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♪ >> WE'VE ALL HEARD THE STORIES
OF THE 80--YEAR-OLD MAN TRADING
IN HIS WIFE FOR A WOMAN HAVE
HIS AGE AND DRIVING AROUND IN A
SHINY RED CORVETTE.
IT'S A TYPICAL EXAMPLE OF A MID-
LIFE CRISIS.
LIFE CRISIS. OR IS THIS JUST AN EXCUSE FOR
LIFE CHANGES LATER IN LIFE?
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
WE DECIDED THIS WOULD BE A GOOD
ONE TO DIVE INTO ON REAL TALK
WITH CARA KNEER.
>> AND HERE PERFORMING ALL
WEEKEND LONG, OUR DEAR FRIEND,
COMEDIAN JOHN HOUGH RON.
>> THANK YOU.
>> HE JUST HAD A HEALTHCARE
CRISIS.
CRISIS.
CRISIS. >> YES, A MONTH AGO I GOT
BELL'S PALSY.
BELL'S PALSY. IT'S LIKE YOUR BRAIN IS THE
ELECTRIC COMPANY AND ONE SIDE
OF YOUR FACE DOESN'T HAVE THE
MONEY TO PAY THE RENT.
THE OTHER SIDE SAID WE ARE
GOING TO TURN EVERYTHING OFF.
IT'S LIKE A STROKE.
YOU HAVE NERVES HERE.
THIS WHOLE SIDE OF MY FACE
DROPPED FOR NO REASON.
I WASN'T HANDSOME TO BEGIN WITH.
I AM 50 I RECENTLY DIVORCED.
ON THE PERSON THAT YOU TALK
ABOUT.
ABOUT.
ABOUT. I
ABOUT. I SIGNED UP FOR A DATING APP
THE MORNING OF THIS.
I WAS IN A RANDOM HOSPITAL
CHRISTMAS EVE BY MYSELF.
I DIDN'T HAVE EMERGENCY CONTACT.
I WAS DIVORCED.
I DECIDED TO WRITE DOWN A
DOCTORS NAME FOR THE SECOND
CONTACT.
CONTACT.
CONTACT. I WAS IN THE HOSPITAL ROOM.
I GUESS I SHOULD CHANGE MY
PROFILE PICTURE.
PROFILE PICTURE. A, LADIES, WHO IS IN TO THIS?
LIKE THE PHANTOM OF THE OPERA.
>> YOU ARE A CELEBRITY.
YOU HAVE SOME PICTURES.
>> WE ARE SO GLAD.
>> SUPPORT HIM AT THE
PUNCHLINE.
PUNCHLINE. >> YOU BEEN ON THIS SHOW A FEW
TIMES.
TIMES.
TIMES. I
TIMES. I CAN'T WAIT TO GET YOUR
PERSPECTIVE ON THIS.
STUDIES SHOW THE GREAT MAJORITY
OF PEOPLE BELIEVE IN THE
REALITY OF THE MIDLIFE CRISIS.
HALF OF ADULTS LANE TO OF HAD
ONE.
ONE.
ONE. CARA, I WILL START WITH YOU.
DO YOU BELIEVE THERE IS SUCH A
THING?
THING?
THING? BE
THING? BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR BACK.
SHE THREW OUT HER BACK.
WE ARE FALLING APART.
>> I DO BELIEVE IN IT.
I THINK WE ALWAYS HAVE LIFE
CRISIS IS IN A WAY.
WE ARE ALWAYS REEVALUATING.
>> YOU MEAN LIKE CHANGING YOUR
HAIRCOLOR?
HAIRCOLOR? I FOLLOW YOUR BLOG.
>> IT SEEMS LIKE, THAT'S WHAT
THIS ARTICLE WAS, IS THERE SUCH
A THING, MANDY LEX OR IS IT AN
EXCUSE TO MAKE SOME CHANGES IN
YOUR LIFE?
YOUR LIFE? I'VE SEEN THIS HAPPEN A LOT
WITH FRIENDS, MEN AND WOMEN.
ESPECIALLY IF A WOMAN IS IN HER
40s AND THE KIDS ARE ENOUGH TO
MANAGE THEMSELVES AND SHE GETS
SOME FREEDOM.
SOME FREEDOM. I SEE IT WITH WOMEN.
IT'S NOT THE TYPICAL VERSION
LIKE WE SEE WITH THE GUYS.
>> I DID BUY A VIAERO.
>> THEY START TO SPREAD THEIR
WINGS.
WINGS.
WINGS. I
WINGS. I SEE STUFF THAT THEY ARE
WILLING TO PUT UP WITH ANYMORE.
MAYBE IT'S A NEW RESURGENCE OF
INDEPENDENCE.
INDEPENDENCE. >> I'VE SEEN, THE WOMEN I KNOW
THAT HAVE MADE A CHANGE SAY,
FOR WOMEN, IT MAY BE DIFFERENT
FOR MEN, THEIR CLOTHING GETS
MORE PROVOCATIVE AND THEY ARE
WORKING OUT.
WORKING OUT. >> MAYBE THEY HAD PLASTIC
SURGERY.
SURGERY.
SURGERY. THIS GIVES THEM A NEWFOUND
CONFIDENCE.
CONFIDENCE. IT'S LIKE THE DECISIONS AND
PRIORITIES CHANGING WHEN YOU
GET OLDER.
GET OLDER. >> I KNOW THIS BECAUSE I'M
OFFICIALLY DATING.
OFFICIALLY DATING. THE WOMEN ARE ALL MY AGE.
WE WERE ALL IN 20 HAVING YOUR
MARRIAGES I GOT OUT.
YOU REACH A CERTAIN AGE WHERE
YOU SAY, WHAT MAKES ME HAPPY?
WHAT DOES THAT MAKE BE HAPPY?
THESE PEOPLE DON'T MAKE ME
HAPPY.
HAPPY.
HAPPY. THEN YOU HAVE A CHANGE.
>> YES, THAT SUMS IT UP.
THAT'S EXACTLY IT.
>> THIS SOUNDS MORBID BUT HOW
MANY MORE SUMMERS DO YOU HAVE
LEFT?
LEFT?
LEFT? ONCE YOU GET TO A CERTAIN AGE
YOU SAY, WHY AM I WASTING THIS?
FOR ME I RECENTLY DIVORCED AND
I SOLD MY HOUSE.
WHAT WILL I DO NEXT?
IT'S LIKE BEING AN 18-YEAR-OLD
EXCEPT I HAVE CASH.
MY WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF ME.
I HAVE BEEN INTO SHIPPING
CONTAINER HOMES.
CONTAINER HOMES. I AM GOING TO GET A SHIPPING
CONTAINER HOUSE AND PUT IT IN
THE WOODS.
THE WOODS. AS A SINGLE GUY I CAN HAVE
SOMEONE COME TO MY HOUSE AND I
CAN MAKE DINNER.
DRIVE DOWN THE DIRT ROAD AND I
LIVE IN THE CONTAINER.
SEE, I'VE ALREADY LOST THAT
ONE.
ONE.
ONE. >>
ONE. >> I
ONE. >> I WANT TO KEEP MY HOUSE BUT
EVERY GIRL I KNOW SAYS NO ONE
WILL WANT A RECYCLED HOUSE.
THAT'S A DIFFERENT THING.
>> THE MOST COMMON REASONS MEN
EXPERIENCE A CRISIS IS HERE OF
GETTING OLD, FEAR OF GETTING
SICK, OR FEAR OF NOT FULFILLING
THEIR DREAMS.
THEIR DREAMS. IN ADDITION TO WHAT YOU ARE
GOING THROUGH IN YOUR MARRIAGE,
DID YOU TAKE INVENTORY ON THAT?
>> I WAS LITERALLY DOING
NOTHING AND MY FACE DROPPED.
IF YOU ARE HEALTHY, YOU SHOULD
HAVE GRATITUDE.
HAVE GRATITUDE. IT CAN BE TAKEN AWAY AND
LITERALLY 10 MINUTES.
>> THAT'S SUPER SCARY.
>> I COULDN'T EVEN TALK.
IT WAS LIKE HAVING A STROKE BUT
YOU DON'T GET THE SYMPATHY.
IF YOU ARE WATCHING NOW, IF YOU
ARE ON THIS SIDE YOU THINK I
ENJOY BEING HERE AND ON THIS
SIDE YOU THINK YOU THINK
SOMETHING DIFFERENT.
SOMETHING DIFFERENT. IT IS WEAR.
THE GUYS WHO BUY THE CORVETTE,
THAT'S A DIFFERENT TYPE OF
CRISIS.
CRISIS.
CRISIS. THEY GET RID OF THEIR WIVES AND
DATE A 20-YEAR-OLD AND HAVE A
CONVERTIBLE.
CONVERTIBLE. THEY WERE ALWAYS THAT GUY
ANYWAY.
ANYWAY.
ANYWAY. I
ANYWAY. I JUST WANT TO LIVE IN A
SHIPPING CONTAINER AND HAVE A
FULL FACE.
FULL FACE. >> TO YOUR POINT, THIS GOES
BACK TO FULFILLING THE THINGS
THAT MATTER.
THAT MATTER. IF THEY WERE THAT GUY ALWAYS,
THEY WANT TO BE THAT GUY.
IT'S THE SAME THING.
IS THE WHOLE TOPIC WE ARE
TALKING ABOUT.
TALKING ABOUT. FIGURING OUT THESE THINGS.
I'M OLD ENOUGH TO DO WHAT I
WANT TO DO.
>> YES, IT'S ALMOST LIKE A NEW
YEAR'S RESOLUTION.
YEAR'S RESOLUTION. AT THE BEGINNING OF THE YEAR
YOU MAKE THE LIST.
THESE BIRTHDAYS ARE PIVOTAL IN
MAKING US CONTEMPLATE WHERE WE
WANT TO BE.
IS IT OFFICIALLY A CRISIS OR AN
INVENTORY OF WHERE YOU'VE BEEN
AND WHERE YOU WANT TO GO?
>> WHAT HAPPENS, THOUGH, IF
SOMEONE IS HAVING AN
ADJUSTMENT.
ADJUSTMENT. I THINK EVERY 5-10 YEARS YOU
CHANGE YOUR SIGNATURE.
YOU ARE A DIFFERENT PERSON THAN
YOU WERE AT 20 OR 30.
THAT'S WHY WHEN PEOPLE GET
MARRIED YOUNG THINGS CAN
CHANGE.
CHANGE.
CHANGE. I
CHANGE. I WILL USE A REFERENCE FROM THE
1990S.
1990S.
1990S. YOU ARE A CD PLAYER.
OVERTIME YOU ARE ALLOWED TO POP
OUT THAT CD. YOU CAN HAVE
DIFFERENT MUSIC PLAYING.
YOU ARE STILL THE PHYSICAL
THING BUT YOU ARE ALLOWED TO
SAY, I WAS REALLY INTO THIS
MUSIC BUT NOW I WILL CHANGE IT.
NOW, IF YOU HAVE A PARTNER THEY
MIGHT HAVE A HARD TIME WITH
THIS.
THIS.
THIS. I
THIS. I DATED A HOODIE IN THE BLOW
FIRST, BLOWFISH PERSON AND NOW
YOU LIKE BRUNO MARS?
>> WE ARE RUNNING OUT OF TIME.
THIS IS A GOOD ONE.
LET ME JUMP TO THIS.
IF IT ALL SOUNDS LIKE A BUNCH
OF BALONEY, YOU'RE NOT ALONE.
A RESEARCHER DOWN THERE IS
LITTLE EVIDENCE THAT THE
MIDLIFE CRISIS EXISTS.
IN FACT, EVIDENCE POINTS TO
LIFE BECOMING MORE POSITIVE
AROUND THIS TIME AS THE
PERSONALITY BECOMES STABLE.
DO YOU THINK YOU SHOULD BE
HAPPIER AS YOU AGE?
>> I WOULD SAY I'VE GOTTEN MORE
COMFORTABLE.
COMFORTABLE. >> WITH AGE COMES WISDOM SO YOU
BECOME MORE COMFORTABLE IN WHO
YOU ARE AND THAT SHOULD
ALLEVIATE THE OUTSIDE PRESSURES
YOU FEEL.
YOU FEEL.
YOU FEEL. YES.
YES.
YES. >>
YES. >> I
YES. >> I WOULD DISAGREE.
BEING 48, I'M AT A PLACE WHERE I
HAVE THE SAME QUESTIONS TO
ANSWER IS WHEN I WAS 18.
ALL THOSE QUESTIONS.
TIME WILL UNWIND EVERYTHING YOU
PUT TOGETHER.
PUT TOGETHER. TIME WILL TAKE THAT AWAY FROM
YOU.
YOU.
YOU. >>
YOU. >> THIS IS SAD.
>> NO!
>> NO!
>> NO! >>
>> NO! >> LISTEN, THE WISDOM THAT YOU
GAIN.
GAIN.
GAIN. >>
GAIN. >> GRATITUDE. LIKE ON NETFLIX
THEY CAN TAKE AWAY THE
CHARACTERS AT ANY TIME WITH YOU
ONE OF THEM ON THE SHOW.
I AM NOT BITTER ABOUT MY LIFE.
>> I'M GONNA CALL MY HUSBAND
RIGHT NOW.
RIGHT NOW. >> YOU ARE INCREDIBLE.
WE LOVE HAVING YOU.
I'M GLAD YOU ARE FEELING
BETTER.
BETTER.
BETTER. >> YES, I WILL GET MY SMILE
BACK.
BACK.
BACK. >>
BACK. >> GO SEE JOHN