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When you are single,
you have the freedom to do as you please,
and you don’t owe anyone
any explanation for that.
Today what are we talking about?
We’re talking about
dating multiple people
at the same time.
Now, for those of you don’t know me,
my name is Stephan Labossiere
aka StephanSpeaks.
This is my YouTube channel
and I want you to subscribe
because I’ve got a lot of great videos for you.
We talk about a lot of wonderful topics.
Be sure to like the video
as well as leave your comments below.
I want you to tell me--
this is another video but we’re going to take a poll.
I want you to vote below
yes or no.
Is it okay to date
multiple people at the same time?
Now, let me give you my perspective.
As I started this video off by saying
you’re single,
you’re free.
What you choose to do is what you choose to do.
I don’t see anything wrong
with an individual dating
more than one person at the same time.
It’s the process of getting to know individuals,
seeing what your options are.
I can’t knock that.
However,
you have to be honest about what you
can handle as an individual.
What I’m saying is
there are some of you
who know
you can’t handle multiple people
at one time.
It’s too much to juggle,
it’s too stressful, you can’t really
get to know the individual the way you
need to
by having too many people that you’re dealing with.
Too many different phone calls to make,
too many hello, good morning text,
whatever the case may be.
It’s just too much to put on your plate
and you already have too much going on
in your life
to have multiple, different people
that you’re trying to get to know at one time.
For you,
stick to one person at a time.
Be true to yourself
regardless if your friends or family say,
“Oh you know you should meet more people.”
Listen,
do what you can handle.
Do what’s good for you
and embrace that,
but on the flip side
if you are an individual
who maybe has more time on their hands,
who maybe knows how to multitask
when it comes to dealing with various people.
And you have no problem
and you are very skilled at
being able to properly get
to know each individual
while having multiple in your life at the same time.
Then do you.
There’s nothing wrong with that.
Again, you’re single, you’re free,
you have that luxury,
but again,
be honest with yourself
about are you going to be able to
properly evaluate
all of these individuals at the same time?
Are you going to be able to lock
in enough
for you to say, “Okay, you know what
this person...
ahh, no this ain’t going to work.”
"This person okay to something here.”
And we build from that.
Because one of the dangers of dating
multiple people
is that sometimes
they all get to drag along
further than they should have
because you need even more time
to get to know them.
It’s like you have already so much of your time
occupied by various things
whether it be various people that you’re dating,
your work life,
maybe you have kids, whatever the case may be.
Now,
you can’t be as quick
to eliminate the people who
don’t need to go any further than the first, second, date.
because you still need more time,
and you don’t have as much opportunity
to figure out who you’re dealing with.
Again, if you can figure that problem out
and still be able to evaluate properly,
and it’s not going to cause a problem.
Then you are free to date multiple people
but if you cannot,
then don’t do it.
It’s not worth it.
If we’re going to be dating,
especially if we’re going to be dating with a purpose,
then we have to make sure what’s going to be
effective for us,
individually.
It’s all about you,
what you can handle,
and what you want to do with your life.
That is my perspective on should we date
multiple people at the same time?
Again leave your comments below.
Vote yes or no
if you think it is okay to date
multiple people at one time,
and tell me just what you think about
the whole situation in general,
and why you voted yes or no.
Thank you again.
Subscribe to the channel
and I look forward to seeing you on the next video.
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