I'm giving you five tactics
to put a narcissist in their place
and by the end of this,
you're gonna know all five.
So you definitely gonna wanna
stay tuned so you can hear all of them.
Alright.
So how do you put a narcissist in their place?
I know a lot of people think that you can't.
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I'm Rebecca Zung.
I am an attorney.
I'm a narcissist negotiation expert
and I sit here in every video
and give you every
tactic in every strategy
for free to make sure that you
have everything you need in your hands,
in your pockets, in your tool kit
so that you can be the one
who has the secrets on getting
edge over a narcissist
in negotiations, in every category,
whether it's dealing with them in business,
in divorce, with your neighbor,
with your family, whatever it is.
Alright.
So five tactics to put a narcissist in their place.
This is sometimes the hardest thing
to start with because they hate
this and it's so hard for you
because this is the very first thing
that they make sure that you don't have.
They come in. They just take over.
It's like they rock your world
and the stars have aligned,
and it's almost like
this gas that's come in
and permeated every cell of your body
and in your nose and in your eyes
and in your breath and in your lungs
and when they come in,
they come in.
You know, that's what that
whole love bombing process is.
They're blowing up your phone.
They're blowing up your email
and they have to meet everybody in your world
and this is business or personal,
by the way
and it's “why wait”
and “let's get to the next level as soon as possible”
and if it's romantic,
it's you know,
moving in and it's meeting the family and
get married and you know,
the whole thing
and even if it's business,
it's “let's be business partners and let's sign contracts”
Whatever that next step is.
It's as quick as possible.
So it's no boundaries
and if it's family, it's the same thing.
No boundaries.
My husband and I have a narcissist,
in our family
and you know,
we've had to create really
strict boundaries and it's hard.
This is the hardest part
because they don't want it.
They want you to have boundaries.
They're super secretive
and they don't want you looking at their phone
and they don't wanna tell you things.
They don’t want you touching
their stuff.
But they definitely don't want you to create boundaries.
So this is the hardest thing.
But if you can create boundaries,
and you can draw those lines
and then keep those boundaries in place,
that is the best place to start.
As far as putting a narcissist in their place,
start with some boundaries.
Even if they're small,
just stop walking backward.
Stop retreating.
Start walking forward a little bit.
Stop retreating.
Start walking forward.
Keep those boundaries in place.
“Can't speak to me that way”
“I will have a conversation with you when you are calm”
That's a boundary.
“I will not be spoken to in a disrespectful manner”
That's a boundary.
“We'll have a conversation later.”
So create boundaries.
That's number one.
I was so guilty of this when I
was dealing with a
narcissistic business partner.
I would not call out my narcissistic
business partner a lot of times
when things weren't adding up.
I would see things
happening and I'd be like,
“You know, do I really wanna have this conversation?”
“It's uncomfortable”
“Does it really matter that much?”
I mean, you know,
these are the kinds of things I would say to myself.
Is it worth the conversation that I'm gonna have to have?
Is there a way around it?
Maybe I should just take care of it myself.
It's easier to just deal with it.
You know, like, these are the things
that I would end up doing.
That's not the best way to handle these things a lot of times.
Call them out when things aren't adding up.
So that's number two.
I have a whole video on that.
Stop defending yourself.
So that's number three tactic
to put a narcissist in their place.
and they do, they move goal posts all the time.
I have a whole video on
why narcissist move goal posts.
It's all about their
narcissistic supply and all of that.
You don't wanna deal with that.
But you know,
they do enjoy the process
of making you scrum
and manipulating you and all of that,
but definitely check out my video on this topic
and just put in the comments right now.
I am strong because you are you can get past this.
You are stronger than this.
You're so much stronger than you think you are.
You really are.
You're so much stronger than you think you are
and you're so much stronger than you think you are.
That's number four
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You gotta keep it secret.
You know, you're creating your stash of cash.
You're figuring out where it is
that you're gonna go.
What it is that you're gonna do?
What your leverage is it gonna be?
You’re creating an invisible fence with that,
you know, around them.
This is my SLAY methodology,
Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate what they're gonna do.
Stay two steps ahead of them.
Focus on you, your case, your position.
Whatever it is.
You being on the offensive.
That's what you're gonna do
and it works.
It always works.
I promise you that it does.
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They only win if you give in.
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So five tactics to put a narcissist in their place.
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