sometimes your friends are way too nice and not petty and sometimes you have to
be petty for them so that's what today's video was get you a friend like Tana Mongeau
please please don't what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul
where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new
to my channel my channel is all about mental health and what I like to do is
pull different topics from the YouTube community to try to teach you how to
improve your mental and emotional well-being so if the end of that make
sure you subscribe and bring that notification bell so yeah as of the time
of recording this I just watched an Tana Mongeau video with this dude badZach about
stuff that went on with Bryce I was first notified about this because
Tristan was telling me the other night she's like yo Tana Mongeau is freaking out on
Twitter and I'm like uh-huh I don't even want to know what's going on but because
we are gluttons for punishment we watch the video and yeah there's some topics
that I want to talk about with this because you know like mental health
something I'm trying to do with this channel when talking about mental health
like mental health is so much more than a lack of having a mental illness it is
so much different right like you don't need to be physically unhealthy and have
a disease in order to take care of your body and eat healthy foods same thing
with your mental health so part of mental health is knowing who to hang out
with so I did a video the other day about like why people watch Tana mojo
and basically what I was talking about is a lot of compute
can identify - Tana or they hang out what people like Tana right so like this
video is about like why you need to judge who you're hanging out with like
here's the thing a lot of people think that judgment is
bad I don't judge people don't judge anybody like this is an insane
expectation of humans you want to know why because based on our evolution based
on our survival right we have to judge people we absolutely have to judge
people okay let's go back to the caveman days right let's say that there was some
caveman out there and he was constantly like hey I'm gonna go wrestle with a
lion right you'd have to judge that person's
behavior and say this person might get me into some trouble that might kill me
okay so we need to judge people in our lives to know whether or not we should
hang out with them so I want you to watch this because Tana mojo is probably
never gonna see this video but like if you have people in your life like Tana
you need to stop hanging out with them or set up some boundaries or you know if
it's like a brother or a sister or like a friend that you've grown up with like
it's okay to love them from a distance trust me I'm a recovering drug addict
and alcoholic I have a lot of crazy friends who are still out there doing a
lot of crazy things I love them to death from a distance I check in on them I see
how they're doing we have conversations but we don't hang out because in order
for me to stay mentally healthy I cannot have that chaos in my life right and
here's the thing about Tana Mongeau is constantly having chaos in her life
so if you have people in your life who are constantly having chaos by
coincidence which it never is you need to figure out is this good for your
mental health so what I want you to do what I want you to do throughout this
entire video I want you to keep going back to tanomo Joe's saying that she's a
huge advocate for self reflection and growth like Tana please girl like this
one of the reasons I'm making this video one of the reasons why I talk to you
guys so much about who's you're hanging out with and you know the types of
people that people always because I used to be a terrible person I used to be the
worst most awful person on earth okay and here's the thing I used to always
tell people like oh I'm trying to improve I'm trying to get better like I
mentioned I'm a recovering drug addict an alcoholic
there are many times I told people hey I'm trying to be a better person I'm
trying to be a better father I'm trying to be a better boyfriend I'm trying to
be a better son I'm trying to be a better friend all these other things but
my behavior never change my behavior never changed and this is a form of
manipulation what people like Tana do but people like I used to do is tell you
just what you need to be here to get you off our back for a minute and maybe
disguise and mask all the messed up things that we're doing like you guys
like after Tana con we thought that that would be you know a life-changing moment
for her I already know the comments that are
gonna come and say oh 10 is young 10 is this 10 is that and that's no longer an
excuse like I I am the last person you could say like oh they're young give
them a break or whatever like when you're an adult like when you're an
adult like you need to start taking responsibility for the decisions that
you're making all right and that's something that happened to be like I
didn't start taking responsibility for my decisions my dumb idiotic decisions
that were causing chaos in my life until I was 27 years old but I got sober so
yeah maybe tanto I'll grow out of this like I hope the best for Tana I hope the
best for everybody on this planet right I loved everybody I just don't like
everybody and I wouldn't necessarily hang out with everybody but I don't
think that anybody is on lost cause and there's always a way to improve but it
is complete BS when somebody like Tana says that they're a huge advocate for
self improvement self growth and self reflection like what absolutely blew my
mind was how she started her video with this disclaimer saying this and just
throughout the video she was saying stuff like this like it is 1000%
contradictory to tell somebody that I'm about self-improvement self growth self
reflection and then minutes later say that you are a petty ass person right
like those two things don't go together like they just they just don't you know
what I'm saying like like that'd be like me telling you I'm a mentally healthy
psychotic person like no that's like an oxymoron alright so she she I think in
tennis situation or people situation I know my situation was I lacked
self-awareness okay I lied to myself a lot I lied to myself and say Chris you
are trying Chris you are trying to be a good person when the reality was I was
still causing chaos everywhere I went
all right that part right there is absolutely mind-blowing okay like she
put this thing on the screen like this this reminds me of when Logan Paul came
sideways at Shane Dawson and said like Shane you're scaring your young audience
right first off I pretty much concluded that Shane chance audience is it all
that young because I took some surveys and I had people comment I'm still
getting comments on that video about how old people are most people are in their
mid to late 20s all right but when it comes to tena mojo like she's saying she
knows she she had knowledge that she has a young audience like I'm not even gonna
show any clips but have you ever watched a Tana Mongeau video have you ever
you cannot contradict yourself by saying hey I have a young
innocent impressionable audience but your story times are constantly made for
adults so here's a clip here's a clip that I want you all to kind of sit back
and recognize all right and understand what's happening here I made a video not
too long ago like are we really surprised that Tana Mongeau screwed up Tanacon
and basically the whole idea of that video was people who are shocked people
who surprised by the chaos that ensues in their life right that just keeps
coming in I don't get it I don't get it what Ana's famous lines is this can only
happen to me like like the stars just live for chaos so look at this clip
right here and look at this face she's making me even that deep he just kept
hitting me like kept doing it and I was like really drunk so I'm like my balance
wasn't great I almost definitely fell into the bathtub and I remember being in
the bathtub with my hands like this like bro stop like stop here I mean stop stop
stop and just like this is Tana acting completely surprised about this chaos a
like she lives like perfectly quiet normal life she's just a young woman who
likes to go out have fun nothing crazy ever happens but here's a
clip from a different video from just a few weeks ago and I'm like what's up and
I needed say what's up to this girl and the
girlfriend was in the very back of the car and she like dodge is her body
forward like over the middle seat like over the front seat like whole body like
through the car and grabs my hair like the entire side of my hair and I'm like
oh my god like you guys this is why I'm saying you need to be a better judge of
character when you're hanging out with people like if if things like this keep
happening every time you go out like I want you to sit back and reflect do you
have a friend where every time you go out drama happens right like do you
think that's just a coincidence like do a little experiment with yourself like
try cannot hang out with that person for a little while and see see if your life
changes a little bit okay like some of you have noticed this like maybe some of
you when you moved out of your parents house or some of you when you've got a
new roommate or an old roommate left or you got your own place you notice like
oh wow the stress levels in my life have actually gone down and this is why all
of this has to do with mental health right like I said in my Anna Akana video
the other day like you have to identify what problems you're causing right like
when if you're a victim of childhood trauma not your fault but if you're
hanging out with people who are increasing your stress levels that is
something that you can change you can set up boundaries and not hang out with
those people it is very it is not very easy but it's very logical to say listen
I love you but I cannot hang out with you right now listen listen
here's my thing I was young I was crazy I did all these things like that was the
lifestyle I was in but looking back on it I had no right to play the victim
I had no right to play the victim like oh my God why did crazy things only
happen to me like that was that was a form of delusion that I lived in for a
long time a very long time like if you love the chaos and you embrace the chaos
do you think baby do your thing I'm not here to judge but I don't want you to
sit back and have these chaotic friends surrounding you and for you to sit here
and be confuse or as shocked as Tana is when crazy things happen if you go out
and leave live a crazy lifestyle crazy things are going to
happen that's how life works I've mentioned in my other videos before I do
not have a crazy life anymore I hang out that's what I do I make
youtube videos playing video games with my son hang out with my beautiful
girlfriend mess around with my cats you look like that's pretty chill today
alright so if you want a chill right if you want to decrease your chaos start
removing chaotic people from your lives alright but anyways anyways let me know
down in the comments below have you had to cut people out of your life have you
had to cut friends out of your life because every time you hung out with
them or every time you talk to him there was constantly drama or chaos going on
alright let's have the conversation down below many ways that's all I got for you
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