Well, Hey everybody, Jonathan Doyle with you, once again,
welcome back to the daily message.
So glad you could join me for another little top-up another little
tank fill of daily motivation, encouragement and inspiration.
You know, the great Zig Ziglar.
One of the great giants of personal development said, I can't remember the
exact quote, but it was along the lines of people say that motivation doesn't lie.
That she can get pumped up or, but it doesn't last.
And it said, believe that is showering.
And that's why we recommend that every day.
I like that.
Right.
So like you had a shower when you were five and you went well, I've done that.
I've showered.
I'm never having another one that would create problems.
So motivation and inspiration is something that we do regularly.
It's something that I have to do regularly.
The irony of my life, being someone that talks about motivation and
inspiration, where I battled with this, I struggle at times to keep myself moving
forward in a positive frame of mind.
Right.
I know people must see this channel and think that for me,
it's just like so natural, but it isn't, it's something I work at.
It's something I do every day.
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Let's jump in today.
We're going to do a quote from one of the great writers of American history.
Mark Twain, keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions.
Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you.
Can become great.
This is really good.
This is true because people who are operating at a high level in life, people
who are happy, productive, energetic, doing useful, valuable things with their
live experiencing some success tend to just want to share that with others.
It's when people end up in a scarcity mentality, when people end up in
a shrinking mentality that the world's against them, or there's
not enough resources, not enough.
The dull tend to close in and then attack those who are trying
to make change in their lives.
Whereas people who are expansive and living some level of success,
tend to want you to do the same.
There's this abundance thing that kicks in where successful people really
tend to want you to be successful.
So, what Twain is reminding us of today is we want to keep a pretty
close eye on the people that we are surrounding ourselves with.
Now I write about this in bridging the gap.
If you don't have a copy yet.
It's what we call reference groups.
It's this concept of the people that we surround ourselves with most of
the time, they're going to have a significant impact on our lives.
They just really do.
It's not really complex, is it?
If you're surrounded by a bunch of really negative people that constantly
puts you down constantly make you feel uncomfortable, constantly tell
you what you can't do, why you'll never, here's an example, like.
Karen.
And I actually had our first night away from the kids in about five years,
the other day, it was pretty cool.
And we went to a movie together and we saw mark Wahlberg's new film father stew,
which I really recommend amazing film.
And you see this tension between the character Stu and his father.
Who's played by Mel Gibson and they just rip each other apart throughout the entire
film until the very end is a resolution.
I'm not going to spoil it, but I probably just did spoil it.
But.
There's this constant tearing of each other down there just ripping at each
other the whole way through a lot of pain and unresolved issues there.
But don't you find that it's true when people are hurt and damaged by life,
they'll often constantly be cynical negative, so you can't fix everybody.
You know, all you can do is live in forgiveness and be the best you can be.
But some people are just going to stay bunkered down in middle.
And if you get around those people and you're trying to grow and
be positive, it's just really going to work out that well.
So I do want to encourage you today to look into your friendships, look
into the people that surrounded you.
You can tend to do this with family.
Well, not your immediate family that you live with.
It's a little harder, you know, for me in marriage and family, life,
that environment, and in any of the challenges in it, uh, designed to
help me grow and help me to love more.
That's the purpose of marriage and family.
But in your extended family, you know, you can allocate less time for people
that are really proving to be very difficult in your work environment.
And you can just go, I don't need to have a massive raging argument with people.
I might just allocate less time in their company or just, I was teaching someone
the other day, how to be a small target.
You know, there was somebody, you know, in a context who is constantly conflict with.
And I told them to practice a small target strategy, which is like every time there's
an interaction, don't exacerbate it.
Don't keep it growing.
Just, just whatever, just smile and wave, you know, that famous line
from the Madagascar movie, smile and wave guys, smile and wave.
So I don't mean you put up with abuse.
I don't mean you put up with a intimidate.
I just mean that you just don't waste any more time, hanging around
anybody that wants you to stay small.
You're not responsible for them.
You're not responsible for making them happy.
You're responsible for doing you and living your life
as effectively as possible.
So I hope that's helpful.
Thank you to mark Twain.
Get yourself around.
Good people.
Get yourself.
I'm having lunch with somebody.
Well, I just really admire, is that a fantastic career?
We just love each other's company.
We have a good lunch today and just riff on philosophy, politics, history,
economics, enjoy some great food and we just really, you know, why don't we
encourage each other and help each other to do well as you know, husbands and
fathers and men and business operators.
So there's a mutual kind of energy.
Feeds on itself and that's the kind of thing you've got to go looking for.
All right, friends.
God bless you.
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