Hello my name is Clare and welcome to Generation Calm where you can learn to
reduce your stress and anxiety naturally in your own time so that your mind and
body feel great/ Now some of you have already watched my videos on driving
anxiety and I'm sure that some of you are actually overcoming your driving
anxiety right now as we speak. But even though that's all fantastic and
I think it's amazing what you're doing so far. You may have hit that little
sticking point where you don't feel like you're getting better anytime soon and
you're not sure really if you're doing the right things and so you feel very
stuck. That's what this video is going to be about today. So if you're wondering if
you're doing things correctly to get over your driving anxiety you're
certainly not alone and I want to refer you back to my other three videos which
will help you get a handle on what driving anxiety is, what steps you can
take to get over it and just kind of refresh yourself on
that part. But this is kind of a motivational part because everyone who's
getting over a fear gets to this sticking point where they feel like
they're just not getting any better. And so today that's what we're going to talk
about and I want you to think about a baby. Yes a baby that is starting to
learn how to walk. And the thing I want you to take away with you today is the 3 P's. So P number
one is patience. Now when a baby is learning how to walk they stand up they
try their best to walk but they fall down again and then they get up and any fall
down again and then they get up. They're not comparing themselves with the baby
over the road thinking to themselves well they're walking already what what
am I doing wrong? They have patience, they have no concept
of time so they're not worried about how long it's taken themselves to learn how
to walk. So please take this advice from a baby be patient.
Everything is unfolding how it should. Don't rush the process. If
you've been scared of driving for ten years it's going to take more than 10
weeks to get over this fear. Even if you;re doing all the right things it's still
going to take a certain amount of time. So please, be patient. P number two is
progression. So another thing that happens when a baby starts walking is
they don't just suddenly one day decide they're gonna walk and it just happens. First of
all they have to learn how to hold their head up, their neck has to be
strengthened. Then they have to learn how to sit up unassisted. Then they learn how
to pull themselves up to standing. Then they try and learn how to put one foot
in front of the other. You see how it's a progression? They're moving on from one
skill and then building up until finally they make it to walking. Please take a
gradual progression in overcoming your driving anxiety. Take it one baby step at
a time. Each time you're building up muscle and strength to be able to move
on to the next progressively difficult task until one day it becomes natural
for you to get in the car and go for a drive somewhere and you're not even
thinking about it. And our third P today is practice. So babies never give up
trying to walk. They practice walking all the time even if it may not look like
walking as you and I know it they kind of wobble around unsteady on their
feet but they are practicing. They're practicing all day long unless they're
eating or sleeping...every single day. In order to get over your fear of driving
guess what? You have to practice every single day yeah,
every single day. Not just taking the kids to school or your drive to work but
practicing your extra steps every single day. And I want you to practice until you
get bored, when you're bored then you know you're ready for your next gradual
progression up the steps. I hope this makes you feel better while you're
practicing. Don't feel stuck, just remember the three P's that you can
learn from babies. Patience, progression and practice and good luck and I'll
speak to you again soon bye!