I'll leave the link down below.
And then we have a New Year Challenge starting on January 1st
and that one is happening on Instagram at @shoplavendaire.
That one will be like a post a day.
There will be a prompt a day to kick off the new year
and get us started with our goals.
As you can tell, I love creating content for the New Year's season.
I love talking about the Artist of Life Workbook
because it is my favorite and proudest creation
that I am so grateful a lot of you really love.
Links to everything are down below.
Now, onto the prompts.
Prompt #1: 2022 was a year that I...
If you have your answer ready,
I'd love if you shared it down below.
Comment with your year summed up in a phrase or a sentence.
What was 2022 for you?
Prompt #2: List all of your highlights and accomplishments from 2022.
This is one of my favorite prompts to answer
because I love reviewing my year
and listing all the big things that happened,
all of the things that I want to remember forever,
all of the things that I'm proud of achieving that year.
This is the page that I like to look back to
when I am reviewing what that year was all about.
You're not gonna remember all the details of what happened this year.
I bet you can't even remember what you did on a random Thursday in February of 2022.
You're only gonna remember the big things
or the things that you choose to remember.
So, even if it's something small,
but you wanna remember it, write it down.
That way, it's archived in your memory.
It's on paper so that you know you have something to remember your life by.
Prompt #3: What worked in 2022?
What were your wins?
What were your successes?
What were the strategies/techniques/things that you tried that actually worked out for you?
This is a place to kind of celebrate like,
“Yay me. These were my wins.”
Prompt #4: What didn't work in 2022?
What were the mistakes and the failures that happened in 2022?
I feel like we learn more from our mistakes and failures
than we do from our wins.
So, actually celebrate making mistakes
because if you failed or if you made mistakes this year,
that means that you tried.
It means that you put some effort
and you put yourself out of your comfort zone maybe.
I feel like mistakes and failures are also things that we can celebrate
and there's so much we can learn.
Prompt #5: What did I learn in 2022?
This could be your life lessons that you learned.
It could be actual practical skills and things that you learned.
Maybe you like learned a new language this year
or learned how to code
or learned how to write better.
Prompt #6: How did my life evolve in 2022?
How did you change throughout the course of the year?
How did your life change this year?
This could be internal change or external change.
Maybe you moved to a new city,
maybe things outside of your control happened
and it led you down a different path.
This is kind of the area to become aware of
what were the things that made my life change—
for better or worse.
How did things evolve?
And you can assess whether you are embracing this growth and evolution
or maybe things are evolving in a way you don't like
and you wanna change that next year.
This is your place to do that reflection.
Prompt #7: What about 2022 am I most grateful for?
Here's your place to list out all the things
that you're grateful for from the year,
the things that you're most grateful for.
I always love to tie in reflections with gratitude
because it always helps to come back to that mindset of gratitude
and anchor yourself in gratitude
because it just sets yourself up
for a better foundation in life in general.
This is, especially if you felt really critical of yourself,
maybe you made a lot of mistakes this past year
or there were things that didn't go the way you wanted.
Maybe you didn't achieve the goals
that you set out at the beginning of the year.
If you take the time to end things with gratitude,
you'll always feel better about yourself.
That's why I like to wrap it up with gratitude.
All right, now I'm gonna share my reflection on 2022
and the lessons that I've learned this year.
To share what I wrote in the workbook for this year,
I wrote 2022 was the year that I...
found new energy, drive, and clarity.
I felt like this was a year of building back my energy that had been depleted for a while
because I spent the previous years feeling burnt out and not having energy or motivation
to work, to do much of anything.
I really had to slow down, stop working so much,
and take time to heal and nourish myself.
That's been a theme, if you can watch my videos from like 2021, that era.
And 2022, I really continue to nourish myself,
and middle of the year, I got really into fitness
and putting energy into my health.
I worked out every single day.
I started researching more about diet and health, what to eat.
Aside from health, I also felt more creatively inspired this year.
I felt more solid with my team
and the content that I was creating.
And overall it was a good year—
although there were also a lot of mishaps
and unfortunate things that happened this year.
But overall, each year is a a learning year.
To share some highlights from 2022,
this was the year that I brought back The Lavendaire Lifestyle Podcast.
We brought it back in video.
So, we now have a podcast YouTube,
and we just opened Instagram and TikTok accounts for the podcast.
My goal is to continue growing the podcast with this long form content
because I love doing these interviews
and learning from different guests.
We've launched some new products on the shop,
like the tbh deck, Bloom Notebooks,
the new Workbook of course,
and our Joy journal.
On the back end with the Lavendaire team,
there was new hiring,
there was restructuring of the team this year.
And finally, I would say the past 3-4 months is when I really feel like,
“Oh, the team feels more solid.”
The content team specifically feels extremely solid.
I now have all the resources that I wanted two years ago.
I looked back at 2020, I was like,
“This is my dream team. I need this person, this person, this person, this person.”
And now, I have the people to fill those roles.
And it's incredible and I'm so grateful.
I love my team.
I feel like that's where I've really leveled up in my business and my life.
I'm also so grateful that I got to travel more this year—especially internationally,
because we weren't able to do that in previous years.
I went to Europe this summer.
I did a couple smaller trips,
like I went to Chicago for a conference.
I spoke at a conference.
That was the first time going to a conference
and speaking in person for years
because everything's been remote.
And as you guys are watching this video,
I should be in Asia because I'm leaving this Friday.
I can't wait for this Asia trip.
My friend's getting married in Thailand,
so we're going to Japan, and then Thailand,
and then Malaysia, Singapore.
Super excited for that.
And on the personal end, the past three months,
I've really been working on decluttering my house,
room by room, category by category—
and it's an ongoing process,
but I feel so much better now
than I did in the middle of the year
because I just felt too cluttered,
too much of a mess.
And now I just feel like,
“Wow, I'm starting to get my life together finally.”
So, that's an internal thing
and I don't really feel like vlogging it
because that would make me think about,
“Oh, how do I put the camera and frame the content?”
I was like, ”No, I just need to focus on decluttering for myself,
not for the internet, not for work—for myself.”
So, that's been my own personal project going on.
All right.
To wrap it up, I wanna end this video sharing some lessons that I learned from this past year.
The first lesson is to put your energy into what you can control.
And also, there is power in laser focusing on one thing at a time
versus trying to do all the things
and balance all the things at the same time.
So there's so much power in laser focusing,
meaning like spending these three months
just learn about this one topic,
or spending this amount of time just working on building this one habit
and committing to this one habit.
This is what I learned—
is like there's so much power
because all your energy gets focused onto this one thing that you can control.
You have power over how much you learn,
how much effort you put in,
and that can really fuel your growth
versus trying to focus on things
that are not in your control
or focus on too many things at once.
So, really simplify and laser focus.
I found that I was so much more motivated
and committed to my health & my fitness routine
when I really went deep into watching all the YouTube videos about health and fitness
and eating and exercise.
And I really just continued consuming, learning,
and going deep and then focusing all my thoughts and energy on that thing
in order for it to become ingrained into my brain,
ingrained into my habits and my lifestyle,
for it to finally be like,
“Oh wow, I'm actually making a change.”
Because before, I didn't have that depth of knowledge and focus,
so it would just be another thing on my to-do list: exercise
and it would be easy to be like,
“Uh, I don't feel like doing it today,”
because my brain wasn't focused on absolutely making that happen.
The second thing I learned this year was
how to delegate more and be a better leader.
I feel like I am a better leader.
I have just—
things are flowing easier as a leader in my business now
compared to last year or the year before.
Like in previous years, it all just felt messier.
It felt more frustrating.
There was more resistance to leading and managing people.
I just didn't like doing it.
I wasn't good at it.
I wanted to just focus on my work
and I wanted the work to be done,
but I didn't know how to guide someone to get it done.
I've learned to better guide people and support people--
and just in general like—
how to be a better leader for my team.
Obviously, I'm not perfect
and I'm still learning and growing each year.
But I can confidently say that I feel better
about what I'm doing now than before.
The last thing I learned this past year was
finding calm through challenges or unfortunate things happening to me.
There were definitely a lot of kinks,
either annoying or unfortunate things
that happened to me throughout this year
in different areas of life
that I had to learn to regulate my emotions
and not fall into that emotional roller coaster.
Obviously when I have an emotion,
I allow myself to feel it,
but I notice that I don't let myself get too irrational
or too emotional about things when they happen.
It's more, “I'm proud of myself in being able to stay levelheaded
and to be able to stay anchored in my self-worth.”
And I think it's a testament to like how confident I am in myself now
and how strong my self worth is now
compared to what it was before.
I guess what I'm trying to say is
that if you feel strong and solid in your sense of self worth
and you don't need anything external to validate your self worth—
whether it's money or reputation,
what people think of you—
If you don't need any of that,
then the ups and downs that happen externally in life don't affect you
because it's not a part of your self worth.
It's outside of it.
All right, my loves.
Hope you enjoyed reflecting on your year with me.
Make sure you stay tuned for the next video
where we will plan for 2023.
All right, I'll see you in the next one.
Bye~