My ex-husband Jason is harassing me
and our 16-year-old daughter big time.
You follow, you stalk,
and people are done with your (beep) and so am I.
This is sad, Tina.
Because I live in his mom's house,
Jason actually installed surveillance cameras.
He's claiming that they're up because
he needs to keep an eye on what our daughter's doing.
It's insane.
So this is the problem.
In all fairness, 80, 20.
You say you're having to plug in
because she's not doing her job as a mother.
Correct.
I found out Tina was allowing an 18-year-old boy
to sleep in my daughter's room unsupervised.
As our daughter got older,
she started seeking a lot of male attention.
She also started smoking marijuana.
My ex-husband blames me for everything
that our daughter is doing.
So you defend your parenting.
For the most part.
I mean, I know I have errors.
You slapped your daughter.
Yes.
Why would you slap your daughter?
There was a struggle to get the phone.
Mom couldn't get the phone.
She invited me in to take the phone from her.
What he says is you push as much as you can
to try to get compliance.
And when you can't, then you call in the enforcer
and then you complain when he enforces.
'Cause of the way he does it.
So you get into a physical confrontation over a phone.
Were you raised by wolves?
What are you doing here?
What am I supposed to do? Turn it off.
She has the power to turn it off,
I don't have the account.
Well, God forbid you would communicate with each other.
I see you both running your own agenda,
and your daughter is paying the price for it.
Exactly.
So would you say that I should take the cameras down
and just leave them alone and not try to get help?
Well, let's set up a paper tiger and then tear it down.
Do you think I'm an idiot?
No, not at all.
There's a video that we made with you guys,
and this happens in front of your daughter.
Why is it that you can't own the hurt you've given her?
You haven't been around!
She's been around for every single thing in my life.
Where have you been?
Why is it that you can't own the hurt you've given her?
That's what I experience any time
I get involved with them; they both barrage me.
I'm speechless.
This is child abuse.
I get it.
You apparently don't.
No, I do.
Because what you should say after that is "Oh my God."
Let me tell you, when you fight in front of the kids,
research is very clear on this.
It changes who they are.
It changes their brains.
It's not something that has a beginning and an end.
It actually changes their brains,
and they are at risk for drug abuse,
they're at risk for suicide,
they're at risk for low academic achievement,
they're at risk for violent relationships in the future.
There's like 10 risk factors that they go way up
if you fight in front of children because
their self-esteem goes down,
and the most powerful role model in any child's life
is the same-sex parent.
And the second most powerful role model
is the other sex parent.
And so if they see them being combative like that,
then they model that behavior.
You guys need to understand something.
I've been doing this for 45 years,
and if you don't change what you're doing right now,
your daughter is going to wind up in jail,
or she's gonna wind up in a violent relationship
with some violent felon,
and she's gonna have her life ruined.
Because that's what she's learned.
And if you two don't stop what you're doing,
then you are sealing her fate.
And they're at risk for all of these things.
It's not just something when it's over, it's over.
It actually changes who they are
neurologically, psychologically, and behaviorally.
So if you fight in front of your kids, stop.
You shouldn't do that.
Take it outside, go somewhere else.
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