I do most of the disciplining in the house.
Cole's might have got spanked four or five times
in his whole entire life living in that house.
Discipline hasn't worked for at least the last year.
It actually just gets worse.
Lena doesn't really have a backbone.
Lena gives in because she doesn't wanna deal
with all the stress and we have other kids
that need our attention and sometimes it's easier
to look the other way, but it's gotten out of control.
What is your ownership in how he is?
I mean, my ownership is that I've been
too much of a pushover, but when
we're calling and asking people for help,
that's pretty much what they're saying.
You just have to let 'em break the law
so that way he can go to jail and learn the hard way.
That or hurt somebody.
It seems like you're trying to get
other people to raise your son.
No. Well, unfortunately,
it was so, there was so much tension in the house.
He would come in-- But he's your child.
Yes, he is. Yes, he is.
But I have to protect my other two boys as well.
And I'm not saying that you don't,
and that may come down to the choice you have to make.
I'm very pragmatic, but who's really raising Cole.
Now according to you, in 2015 in August, he goes
to private school, and he's kinda taken
under the principal's wing.
She kind of took him under her wing.
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I mean, who's raising this kid?
He's trying to raise himself.
He runs off. He acts like he
doesn't need anybody to raise him.
He thinks he's raised.
Well the teacher's statement regarding Cole,
according to school reports:
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The commandant at the military school
said, "This child is incorrigible and unteachable."
But he won't take, like when we would get
those notes home, and we would say,
"Colton, what happened at school today?"
"Oh, it wasn't my fault.
"The teacher's stupid, the teacher lied."
He will never take responsibility.
No, no responsibility.
It's always somebody else's fault.
Okay, but what is your ownership?
You've got different educational institutions
saying, "You have delivered to me
"the most disruptive, incorrigible,
"unteachable student I have ever encountered, mom and dad."
Yeah. Yeah, I know.
That's what they're saying to you,
and I'm wanting to know what you have done
to create that. Well--
You can't say it's all him.
Well, I mean, the thing about it is,
is last year, if you woulda met him,
he would "Yes, sir" and "Yes, ma'am" you to death.
It's just when he wants...
Okay, what does that tell you?
We've been doing something wrong.
What it should tell you is that that is
within his repertoire of behavior.
He has the ability to be appropriate.
Yes. I believe that.
He turns it on and off like a light switch.
And he's smart, it's not--
Okay, then how could you look at him
and say you're psychotic?
Because... I guess it's
just frustrating. Because psychotics
cannot do that.
Because there's zero-- We're not doctors.
We don't know what the difference
between a psychotic or--
Well then don't use doctor terms.
I apologize, but the zero remorse.
Not to me, to him.
Zero remorse, the abusing of his mother
and his other brother, the verbal abuse.
Zero, has no care.
I mean... Most kids would come
to you after they're not made anymore
and say, "Mom, I'm sorry I called you dumb and stupid."
That's not something he has ever, ever done.
He laughs about it and thinks it's funny.
Uses it against me later. And to me,
yes, that seems a little...
Something. Maybe wrong term (stammers)
I feel like there's something
wrong with his brain. Do you know what
psychotic means? Like a chemical imbalance
or something. Apparently not what I said.
Yeah. So no,
I'm not gonna sit here and--
I'm not gonna give you a test.
I'm not gonna grade it, but I don't think
you really know what that means.
I think you mean something else.
I know he's not happy. I think you mean,
I think really what you mean
is antisocial personality disorder.
I think what you mean is, you have no remorse,
you don't have any guilt, you exploit people,
you're very selfish, you're narcissistic,
you don't care about anybody but yourself.
You make up your own rules, you comply with nothing.
Yes, sir. That a little more accurate?
Yes, sir. Yeah.