I am now in a phase of my life where I am
Single and *not* ready to mingle and single and ready to take care of myself and love myself again
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Hello friends, welcome back to my channel
Today's video is gonna be a little longer than usual and I might get a little sassy in some parts
But I mean it with the best of intentions and I do consider myself a people pleaser
I really want to help everyone and do everything for everyone
but while doing that I forget about myself and my health and I forget to take care of myself, so
These are the 5 things I'm saying no to. Number 1 the pressure to perform
beyond
Levels that I am capable of. A lot of people in the language learning community
Have pressure to improve their languages at a pace that they may not be
Currently going out or being able to go at. My language learning is pretty much only on weekends. And if I'm lucky when I get an
Afternoon at home, when I'm not exhausted from work
so
Unfortunately, I'm not progressing at the pace I want to be progressing at, especially in Hungarian.
So if you are Hungarian, I
Am sorry that I'm not uploading a lot of Hungarian videos because my Hungarian is not improving
because I don't have time and
I've learned to kind of mentally say no
to
People who are telling me come on, please upload a Hungarian video. Where's your Hungarian progress?
Why aren't you doing any Hungarian videos? Well, I'm sorry. I'm just progressing at a very slow pace
I have not given up on the language. So apologies if you're waiting on a Hungarian video
Give me time. I need to study
number 2
Toxic relationships. I
recently got out of a relationship, which
actually made me physically sick and I
With my metabolism
I find it very hard to both gain or lose weight and this relationship made me lose three kilograms
I couldn't eat. My stomach was upset all the time. I had crazy depression. I would have panic attacks at work
I thought panic attacks only happened in movies turns out they're real
Not a good feeling not
and I mean, I guess this guy was a nice guy, but
the way he treated me and I'm not sure he realized was just
extremely hurtful and toxic. A relationship that makes you
physically sick is not something you need to stay in if it makes you depressed get out of there fast, but uh
Yeah, I'm taking a really long break from dating and it's doing me really great. Like I'm just focusing on God and focusing on myself
I know languages, of course. That's another thing I'd like to say no to is
society's pressure to always
Have to be in a relationship or always have to have someone
I'm super happy being single right now and I can honestly say that like I think before
this relationship I had I was looking for someone and
that's maybe why I got into the relationship so fast without
really getting to know this person's true colors, so
It's another thing I'm saying no to it's just like I just want to rest please
Number three kind of a random one arguing on the internet. Guys
Tumblr, langblr, really guys people can start arguments about anything
Female representation in the polyglot community. So somebody was saying that
My polyglot princesses series is is not great because I'm not giving male
Representation and what about what about the white males who want to learn languages?
I'm like, go ahead if you're a white male, you learn your language. I have nothing against you. I'm just doing the series because I
want to encourage and promote women who are learning languages and then this whole argument on tumblr started about
It was about like polyglot conferences and language conferences there, like only people who are famous get invited
So you get invited based on your popularity,
Not your level of language and females should put themselves out there and I was just like
Why are we arguing about this? Can we just be quiet and learn languages, please?
It's so silly to argue on the internet. It is such a waste of time
Yeah, if I receive hate mail on my blog, I just delete it
So all you people hiding behind anonymous and I haven't replied to your questions. It's 'cause you're being rude and
I'm deleting your questions, so I don't have no place for negativity in my life. Okay? I just want peace and quiet guys
Let's all just love languages together
Number four, um
offers from companies and sponsorships
Since my subscribers have been growing steadily in the past few months which by the way, thank you guys
You mean a lot to me and I'm really close to fifty thousand and I didn't even think I would get there in my lifetime
So y'all are very special and thank you so much
So with that being said a lot of companies have been contacting me asking me to review their product and promote their services
And I don't want to just do things for the money
I want to do it
Because I agree with what they do or because I think it can benefit you guys in the language learning community
I got a really great proposal from a Korean company to be a brand ambassador for them
But also I had to teach Korean online at the same time
Which is exciting and great and I would have jumped at that offer in university
But right now I really can't take on another job
So I'm also learning to say no to things that I just don't have time for.
I really need to learn to take care of myself. So I am
doing another
Review for somebody's notebooks, but that's because I'm passionate about supporting the small business. It's a
Designer who who made notebooks to practice Korean and she contacted me and she said she doesn't have any budget
But she'll send me these books for free and and that's something I am passionate about
I'm like well, let me help you you're doing something great for the language learning community
let me promote your product. Some other really big companies, which I don't want to mention here have contacted me and
proposed terrible rates to pay me and I have to mention them in like
10 videos in the span of a few months and it's just gonna sound fake and I want to be
Completely open and natural online and I just want to be authentic. So I've also learned to say no to
Companies because I just want to be an honest youtuber with you guys. I don't want to be selling other people's things
unless I'd really agree with what they're doing and the other thing which kind of makes me a little sad to say is um
requests that I'm too busy for. Number 5 so my
Tumblr inbox is full of your messages
Which I love and I'm really happy to talk to you guys and to make new friends and to discuss languages together
But sometimes I get questions for people like this one person on Instagram they came to me and they're like hi
I'm going to XYZ country
And I really want you to make a video of learning that language give me tips
So I didn't reply because I got a lot of messages and I was on a holiday
So I just left then she messaged me again. Just like excuse me. Can you please upload the video? I was like I
I don't owe you anything. I'm sorry
and then I told her I was like
You know what?
I do have a video about how to learn that specific language you're asking about I literally have a video titled how to learn
That language and they're like, oh, okay. Cool. Thanks
Why do you tell me you like my videos and you don't watch them and then you ask me questions
That I have answered in my videos, really?
I've just decided I'm not gonna waste my time answering questions that I have answered a trillion times
I love talking to you guys and you'll see I've really put an effort
Recently to answer all my asks on Tumblr and Twitter and Instagram
I'm really making an effort to reply to you guys if I don't reply to you or if I link you to a video
It's not because I don't want to give you a personal answer
It's really because I probably get asked the same question every single day and I'm not saying that to be like look
How famous I am. Look how many people ask me stuff. I love helping you guys
But really if I get asked how do I learn Korean every single day?
It gets a little tiring and it's just a lot easier to refer you to my Korean playlist
I hope that didn't come across as rude
My heart and my intent is pure and I want to help you guys and I am so supportive of you guys learning
languages, so please do continue to ask me things but
Check out my FAQ my Instagram. It actually has an FAQ now cuz
FAQ frequently asked question-. Okay. I
Am now in a phase of my life where I am
single and not ready to mingle
and single and ready to take care of myself and love myself again and part of loving myself and
Taking care of myself is learning to say no. As my grandma says put number one first.
A number one is me or for you, and your number one is you. So put yourself first
Thank you guys if you watch to the end
If you're new to my channel welcome
My name is Lindie. I love languages and I'd love to connect with you
So please subscribe and comment and tell me who you are and let's be friends. See you guys in the next video
Bye bye!!
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