WELL, NO, THERE’S SOME OF OTHERS OVER THERE.
OVER THERE. YOU’RE WELCOME, Y’ALL ARE OKAY.
>> SO THERE IS THIS NEW STUDY
VIA EVITE, AND IT SAYS THAT
ACCORDING TO ALMOST HALF OF
ADULTS THAT THEY TALKED TO THEY
FIND IT DIFFICULT TO MAKE NEW
FRIENDS.
FRIENDS. >> I COULD SEE THAT.
YOU KNOW WHAT.
IT’S FUNNY BECAUSE I WAS
THINKING ABOUT -- SOMETIMES I
DAYDREAM ABOUT MOVING AWAY TO
LIKE A WHOLE NEW PLACE.
>> YOU DON’T DAYDREAM, YOU ALSO
TALK ABOUT IT.
>> TALK ABOUT IT ALL THE TIME
WITH ME AND I THINK ABOUT HOW
WOULD I MAKE FRIENDS.
ALL MY FRIENDS ARE HERE AND WHEN
YOU HAVE LITTLE KIDS SOMETIMES
THAT HELPS BECAUSE YOU GO TO
LIKE SCHOOL AND THEN, YOU KNOW,
YOU MIGHT MEET OTHER PARENTS AND
THAT’S A WAY.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> BUT I LOVE MAKING A NEW
FRIEND.
FRIEND. >> ME, TOO.
I ACTUALLY FEEL LIKE I MIGHT BE
KIND OF WEIRD.
LIKE IF I MEET SOMEONE AND THEY
SEEM NICE, LET’S GO HAVE A DRINK
SOMETIME.
SOMETIME. >> REMEMBER, YOU HAVE DONE THAT.
>> WHAT.
>> WHAT. >> THE AVERAGE AMERICAN HASN’T
MADE A NEW FRIEND IN FIVE YEARS.
I MEAN, WE WEREN’T AS -- WE HAVE
BEEN FRIENDS FOR MORE THAN FIVE
YEARS.
YEARS. >> FIRST WE WERE WORK FRIENDS.
>> THAT REALLY HURTS MY FEELING.
>> I SAID THAT EARLIER, AND SHE
SAID WE THINK WE’RE WORK
FRIENDS.
FRIENDS. I’M LIKE NO.
NOW WE’RE FRIENDS FRIENDS.
>> AND HOW LONG DID IT TAKE ME
TO GET OVER THE HUMP?
I THOUGHT WE WERE ALWAYS
FRIENDS.
FRIENDS. >> YOU KNOW WHEN I FEEL LIKE WE
STARTED CLICKING AND BONDING AT
SOCHI AT OLYMPICS.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> AND WE WOULD GO ON THE LONG
WALKS.
WALKS. >> I WAS A FRIEND THEN OR A WORK
FRIEND?
FRIEND? >> I WAS ALWAYS A FRIEND AND
THEN WERE YOU MY SOUL SISTER
WHEN WE MOVED NEXT DOOR AND I
KNEW WE WERE REALLY CLOSE WHEN
YOU SHOWED ME YOUR C-SECTION
SCAR.
SCAR. >> IT WAS BAD.
>> I HAD A C-SECTION, TOO.
OH, YEAH, THAT, AND I MEAN, LOOK
AT MINE.
AT MINE. I’M LIKE, YOU KNOW WHAT, WE’RE
REALLY CLOSE.
REALLY CLOSE. >> OR YOU MIGHT HAVE BEEN WOW,
LIKE SHE’S VERY STRANGE.
YOU KNOW, I DO -- I HAVE TO SAY
SOME OF THESE LABELS, LIKE I --
I ONCE WAS MEET ONE OF MY MOM
FRIENDS, AND RIGHT WHEN I SAID
IT I WAS LIKE CAN THAT GO BACK.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. BECAUSE IT’S TRUE IT’S FRIENDS
FRIENDS
FRIENDS >> SO WHEN YOU LIKED MEE A WORK
FRIEND.
FRIEND. >> I DIDN’T LABEL YOU AS A WORK
FRIEND.
FRIEND. I WOULD LIKE THE RECORD TO
REFLECT WE MET AT WORK.
IS THAT A TRUE STATEMENT?
>> CORRECT.
>> CORRECT. >> WE WERE WORK FRIENDS FIRST
AND FRIENDLY AT WORK.
>> WHEN YOU CALL ME A WORK
FRIEND IT SEEMS LIKE WE SHOULD
GO TO FEDEX TOGETHER OR
SOMETHING.
SOMETHING. >> SEE, SEE YOU AT THE COPY
MACHINE, SISTER.
MACHINE, SISTER. >> EXACTLY.
>> EXACTLY. >> YOU GOT ANY PAPER CLIPS.
>> THAT’S HOW I FEEL.
>> ALSO ABOUT MY CHILDHOOD.
THAT’S A WORK FRIEND.
>> THIS IS THE REASON WHY IT’S
HARD TO FIND FRIENDS.
THEY DON’T HAVE HOBBIES.
FAMILY TAKES UP A LOT OF YOUR
TIME AND EVERYONE HAS THEIR
FRIEND GROUPS ALREADY FORMED.
I’VE GONE ON FRIEND DATES
BEFORE.
BEFORE. >> I LIKE THAT.
>> YEAH, BUT NOW WE HAVE PLENTY
OF FRIENDS.
OF FRIENDS. >> BUT IT’S TRUE THOUGH.
I THINK IF YOU’RE OUT THERE AND
YOU SEE SOMEONE THAT YOU HAVE A
NICE CONVERSATION WITH SOMEONE.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. >> I THINK YOU SHOULD PUT
YOURSELF OUT THERE AND SAY DO
YOU WANT TO GO GET COFFEE OR
SOMETHING?
SOMETHING? >> DEFINITELY.
>> DEFINITELY. >> BECAUSE YOU CAN ALWAYS HAVE
MORE FRIENDS.
MORE FRIENDS. >> AND MAYBE THAT PERSON CAN GO
FROM A WORK FRIEND TO A REAL
FRIEND WITH THAT ONE CUP OF
COFFEE.
COFFEE. >> YOU’RE GOING BACK TO WORK
FRIENDSHIP.
FRIENDSHIP. >> I LOVED THIS ARTICLE IN "THE
WALL STREET JOURNAL."
IT HAS -- IT’S ALL ABOUT THE
FACT THAT SURPRISING WAYS THAT
CHANCE ENCOUNTERS WITH STRANGERS
CAN REALLY PROVIDE COMFORT AND
SUPPORT.
SUPPORT. SO EXPERTS HAVE FOUND THAT
PEOPLE’S MOODS IMPROVE AFTER
THEY HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH A
TOTAL STRANGER.
TOTAL STRANGER. >> I BELIEVE THAT 100%.
DO YOU FIND THAT TO BE THE CASE?
>> WELL, I WAS TELLING THEM
EARLIER IN THE MEETING I HAD
THIS -- I WITNESSED THIS
BEAUTIFUL INTERACTION.
BEAUTIFUL INTERACTION. WE GO TO THE SAME CHURCH AS WORK
FRIENDS, AND I GUESS WE’RE
CHURCH FRIENDS, TOO.
>> YOU ARE THE WORST.
>> SO AS MY CHURCH FRIEND I WAS
LOOK AROUND, AND I’M LIKE, DANG,
SAVANNAH IS NOT HERE AND I LIKE
TO SIT NEXT TO YOU FOR THE
COMFORT OF IT, AND I PROMISED
MILA THAT VALE WAS GOING TO BE
THERE.
THERE. >> THOSE TWO.
>> SO IT WAS A BUMMER, AND SHE
WENT DOWN AND SHE KIND OF -- AND
IT WAS HARD BECAUSE SHE WAS
TEARY-EYED AND SHE’S 6 AND I
KNOW SHE FELT A LITTLE OLD TO BE
TEARY-EYED GOING INTO SUNDAY
SCHOOL BUT SHE SAID I JUST WANT
TO SIT WITH YOU, MOMMA, AND I
WANTED A LITTLE TIME TO, YOU
KNOW, TO PROCESS AND BREATHE,
AND I SAID PLEASE GO, AND THIS
GIRL WHO -- IT WAS HER FIRST
TIME AT CHURCH, I HAD NEVER SEEN
HER AND THIS LITTLE GIRL TURNED
AROUND AND LOOKED AT MILA AND
SAID HI, I’M KAYLA, AND MY LA
WENT IN AND HUGGED HER AND WIPED
THE TEARS FROM HER EYES.
I TOLD HER PARENTS AFTER CHURCH,
THESE LITTLE THINGS THAT ARE SO
EASY FOR KIDS BECAUSE HARDER FOR
ADULTS.
ADULTS. >> BUT ACTUALLY SUCH A GOOD
LESSON BECAUSE WHAT IF WE
DECIDED TO BE LIKE THE KAYLA IN
SOMEONE’S LIFE TODAY.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> JUST PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE.
I THINK THAT’S -- WE JUST ARE
AFRAID TO TAKE RISKS OR WE HAVE
TO LIKE, YOU KNOW, WE’RE LOOKING
AT OUR FRIENDS AND LOOKING
INWARD, YES, AND WHEN YOU LOOK
UP AND OUT AND TALK TO SOMEONE,
WHETHER IT’S THE PERSON AT THE
COFFEE SHOP OR AROUND THE
STREET.
STREET. SOMETIMES I’M ROLLING AROUND THE
DOUBLE STROLLER SITUATION AND
OCCASIONALLY SOMEBODY WILL LOOK
AT ME AND SMILE OR LAUGH BECAUSE
MY STROLLER IS BROKEN AND IT
LITERALLY PULLS TO THE SIDE AND
I MAKE VALE LEAN TO THE RIGHT TO
EVEN OUT.
EVEN OUT. SOMEBODY SEES THAT AND WE LAUGH
AND WE HAVE A LITTLE EXCHANGE
AND IT’S GOOD FOR THE SOUL.
>> EVERY DAY IF YOU CAN HAVE A
LITTLE BIT OF A SURPRISE
INTERACTION WITH SOMEBODY, SMILE
AT SOMEBODY, WAVE AT SOMEBODY.
TELL SOMEBODY THEY LOOK
BEAUTIFUL, WHATEVER IT IS.
LET MAKE PEOPLE HAPPY.
>> KIND OF MAKES SENSE.
LET BE HUMAN.
>> I HAVE AN IDEA.
LET’S BE HUMAN.
>> LET’S LOOK AT EACH OTHER IN