what's up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and welcome back to another video where
we're gonna be breaking down an episode of black mirror season 4 in this video
we're gonna be talking about episode 2 arc angel and the overall theme of this
being overly controlling your children as well as the false idea of control so
if you haven't watched this episode yet go ahead turn this video off go watch it
it's amazing come back and let's talk about it alright anyways click recap of
episode 2 Archangel what it's about is a mother named Marie fathers out of the
picture we don't really know why irrelevant anyways you could see in the
beginning of the episode how anxious she is as a parent she has a c-section and
my son was born as a c-section I was losing my mind too so I can relate and
you could see her freaking out like is my baby okay is my baby okay is my baby
okay and her daughter was okay fast forward a few years where her daughter
is at the park with Marie her mom and the daughter ends up chasing a cat and
she gets lost and Marie loses her mind as any good parent would so as a result
of this because of her fear and if you haven't checked out my other videos on
this channel check right here I have a video about how fear destroys mental
health makes us make very bad decisions anyways her fear of something happened
to her daughter made her go out to this experimental program called Archangel
and what that did is it put an implant into Sarah's head and then the mom can
monitor her daughter from this tablet she can see when her daughter is
stressed she can see what her daughter sees she can see through her eyes it
also has a GPS locator in it so for daughter ever gets lost again so in
order to have more control over her daughter and not experience this anxiety
she did this experimental program of shooting something in her to her
daughter's brain now one of the other aspects of this is that the the
Archangel what it can do is it can filter out anything negative anything
the mom Dean's negative she could filter it out so the daughter can't see it
can't cure it so the the mom starts doing this more and more and
or she saw us filtering out just about anything her daughter can see like um
let's say for example like scary movies violent movies there's a dog that barks
at Sara every day she walks to school and her mom filtered that dog out and
Sara ends up meeting some kids at school who watch a bunch of crazy stuff online
which kids do I hope my son doesn't do it anyways and the daughter can't even
see it and she's known as the weirdo at school but what what ends up happening
at this young age because her daughter is weird and different she ends up
having this violent outbursts and she starts stabbing herself because she
can't even see blood she can't even see when she's coloring blood and making
drawings like that's how well this filter works so Marines are taking her
daughter to a psychologist and she saw it's unfiltered everything for her
daughter and she gets rid of this whole Archangel thing
fast-forward to Marie being a 15 year old teenager now's the time when Marie
sart's going out hanging out with boys and one night she doesn't come home when
she said she would she lied to her mom about where she was going and mom bust
out the old arc angel after maybe you know five six seven years she busts out
Archangel and she sees everything and I mean everything like when she spied on
her daughter her daughter was in the middle of losing her virginity kind of
awkward right but then she finds that her daughter was trying cocaine for the
first time and she goes out and she threatens her daughter's boyfriend it
says don't ever talk to her again you know there's a statutory rape get out of
her life and what happens is is that Sara gets very upset she doesn't know
why this guy's not talking to her and one day at school she is throwing up and
when she goes to see the school nurse she finds out that her mom actually put
in a like a plan b pill into a shake that she made her daughter so sara was
actually pregnant so as you can see Marie is very very very controlling of
her daughter out of this fear out of this pure fear and this fear makes her
try to be so controlling and see every little thing her child does
and this this whole thing it touches on the social commentary of this idea that
we need to shield our children from anything negative in life we need to
protect them from everything and what we got to think about is is this what is
this what's best for our child or is this what we're doing to try to subdue
our own fears and our own anxiety for example I've been meaning to make
another video on this but the idea that we should take technology away from
children is ludicrous it's ludicrous if you think that in the next 10 20
years when your child is you know an adult and looking for a job that
technology is gonna be less than what it is now you're out of your mind you're
completely out of your mind so what we need to do is rather than
trying to shield them from everything we need to just have open minds of
communications when I was sitting back watching this episode arc angel I was
sitting there and just wondering like what if the mom just had conversations
with her daughter what if she just talked to her daughter what if she
talked to her daughter about sex and safe sex
clearly Sarah wasn't having safe sex cuz she got knocked up what if Marie
actually had a conversation with a daughter about drugs right because what
happens is overly parenting trying to control this illusion of control we have
it actually turns kids into worse people than they would have been if we would
have just kept the open lines of communication I grew up here in Las
Vegas around a ton of Mormons right and Mormons are often shielded in the same
way don't have sex until you're married some of them can't even have caffeine
and what I saw as a result of this around the age of high school right
where Sarah was and black mirror they started experimenting with everything
they started having sex he started drinking they started doing drugs all
these things because the parents were trying to control every behavior they
have so I love how black Muir like brought this to the forefront like this
is this was an amazing episode and hopefully a lot of parents are watching
it I know this series is kind of targeted towards like Millennials and
stuff so people around my age like my son is actually you know nine years old
right now so people around my age younger you know when we have kids
got to start thinking about what are we doing are we trying to overly protect
our children and is it for their best interests or is it for ours are we
blocking things from them because we think it's good for them or do we think
it's good for us like there's a lot of people out there who bring up this
conversation and I hate to bring them up but after what's happened recently but
louis c.k you know he talks about how people who are against gay marriage and
stuff and they say things like how am i supposed to explain this to my child
right and like louis c.k jokingly he's like why do i care what you have to
explain to your kid like why are we gonna say that these people can't be in
love because you don't know how to talk to your child that's the same way we got
to think about this like we can't just keep thinking that we can maneuver our
children through every single bad situation just because we don't know how
to have a conversation with them right I hate to break it to you but it's part of
what being a parent is is having these discussions some of you who follow my
channel you know that I am an addict and recovery one of the biggest fears I have
is that my son isn't gonna become a drug addict or an alcoholic but I know that
it is completely insane of me that illusion of control if I think that my
son is never going to try a drink or a drug studies have proven that the best
way to talk to kids about this is to make sure that they know that there is
an open line of communications the more that your child is able to come to you
and ask you about sex about drugs about bullying about their mental health
studies have shown that you have a better chance of helping them out and
then they can make a proper decision but when we're shielding them from these
things that's when they want to go experiment and try things on their own
and most of the time they're not doing it in a safe way and basically at the
end of arcangel what happens is Sarah finds out mommy's been spying on her
Sarah finds the little tablet and she basically beats her mom unconscious with
it and then runs away so that's what happened when Marie tried to control
Sarah too much but anyways I would love to know if you've checked out episode 2
of black mirror season 4 so please leave thoughts in your comments down below but
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