7 Male INSECURITIES [0:00:00]
[Music] In today’s video, gents, I’m talking about
seven male insecurities that women honestly don’t care that much about.
First up, let’s talk about money.
So, gents, I’m not going to lie to you, for the vast majority of women, money is important
when they’re sizing up a partner.
Now, don’t be all smug and think, “Ah, they’re all gold diggers.”
Here’s the thing.
Us guys, we’re just a shallow if not more.
You know what we care about?
Looks.
The number one factor by far.
If she looks great, we’re going for it.
You see the reason women care about money is it’s a sign of strength.
It’s a sign that you will be able to take care of her, her children, and most likely
you won’t have future money issues.
That being said, if you don’t have much money or you’ve chosen a profession that
doesn’t make much money, there are ways that you can overcome the money obstacle.
First up, have drive, have passion for what you do.
You may have chosen the path of becoming a teacher, but you know what?
Your goal isn’t just to be a fourth grade teacher, it’s eventually to move up and
to become the principal and then the superintendent and then to transform the entire public education
system is your – in your town because you know it can be better.
When you’ve got passion, when you’ve got drive, when you have so much within you, people
are just drawn to that.
And, that can overcome basically, yeah, you’re not raking in the dough, you know what?
You’ve got enough drive and passion, but you still are attracting people to you.
The next tip to overcome the money issue is to make enough money, but make sure that you’ve
got time for your partner.
So, there’s a lot of guys out there doing really well.
Let’s say making a half a million, you’re an investment banker and guess what?
You never see your wife or kids versus a guy making $50,000 in a small town and he’s
able to spend weekends and all evenings with his family.
What marriage do you think is going to last?
Most women are smart and they realize, no, I’d rather go with this guy that’s making
$50,000.
Sure, we’re going to have to save, we’re going to have to be frugal to take one vacation
a year, but I’m going to see my husband every night.
I’m going to be able to be in this relationship and see my boyfriend on the weekends.
This is important, making time for people.
The next insecurity that guys get all worked up about, penis size.
Here’s the facts, gents.
84% of women based on a UCLA study don’t care at all about penis size.
And, the 16% that do, it’s a minor factor in many things that they look at in a potential
mate.
The point here, guys make it out to be a much bigger issue than it actually is.
Women don’t care about it as much as we think they do.
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Next up, gents, let’s talk about muscles.
Now, personally I have to admit, I was very subconscious about being a skinny guy.
It’s funny, my wife says, “Oh, you look great.”
My friend say I look fine, but I’ve always felt, you know what?
I just need to be more muscular, but why?
You see, the reason a lot of guys are insecure about their build is the ideal in our mind
of what a masculine strong man looks like has become more muscular especially over the
last forty years.
So, the question here is what body type is most attractive?
It turns out, it depends on who you ask specifically what sex they are.
So, whenever they ask men to select the male body type that they feel is most attractive
to people, men again and again we chose the oversized muscular body type.
In our minds, this is what’s most attractive.
Interestingly enough though, women chose the average fit body type, and that was the one
again and again they selected as most attractive.
So, is there a perfect body type out there?
The answer is no.
In general, I think that you should be as fit as you can be however you define that.
But, when we look at what do people find attractive, it really comes down to the average in your
society.
We’re going to find the body types and average and attractiveness changes with culture and
in your instance, I’m going to recommend go with the best that you can achieve for
you.
And, don’t be insecure if you’ve got an imperfect body like me.
Now, let’s talk about that full head of hair.
So, I will tell you the weakest hairstyle is thinning hair.
When you’re losing your hair, you’re doing the comb-over, you’re trying to hide it.
This is considered, and I’ve got studies to back this up, the weakest hairstyle.
You want to try to avoid this.
Make a decision about your hair.
If you want to keep it fine, products can help you keep your hair.
[0:04:59] So, what about shaving your head?
What if you decide to go bald?
Well, congratulations.
You’ve made a bold decision.
And, I love this because there are a small percentage of women that absolutely cannot
keep their hands off of a bald head.
Bald heads also come off as stronger, more dominant, and a bit more fiercesome.
So, if you’re going for that look, hey, you’ve got it now.
Now, what about men with longer hair with long hairstyles?
Similar to men that are bald, you’re going to find some women absolutely love it, some
absolutely hate it, but most people agree pretty indifferent to it.
Again, if you’re choosing to be different, make sure you to be properly groomed, take
care of it.
Yes, it’s longer, but you still kind of keep it trimmed.
You got to take care of your hair and then you’re going to find people are going to
come up and just put their hands on it and want to touch your hair.
So, what about short hairstyles?
What about medium length hairstyles?
Well, it signals strength, it signals youth.
It’s the vast majority of the population, so how to stand out from the crowd.
Guys, if you’ve been going to the same barber, go try that stylist across town that you’ve
wanted to try.
You want to change things up.
And, if you’ve been going to that same stylist, then go to that old time barber.
If you’ve been using the same product the same hairbrush, try a different style.
Let it grow out maybe a bit more, try cutting it down, and try that different style.
Find something different to help you stand out from the crowd.
Next up, let’s talk about a chiseled jawline.
So, over the last year I’ve seen a lot of videos out there talking about how to get
a chiseled jaw line, how to improve your jawline, but the question is do women actually care
about a chiseled jawline?
Now, at first glance the answer seems to be yes.
When you look at Hollywood, you look at the stars put in front of us, these guys all have
this big chiseled jaw line, something that we look at as very strong and masculine.
However, when I looked at the 2013 study talking about geographic variation in chin shape,
what it pointed out is it’s really very geographic in terms of what we find attractive
and the averages in our society.
So, is a chiseled jawline going to be attractive in your area really depends on what is the
average type of jawline in your region, in your country.
And, what you’re going to find is that this is not a universal law.
It may be attractive in certain areas in certain industries, but that doesn’t mean it’s
going to be attractive in your geographic region.
So, if you’re spending a lot of time worrying about a chiseled jawline, honestly, you’re
wasting your time.
Now, let’s talk about the expensive things that we buy that we surround ourselves with.
We’re talking cars, jewelry, and clothing.
Now, gents, I’ve got a whole channel teaching men how to dress better, how to actually choose
the right watch, how your car does affect your style.
So, yes, it does matter.
That being said, all these things are oftentimes used by women to make a first judgment about
a man.
When they don’t know anything else, they at least can tell, okay, this guy can dress
himself, this guy has a taste for good watches, this guy can drive a nice looking car.
I assumed that he’s got that first thing we talked about earlier, a little bit of money.
Understand that these material things are used by women and by men to make quick judgments
about who you are.
Why?
Because we’re human beings and we’ve got the fight or flight response.
We’re trying to make a quick determination is this person a threat, is this person bringing
any value, and people see what they see.
And, they don’t see all the experience they don’t see your education, so you always
want to be putting your best foot forward.
So now, let’s talk about height.
Whether you’re tall, whether you’re short, whether you are average height, people are
making snap judgments about you based off how tall you are.
You want to learn more?
Guys, check out this video right here.
I talk about dealing with heightism and all the issues shorter men in particular deal
with.
But, if you’re taller and you want to watch this video, I’ve got some very interesting
things.
I had a lot of fun with this video.
So, guys, go check this out if you are shorter than 5’11”, yeah, you definitely want
to watch this video.
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