Asalaamualaikum guys and welcome to another episode of Smile to Jannah.
Let's have a look at this headline that I saw on Sky News. The headline is: Cost of living crisis...
As most of you will probably know in the UK inflation is at a high and people are
struggling with day-to-day things becoming more and more expensive,
jobs becoming more and more difficult it is an unprecedented time so...
cost of living crisis pushing more women into sex work and unable to refuse dangerous clients.
I've got a bone to pick with this uh headline. It says "pushing women" as if they're right at
the border anyway, that you just need to give them a bit of a push and then that's it mate yeah.
I mean why on earth is this even an option? People are banging on about women's rights
yeah and feminism mate, there's a reason why a lot of people have problems with feminism.
Because feminism is focusing on the wrong things. It's the wrong answer to the right questions and
this is the right question mate, that why on earth are women being driven to sex work?
Well firstly mate women have been hyper sexualized. Any time you are to sell
something from a bloody toilet brush to a car or shampoo, there's a naked woman in there somewhere.
"Oh but men have to control themselves mate". Hang on a minute right there. How
can you be standing naked in front of me and I need to control myself mate?
And when men react to that... that's because we have the physiology that's been designed
to procreate. When it rains you don't say "yeah we gotta stop
the clouds and everything". You get an umbrella. So why is it with men "no no no men need to change
me men need to change" that's feminism mate. They're doing everything with LGBT in this country
but it's not going to work. Why? That's because the system hasn't been created that way by the
creator. Oh yes he's there as well yeah, I know the country's becoming more atheistic.
So the second thing that needs to be considered is, in an Islamic- proper Islamic relationship
or through the principles of Islam, men are the providers. Men are the providers.
So if the man is providing, a woman is not going to be driven to do this.
For those that are struggling to get married because they got multiple kids or whatnot Islam
also gives the option of polygamy. With regards to men being providers you
can see on the screen that there is peer-reviewed research to suggest that women are Hypergamous
i.e. they marry or they (you know) get together with somebody that's higher than
them in wealth and in status. In fact there's another study
that shows that women are more drawn to dominant men. Here's one that said that 62 percent admit
they secretly wished to become a housewife. And why secretly? Because 74% said they
felt pressure from other women i.e. feminists, to be independent.
78% said they wouldn't mind being financially dependent on their partner. The whole system
is flawed. I mean even if we look at the way wealth is sought yeah, let's look at this:
Women bread winners are more likely to quit their job when the number of children they
have increased. Non-breadwinner men are less likely to quit their
job as the number of kids have increased. So guys there's a lot of this research but
in Islam we value women because women are an integral part of maintaining society.
You see even in history when they invade they kill the men and the boys
first why? Because they are going to be the ones that are fighting on the front line.
Today when you look at the ones that are (you know) the men, even talking about masculinity "no no
no but it's toxic masculinity that's the issue". No even masculinity has come under the microscope.
For the first time in its history the American psychological association
released guidelines concerning men and boys saying that so-called traditional
masculinity not only is harmful but could also lead to homophobia and sexual harassment.
So this whole notion of making women more promiscuous, we know that again the stats
are there by the age of 21 women in this country have at least had 9 sexual partners.
That's a problem because men are not attracted to women with experience as it were,
it's just ridiculous. The whole system is just
on its head. The word "housewife" has become a slur, has become an insult.
So the women are at work, the men are at work, who's at home raising the kid? Some (you know)
international person that barely speaks the language and that's just there for a paycheck.
They're not raising your kids, they are tolerating them.
Off course if the kids are not being bought up- the first 10 years are
integral- if they are not being bought up properly then of course it becomes a cycle.
So those of you that are watching that aren't Muslim or those of you that are Muslim look...look
at your role in life. Everybody's supposed to fulfil a role yeah everybody has a role.
You look at a workplace the admin has their role, the cleaner has their role,
their head of HR has their role, CEO has their own, everybody has their role.
So it's important, especially for Muslim women to understand
what the Qur'an teaches us those "no no no we can't take this so that's the patriarchy".
So you're saying "no yeah Allah created everything he gave us a political system economic system
but he stopped and his system isn't enough when it comes to our homes when it comes to gender roles".
So may Allah give us tawfiq (ability) to understand our religion and then help
others learn it as well yeah.
Because the non-Muslim women they're crying out for Islam. There's a reason why it's mostly women
that are accepting Islam because of headlines like this yeah, so we really need to introspect.
May Allah make it easy let's leave it there until next time Asalaamu Alaikum.