Tripp Kramer here from TrippAdvice.com.
There's a lot of questions you have about how to talk to girls.
One thing you might not be thinking about is, what are the things that you shouldn't
say to girls?
I got my head coach Spencer Burnett.
He does coaching over here at Tripp Advice, helping guys be able to attract the women
that they desire.
He's going to be presenting a video on the three things not to say to a woman.
This is great stuff, so pay attention, take notes and watch the very end.
Here is Spencer Burnett.
This is Spencer Burnett, the head coach for Tripp Advice.
Today, I'm going to be talking about the three things to never ever say to a woman.
I'm sure that you've been there before, you approach a girl or maybe you're sending her
some text messages or maybe you're on a date, you're wondering, should I have said that?
Most of the time women are pretty forgiving of using dumb things, but there are certain
things that you never want to say because it doesn't make you look right.
It kills the attraction almost automatically.
The first thing that you never want to say is, I'm sorry.
This doesn't mean if you screw up majorly that you shouldn't say you're sorry.
Other than screwing up, you should never ever apologize.
I hear this all the time, hi, I'm sorry to bother you, but I just wanted to give you
a compliment, or I'm sorry, but can I ask you a question?
Never apologize for your own presence.
You have the right to ask a woman a question or give her a compliment or to see if she's
interested in you.
If you don't see yourself as worthy, how in the world is she going to see you as worthy?
When you start off by apologizing for your presence, automatically you're telling her,
I'm not worthy to be in your presence, but will you please allow me?
You don't have to ask permission for you to be you and go after the things that you want.
The second thing that you never want to say to a woman is can I take you to dinner sometime?
Or can I take you to coffee sometime?
Simply ask her on a date.
I know that the way you get a date is by asking a woman, but here's the thing, if you want
to get a woman on a date, the best way to do it is by making a suggestion.
You can say, this has been a whole lot of fun.
I've been really enjoyed talking to you.
I'm going to take off right now.
But we should do this again sometime like, we should grab some coffee.
Does that sound good?
Opposed to saying, can I take you out for some coffee?
Or you might say, you're interesting.
I've had a good time talking tonight.
I want to get your phone number and we can go grab some dinner and continue this conversation.
You're taking more of a leadership role when you make a suggestion for a date, rather than
asking nicely for the date.
I'm not saying that you should be pushy, or be an asshole about it.
When you're asking permission, like can I take you on a date, you're putting women up
on a pedestal where you see yourself down below.
I'm not telling you to not put a woman on a pedestal, you should treat her like a queen,
but you shouldn't treat yourself like a peasant.
You should treat both of you guys like royalty.
You can get together and be that power couple.
If you're simply asking her permission, you can spend two hours to sit across from her
while you plead your case for her approval.
That's weak.
When you make a suggestion to get together because this chemistry is working, that is
interesting.
That compels her to want to go out with you.
The third thing that you never want to say to a woman is, I want to get to know you better,
or I want to have some meaningful conversations with you.
You should certainly want to get to know her better, that's not what I'm saying.
You shouldn't actually say that though.
You need to demonstrate that you want to get to know her better as opposed to simply just
saying it, by asking her questions about herself, her day, life, and aspirations.
When you demonstrate, instead of saying something, that shows that you mean it for real.
When you say, I want to sit down and get to know you better, it seems like you have an
ulterior motive.
Honestly, words are cheap because it's easy to lie.
There is one way that you can always be telling the truth, that's what your actions.
Physiology never lies.
If you behave in a way that shows that you're interested, that you want to get to know her,
if you behave in a way that you're apologetic and sorry, if you screw up, if you behave
in a way that demonstrates that you want to take her out, or take her on a date or be
with her another time, then that is what gets the point across.
Men will say the very thing that they want when women communicate, by saying almost everything
except for that
If you want to better connect with her, you have to better connect with the way that she
connects with the world, which is being a little bit more vague and aloof.
If you take a look at any type of Hallmark movies or romance novel, it's never very direct.
It's always very vague where you're left questioning what's going to happen next.
The behavior always insinuates the intention, but the intention is never stated.
If you want to be smooth and charismatic and have women be drawn into you, don't be so
direct.
Don't be apologetic and never apologize for your own presence.
Instead, behave in a way that shows that you're humble, behave in a way that shows that you
want to get to know her better and behave in a way that shows her that you want to connect
on a deeper level.
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