G'day guys Keithy here thanks for watching, hope you're doing good. Today's video
something different, I'm at work, getting a little bit dirty today, it's friggin cold
which is why i'm in this as well. Yeah just thought I'd do up a video today
something very different to what I've done before, I wanted to talk about fly-in
fly-out workers, the life sometimes not so glorious things about fly-in fly-out
work, and maybe things that you if you're at home and you've got a hubby or a
missus that does fly-in fly-out, things that you might not think of and then
things from a fly-in fly-out workers perspective - something to draw from,
to open up sort of that mysterious world of fly-in fly-out, so I'm gonna start with a
couple of comments, so a lot of people seem to think that a fly-in fly-out
worker goes to this magic resort and there's lots of money, drinks beer,
watches footy and fucks around - this applies for both guys and girls
obviously here I'm just going to talk in the guys sense cuz that's what I am.
And to some it is, you know like you get the single blokes out there, young fellas,
get a lot of money, like piss it up, go home do the same thing - good on them, you
get the blokes that are older, a little bit older, they've been married for twenty
years or thirty years or however long they've been married, yeah they're having a
great time out here, do the same ritual every day, get home, have a feed, have a beer
with the boys and go over yarn to the missus and go to bed,
rinse and repeat, and then you get this sort of an age group where I am where
you've got a combination of blokes in their sort of thirties and forties and
whatnot and you know some of them are single some of them married some of them
and like myself just got a girlfriend but no wedding ring or anything like that,
and what I wanted to talk about today is sort of to break down, that vision, that
concept that these fly-in fly-out workers just happen to fly it to this
magical fucking place and it's it's a resort and they just get away from home
and all that other kind of shit, now that's not that's not true - might be true
for some some guys out there, I can't speak for everyone, might not be happy at
home they'd rather be at fucking work and get away from everything, and there's
other guys and I was talking to one of the blokes at here he's got some issues
at home at the moment and it's sort of it's really hard, it's the way that a lot
of people cope when they're away from loved ones is really different, everyone
copes differently, everyone has this different outlook on life and where
they want to be and whatnot, anyway this bloke he's had a bit of a
barney (argument) with his missus and he's a bit upset doesn't seem to be able to
communicate with her - I don't know wether he thinks that maybe she doesn't understand
what happens out there, so I'll break it down a little bit as best I can. What
happens is most people (I work on the surface) you could be underground you
could be on a bloody dump truck you could be a fitter or whatever, most guys
will come to work and normal mining hours, usually you do six to six or five
to five, I do five to six, so I do 13hr days, you go to work you do
your time, you do what you're going to do at work, you go home and and it's not a
resort hey - it's not... a very beautiful place you get fed for nothing and
you don't have to worry about the dishes or anything or that that's pretty
cool, part of the the fly-in fly-out thing, but it's not it's not about coming out
and doing nothing and escaping chores or whatever you want to call it like at the
end of the day out in the FIFO world it doesn't matter what camp you're that
you've been to one you've been to all they're all just the tiny little
matchbox you live in a lot of blokes just want to go home and kick the boots off
and have a yarn with the missus and go to bed, you know that's that's the highlight
of their day but I think that sometimes it can be the message can be sort of not
received I guess,for lack of better words, sometimes the stay-at-home mums or
the wives or whatever of these this FIFO workers don't really understand how
isolated it actually is - you've got all your mates at work and supervisors and bar
staff and whatever out there, but when you go back to that room hey, it's a
box with a bed and some of them have got telly's (TV) showers what not, and a lot of
like this old mate he he looks forward to going home at end of the day and
having yard of the missus but a lot of time she doesn't understand that, like
and she's got kids of her own good on her, so he reckons he's tried to talk to her
about it and say listen you know, do what you got to do, feed the kids, get them
to bed, have a bit of time to yourself but he really appreciates, this bloke, if
his missus would actually offer him a little bit more of her time you know.
But things can be rough at home but you got to remember that the blokes bringing
shit to work, it's not good for your health especially when you're stuck in a
little box you're stuck in so on your own head as well, and you can tend to
think, and this poor lad is he's not doing real well at the moment and I pulled him
up because I could see that he was having a rough trot, and that's what you
got to do out here if you if you see someone that doesn't look like they are
coping real well, pull them up, have a yarn, don't be afraid at all especially
if you're the one with the issues. Don't be afraid to have a yarn to your work mates
or supervisor or whatever you got to do get things off your chest because um
yeah at the end of the day if you go to bed every night in a matchbox with shit on you're mind
(bad shit) it's going to keep building up compounding and then it
might turn into something worse - when you hear about a lot of suicides in the
fly-in fly-out game and most of the time I can guarantee you it's got to do with
issues at home that are not quite right. The guy just can't seem to get the
message across to his missus that um that something's not right they might
not want to talk, now everyone's entitled to some time to themselves absolutely
especially at home you know you've got to feed the kids you got to go to work
whatever you got to do, but please if you if you're that wife at home or
girlfriend or daughter even, keep in mind that it's very isolated out here and any
issues that these blokes have got on their mind runs around in circles and
keeps going and going it doesn't stop, so if you've got something going on, if
you if you've had a tip with your hubby or wife or whatever whoever's flying in and out,
sort it out! Sort it out there and then. Get on to it,
resolve the issue. The key to the fly-in fly-out relationship is communication
that's the biggest thing it's the biggest thing. I've had my share of girls
over the years I've had a long-term one and had a child apparent every
relationship I've been in while I've been working here I've been here for 14
years at the same place is communication break-in that has led every relationship
down I mean I've been cheated on a few times as well I'm not going into that
but at the end of the day it is communication that that some the true
and relationships but it's also hurt mental health and Almeida's is feeling
it now and I mean I've had my experiences in the past but this just
sort of rehash for me how report it is to communicate with your loved ones
openly about how you're feeling what's going on a home and anything like that
it is his MO and so I go to bed and that little matchbox with shit on their minds
feeling really bad waking up and wanting to hurt themselves to do something
stupid keep that in mind guys it's IO can I can speak from personal
experience on this one that you really really need to be open honest trusting
and loving if you've got a partner that flows in and out because it's really
hard to fly away from home every week it's the last thing you want to do pays
the bills you come out to pay the bills I don't come down yeah where I work
because I love the scenery or a like the sounds of mining equipment I come out
here because it pays the mortgage pays the bills I can support my daughter and
my missus that's the only reason we do it to make sure that you're thinking
about even if you've got the ships with them because at the end of the day any
negative impacts and bad shit that goes on between you and hobby wifey whoever
it really has a serious serious impact on when they're out here and they were
they were away from everything they can't be there with you to resolve
things so if you fail to communicate with them because you have the ships or
whatever amplify that by a hundred and that's what hub is feeling
we can't be there to talk to you through the problems or any issues you can't be
there to support you if something goes on the car breaks down or you know one
of the kids breaks a leg or something like that
is it work he's a long way away from home to be able to be able to help you
out there
the biggest thing for the mental health please look after him love and be honest
be truthful don't fuck around I tell you how I mean
that last one - I absolutely despise cheaters so yeah if you're cheating on
your partner and they're out in the mines or if your ads and ones and
cheering on your partner wake up to yourself there's nothing good gonna come
of it be honest the open be yourself every time someone takes a hit the drops
their confidence every time it's really hard to get that back same with trust so
you need to make sure that you're you're really open with your communication and
a FIFO worker if you've got any questions guys chuck them down
Oh answer em I'll probably do often had a couple of videos on this and really
sorry I haven't done any other videos with the cars or the poor were driving
away from all that lately I have been really busy but yeah thanks for your
time if you feel like it hit subscribe then it'd be great thumbs up yeah I
really want to bring this this to light this mental health thing like don't be
afraid to talk guys - if you're out in the mornings you've got issues going on
the missus is being a bitch or whatever talk to someone get it off your chest if
they won't talk kids or good one day they might if they don't fly home sort
of that when you get home but you need to make sure that you've got
communication and if you're the issue then maybe just have a bit of a think
about what's going on why you're the issue someone's not communicating with
you for any reason I've been guilty of this myself it's very hard and it's a
very fine line between fucking someone's day and having
great hi and the most important thing is that you go to work you come home for
your family make all these life plans do what you're going to do get on the boat
go fishing and live the don't live to work just work to live the otherwise