In this video, I'm going to be sharing with you five of the all-time sexiest mindsets
that men find irresistible in a woman. Make sure you stick around. Hey, my book is also
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Number one is the appreciation mindset. Now, men love appreciation, not just when they're
in a relationship with you, but for their whole gender. Imagine you meet a man who just
doesn't like women. He just thinks women are cheaters or women are bad people or women
are into lies. That guy, he's going to give off shitty vibes, right? He is not going to
be very attractive and you're not going to get good feelings from being around that guy.
You're probably not going to find it very attractive. It's exactly the same for men.
Men are looking for women, not just who appreciate them when they're together as
partners. They're looking for women who appreciate men as a whole.
Now, of course, shitty things can happen in your life, and you might have had
experiences where men haven't been very good to you. And appreciation sometimes
has to be built from the ground up.
You can start it in simple wise. Just for example, thinking of the firefighter,
he might be a male or the person that helped you with your house, buy a house
that might have been a man. Try to see the different good things men have
done in your life and form this general
appreciation mindset for men. I promise that by doing so, men are going to notice
it and find you more irresistibly attractive.
Number two is the equal mindset, and this might be my favorite out of all of them. The
equal mindset means that you do not put that guy on a pedestal, not just in dating, but
right through the relationship. So what do I mean by that? When you see a man is your
equal, it means that even if he's wealthier than you, even if he's taller than you, even
if he might be better looking than you, you might think he's way better looking than you,
you don't think he's above you in any way, and the communication therefore doesn't
come off like that. So for example, if a guy is talking to a woman who does not have
the equal mindset, who puts him on a pedestal, he will notice that she doesn't
call him on his bullshit, and that she's always talking about how great he is
and how wonderful he is, even though he hasn't done anything amazing to earn it.
Now, it's important to know that women with the equal mindset will still absolutely
compliment their partners. Of course, they'll say all the great things they'll be
giving with their gratitude, but they will also make sure that when their partner
falls off purpose, when he does do some shitty behavior, there'll be a little bit of,
there'll be a little bit of talking down to him. They'll be calling him up.
They'll be saying, you're better than this. They'll be saying, what are you doing?
This isn't you. The equal mindset. And this is something that I've personally experienced
as a coach, obviously dating as a dating relationship coach, you want people that
see you as an equal, but if someone thinks, "Oh, you're better than me, they'll put you
on a pedestal," and I always find that my partner, while she will listen to me,
she always expects that I will listen to her equally as much back, and that I will
interpret her opinions, and we will find the middle ground or whatever we're talking
about in a very equal sense.
Overall, the equal mindset means that on average, you never see a man as above
or below you and it is very frigging attractive.
Number three is the adventurous mindset. Now, the adventurous mindset is all about
appreciating the freedom of the masculine energy, giving him that and then giving him
the experience, the excitement, the presence of your feminine energy.
So the adventurous mindset means that when he gets to know you, he feels like his life
is going to be more exciting. He feels like there's more energy in it, more positive energy
in it, more experiences because you are open to adventures. Now, those adventures are going
to be different for every person. This doesn't mean you have to go skydiving or crazy partying
or anything like that, but you are open to new things and new experiences, potential
adventures with him that he can enjoy too. No man wants to feel like he's just put on
a ball and chain. And the adventurous mindset means that you upgrade his freedom,
you encourage it, you support it rather than bringing it down.
Number four, this is so important, is the open mindset. I think you can agree that we,
society in general today, we all have a problem. Everyone's shut off.
It's so hard to find real vulnerability these days. I've literally been coaching a client
this weekend, and she has a avoidant attachment style, so she tends to lean away every time
she's scared, and I've just been encouraging her to be vulnerable with this guy even over
something as simple as text. And it's been frigging magical to see his responses. He
literally posted back, she was about to pull away. She said, "no, I'll do what you tell
me. I'll shoot this vulnerable text." He literally posted back. "I love it when you're open like
that." Those are his, his exact words. The open mindset means you are receptive.
It means you're in your feminine energy. It means you are willing to be changed
by him in a good way and affected by him in a good way that empowers and enriches
your life. The vulnerability is something that's becoming far too scarce these days.
And I think if we all adopted more of it, and if we all got over that fear and really
showed ourselves, there'd be a lot more love in the world. And when a man finds that, a
genuine version of that, a real version of that, he can't help but see the beauty in
it and find attraction in it for you.
And number five is the tip of the iceberg mindset. And the tip of the iceberg mindset
simply means that your looks are the tip of the iceberg as to what a guy gets when he
commits to you. So men are always looking for what's underneath. They're looking for
a woman who values what's underneath, who knows the truth that her best value is not
from the looks or the physical, the sex, that her best value comes from what she brings
to his life.
So the mindset is you get me and you get this beautiful person on the outside. You get this
person who takes care of herself, et cetera, and that Sir, is the tip of the iceberg. You
get to uncover the rest as you get to know me and have me in your life.
And that is the video. Thank you so much for watching. My book is now available, Make Him
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