going through my comments I've seen quite a few comments that believe
Eugenia Cooney is actually lying about going and getting help and this is
actually a really important topic that we need to talk about what is up
everybody this is Chris from the rewired so where we talk about the problem but
focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about
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anyways yeah let's talk about this thing going on where people think Eugenia
Cooney is lying about getting help so I do want to start out this video with
something that I often say you know this video is not for you junior Cooney like
at the end of it day at the end of the day and don't get it twisted I am of no
delusion like this is none of our business none of my business what she is
doing right like yes we could want to help yes we could do that but at the end
of the day she's gonna be doing her thing but I wanted to discuss this
because this is actually something that I've struggled with in the past and I
know it's something that many of you have probably struggled with or you have
a loved one who is struggling with this and this is two different topics one of
them is lying about getting help and the other one is just getting help to get
people off your back so those of you who aren't caught up to speed you know to
give you some context Eugenia Cooney you know allegedly is struggling with an
eating disorder even though she has a I'm excited anyways about a week ago on
Twitter she said hey I'm gonna go see a doctor and all this and myself as well
as cribs in studios we did a collab discussing this way in from crimson
studios he's in recovery from an eating disorder I highly recommend you go check
out his videos if you have somebody struggling with an eating disorder or
you're in recovery like go check out his videos they are amazing I love that dude
he's doing awesome by anyways like I mentioned in the comment section there
are people who think that she might be lying about this so like yeah this is
something that that does happen with people and you might have done this or
you know you might know somebody who has done this so I'll try to talk about both
aspects of it but for me personally as many of you
know I'm a drug addict and alcoholic in recovery I've been clean for about six
and a half years and there were times when I was lying about getting help so
like for example when I was put into a sober living home when I first got clean
like we it was mandatory that we went to five 12-step meetings a week and I was
like this is stupid this is dumb I don't want to go up in
these meetings have people talk about their problems and whine and complain or
like trying to tell me all these things like you know and it was part of my
illness and there's part of a lot of mental illnesses where that that illness
talks you and says you don't need help and I want to separate you from people
so what I was doing was I wasn't going to meetings now with forged signatures
right but here's the thing at the end of the day like at the end of the day the
only person I was hurting was myself and like the reason I was just like God was
because man this is something I try to teach people like some of us have like
that defiance in us like we're wrong I'm gonna do my own thing no matter what and
here's the thing at the end of the day the only person we are hurting is
ourselves so in the context of Eugenia Cooney let's say let's say
hypothetically she was lying about this like that doesn't affect us right it
would be on her this is something that I came to realize so for example I had a
sponsor who I was you know I had to call every single day
and then I didn't call him and all that stuff and then eventually like I ended
up calling him and I felt terrible and all these other things and he was fine
and that's what realize I'm like oh this is only hurting
me it's not hurting him so trust me trust me like like I talked about in the
podcast that mad mad - unsolicited advice like I don't lose any sleep over
this stuff like you guys I am just here to provide you with tools and resources
tell you to go get therapy go see a doctor
join support groups whatever it is right but like if you don't do those things if
you don't take the help that I'm offering you or the hope that other
people are offering you that is on you all right something that I had to come
to terms with was if I wasn't getting help I am choosing to stay in misery
like so many people so many people struggling with different disorders like
our stubbornness and our ego is our biggest freakin enemy and I know you
could probably relate like think about your own stubbornness right now think
about how your ego gets involved and tells you you don't need help you don't
need to listen to anybody you don't need to listen to this dumb idiot on YouTube
telling you to go get help right let's think about that and ask yourself is
this helping you or is it hurting you right because when I sat back and I
analyzed what was going on with me I realized that it was just hurting me
alright so well it is a scenario that nobody can confirm like her friend dirty
Dan his video he says that she is getting help and all of that but here's
something that I didn't talk about in my other video about should we still be
worried about Eugenia Cooney and that is just getting help to get people off your
back and this is something that I did and again it was only hurting me like
the first time I got sober the first time I got sober basically I called up
my kids mom because she had left and was staying at my mom's house because she
was sick and tired of me it's threatening to move back to Las Vegas
with my son we were living in California at the time finally I called her up and
I said listen if it will shut you up I will go get help right so all the only
I was getting help was to get her off my back and guess what happened three
months later I relapsed alright because I was I was doing it with the wrong
intentions and sometimes we do that and like and even this last time that I got
sober six and a half years ago I was just doing it to shut people up I was
like fine I'll do it like I had no intention on staying sober no intention
at all I was gonna get the heat off me and then whenever I felt like it
whenever I felt like the coast was clear I was gonna go back to slowly killing
myself again it was only hurting me and this is why I preach you know personal
accountability and all of that you know what I mean so a couple things like
what's the solution to all this what is the solution so what about one of them
is for all of us like we need to get better because we want to this is one of
the trickiest parts about mental illness is that we cannot stay better unless we
want to okay and like this this doesn't matter if it's addiction if it's an
eating disorder if it's depression if it's an anxiety like disorder like what
do you want to do do you want to get better are you sick and tired of living
the way that you're living like do you want things to get better do you believe
that things can get better if you don't believe things can get better watch my
other video about the ego and the plus minus equals technique right like find
other people who have gotten better right and just like look to them and use
their hope for a little while like that's what I had to do now don't get me
wrong as somebody who has struggled with depression for many years there are many
days when I didn't want to get better for me and on those days because we do
this thing one day at a time we work on our addiction or eating disorder or
depression or anxiety our PTSD or whatever we work on that one day at a
time and on what on certain days when I didn't want to get better for me because
I hated myself I looked at a picture of my son or I looked at my friends I
looked at my family I was like you know what today I'm gonna stay better for you
sometimes even doing this YouTube channel I'm staying well for all of you
guys I have to work on my mental health
because I know some of you need to hear a message of hope all right but the
other solution to this is especially if you you have a loved one who you feel is
not getting well for the right reasons or whatever it is do not lose hope do
not lose hope like I said like when I share my story I did not want to get
better I did not want to I was ready to die okay and by just keep like I kept
going and kept going and kept going and then something clicked and then simply
something clicked so even in Eugenia Cooney's case let's say again a
hypothetical cuz I don't freaking know Eugenia but a hypothetical let's say she
was just doing this to get people to shut up and get off her back for a while
maybe maybe she's going to hear something that just clicks and she's
gonna want to stay well right so if you have a loved one who's getting help or
they're in treatment right now or seeing a therapist or whatever it is just like
do your best to have a little bit of faith because I've seen it so many times
and I'm living proof I'm living proof about some of somebody who didn't want
to get better but then something happened and I decided that I wanted to
stay better and now I live this amazing life today so if you don't have faith in
yourself or you don't believe in yourself and you don't have hope in
yourself just know that I do I know I know
through years of working with people who have had far worse experiences than me
right I know for a fact that there is no such thing as a hopeless case all right
but anyways anyways let me know down in the comments below if you're somebody in
recovery from anxiety depression eating disorder addictions whatever it is like
was over a point where you decided to just like go see a therapist just to
shut everybody out or go get help just to shut everybody up and then what
happened to motivate you to continue working on yourself or or that could be
another question what what inspires you what motivates you to get better and
keep working on yourself are you doing it for yourself are you doing it for
others by the way I'm not saying doing it for others is wrong it's just
sometimes that's not stainable that's all I'm saying all
right anyways let's have the conversation down to the comments below
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