Hey, what's going on man?
I just got back from hanging out with a couple of buddies and I wanted to share something
with you.
By the way, I know you love the wallet.
Not the wallet, the wall, the parrot wallpaper.
So yeah, I was just hanging out with a few buddies of mine and we were talking about
the state of the world and politics and things like that.
And he said something and then I said something to him that made him continue the conversation.
I thought, I got to share this with you.
And I got to share a few more examples of really good questions that helped continue
conversation because in that moment, I realized wow, this is a question I ask all the time.
I asked it to friends, I ask it when I'm talking to Megan, I ask it when I'm talking to people
who are interested in coaching.
It's a question to get them to explain something more.
And it's a great thing to ask in conversation.
I'll tell you what that is right now.
Basically, what I say is "how do you mean?"
When someone says something, I say "how do you mean?"
I'll get to that in a second.
But what I wanted to do was make this video because I wanted to share with you why it's
important to have a couple of questions under your belt to continue conversation.
Let me take my jacket off and we'll continue here.
One of the reasons why you want to learn some questions that continue conversation is because
you don't want there to be a lull.
You don't want there to be some sort of lull in conversation.
You don't want there to be dead air.
You want to learn this and you want to memorize some of these questions so when you're talking
to a girl, you can continue conversation in an easy way.
The problem is, if it comes to a lull and there is that error, she's going to lose interest.
She's gonna be like, why is this guy talking to me, what's going on?
You're making her do all the work when you're probably the one who initially entered the
conversation so you want to have some of these under your belt.
Also, what you really want is you want to have a few things to say to continue conversation
because the more time that you spend with a girl, the more she's invested in you.
And what's gonna happen is a woman's gonna want a return on her investment.
She's gonna start chasing you because she's been spending more time with you.
The more time you spend with her, the easier it's going to get for her to be invested and
you can use these questions to do that.
Like I said, the first one is "how do you mean?"
I love this question.
I literally use it all the time.
I use it whenever I'm talking to anyone and I want you to use it when you're talking to
a girl.
What it does is it gets them to expound more on what they're saying.
If someone says something to you, you can say "how do you mean?" and they'll continue
the conversation.
10 times out of 10, whenever I use this, they always continue the conversation.
They always go into explanation mode.
And real quick, I want to mention there was someone who commented the other day and said
" Tripp, I don't get it.
You said you don't drink.
You're lying.
I bet you just say that and something about lying to women."
I don't know.
Anyways, it's funny because first of all, I do like to have a nice cocktail every once
in a while.
I've been getting into mixology lately so that's why I have that bar cart and for you
yes, I do always preach don't be drinking when you're going out and meeting women because
it's easier to learn the skill of meeting women.
It's different having a drink on a dater or with a friend versus getting really wasted
and trying to meet women and then you just kind of mess up the whole process of meeting
women because you don't know what you did right or what you did wrong because you're
intoxicated.
I digress.
Let's go back to the 3 questions.
The next one you want to ask is "what's that like?"
"What's that like?"
This is a great question to use to get them to draw more emotion.
You can draw more emotion out of the conversation and when you do that, she's going to connect
those emotions towards you and start to feel more connected to you.
That's the second question.
"What's that like?"
The third question is a little bit different than these other ones.
But I want to give you a nice range of questions here.
What you're going to say is if you're talking to a girl and she says something you might,
by the way, only use this once in conversation.
Don't do this a lot.
You can use "how do you mean?" and "what's that like?"
pretty often in conversation.
But this one is meant for a one time thing.
You can say to her this "nah, I don't believe you, really?
So exactly like that.
"No, I don't believe you.
Really?"
Basically you're challenging her and you're questioning her.
This is you being playful.
This makes the interaction more playful.
"Wait.
No, I don't believe you.
Really?
It's questioning her and challenging her to explain to you whatever it is.
Let's go through some examples of how these could all look in real conversation here.
Let's say you're talking to her and she says "I really like staying home more than going
out."
Then you can say "Really?
How do you mean?"
"How do you mean?"
She's saying, I really like staying home instead of going out.
If you say "how do you mean?"
she's not gonna say well, how do you mean, how do i mean?
She's gonna explain "oh, well I like to stay home because of this and that and that's the
reason why I like to stay home and when I go out it's not as fun because... whatever
it is.
This is just an example of you using the "how do you mean?"
Just getting someone to explain something more.
She's like oh I'm really more interested in doing this or I really like this.
Oh, how do you mean?
Gets her to explain more.
For an example of "what's that like" she might say something to you like, well I'm a nurse
at a retirement home?
You go really, interesting, what's that like?
It gets her to explain more.
It's similar to how do you mean, but it's a little bit different because it's getting
her to describe things in more detail in terms of going to the more emotional side of things
like how she feels about it and you want to get her thinking about that.
So she goes... you go what's that like?
And she goes well, it's really rewarding or at times it's hard.
She's getting to speak on how she feels about something, very powerful.
What's that like?
Great to use on a first date, by the way.
The next one, the playful one.
Here's an example.
Let's say she says, I'm from Austin or I'm originally from Chicago or LA.
You can go "no, no you're not, really?
You're questioning her.
She'll go "no, no, I really am".
And you can say "no, I don't think so.
You don't seem like an LA type of girl.
You don't seem like a girl would be from Austin".
You're just being playful.
You're challenging her a little bit and you're showing her that you're not going to just
be like "oh cool, that's awesome" and be really into everything she says.
No, no, you're not, really?"
Or maybe she says I'm really into going and seeing movies out at the theater (which we
can't do right now.
Well, some people can).
She says "I really like going to the theater and seeing movies."
You're like "no, no, you don't, really?"
You're just questioning her and you're having fun.
This is something that you can use just once and you can do it in the initial approach.
Not something necessarily for a first date, although you could do that still.
Just something you want to do to get her more chasing you and chasing some of that validation.
I hope that helps.
I want to go record a podcast right now.
I can take you into the other room.
Real quick you can go check out my Hooked program.
My Hooked program is the program that basically teaches you everything in terms of attraction
and investment and we go deeper into the idea of attracting women and how to do it and different
phrases to say to get her attracted to you.
If you want to learn that whole system, just go down to the description and click that
link right there Get Her Hooked.com.
Click on that and you'll be able to learn more about the program and what it has to
offer.
There's actually a module in there called Effortless Flirting where I talk about all
the different concepts in terms of how to get a girl attracted using flirting and what
to say to her and the verbal aspect of it all.
Go check that out.
Thanks for watching.
I'll see you on the next video.
Bye.
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