Hi there this is Clay and today I wanna talk about a really two levels of communication
and how this relates to communicating with your ex and really talking to them on that
first meetup.
So, you know, we talk about this inside the program, but I just wanted to really reiterate
this point so that you get this, but there's really two levels of communication, right?
There's like talking about things and stuff like, oh, how is your work?
How's the, how's the day to day?
What's the weather?
Like a stuff like that.
And then there's kind of this, this deeper level where it comes to your own emotions
and how you feel about something.
And a lot of times people will try to connect based on the surface level things, you know,
what they have in common with one another.
The sports though, I have to play the things I like to do in their free time.
The people that they know that whether the, the, the environment at work or something
like that, but they totally miss out on this deeper level.
That first level can work if there's a shared sense of camaraderie and all that, but you
can actually connect on someone in a much deeper level regardless of what your own individual
life experiences.
Maybe like a, you know, like if you're just like a regular person, but you go and you
meet some kind of rich guy or something like that who is like a really successful person
and has like absolutely nothing in common with you on the surface.
There are still ways that you can connect with that person and that's through that deeper
level, that level of emotional connection.
Because you see we may not all have the same career.
We may not all live in the same place.
We may not all have the same life experiences or the same hobbies.
But one thing that we do all have in common is that we all feel the same emotions, right?
And what you can do is you can connect based on those emotions.
So if it basically, most conversations started that surface level and then if you know what
you're doing, you can crack down beneath that surface level to the emotional content underneath
it.
And what you can do is you start a conversation like, okay, how are you doing, how's your
day?
How, how has that thing that happened the other day, and then they'll probably say something,
oh, it was fine, I was good, or whatever.
And here's the part we want to start taking some notes.
You can respond to that and take that to the deeper emotional level with two questions.
The first question is, what was that like?
And the second question was, how did that make you feel?
So, you know, how is the presentation you did last week?
Oh, it was pretty good.
Oh really?
What was that like?
Oh, I was really a little bit nervous beforehand.
But, you know, I spent a lot of time putting the slides together and practicing it.
So it actually went over pretty good and then all the sudden the conversation shifts, right?
Instead of talking about the presentation, you can talk instead about how you felt, right?
Like, moments in the past when you felt anxious before you did something, moments in the past
were you prepared really well for something and it went well.
And, and so on.
And you could, you could just relate to it that way.
Like, Oh yeah, I totally know what you mean.
I felt really anxious like that too.
The first time that I went skydiving, as we, as, as I was getting ready to jump out of
the airplane, I looked out of the door and I just saw just thousands and thousands of
feet of nothing below me.
And that's when it really hit me.
Oh my gosh, I'm going to jump out of this airplane and if this parachute on my back,
if something doesn't work there, then, I'm going to be in a little bit of trouble here.
And suddenly I felt really anxious.
And you see how that works, right?
Were we, the skydiving thing has absolutely nothing on the surface in common with the
presentation except for the emotional connection between the two.
Right?
Emotional connection of feeling anxious before you do something.
So, that's just one little tip for you to use a when it comes to talking to your ex
and really connecting with them on a deeper level.
You know, if you want to learn more of them, just go ahead and log into the program if
you're an existing member and check out the modules on acceptance and also the modules
on getting back together with your ex and having a great date with your ex and having
good interactions with them.
If you're not a member yet, just go ahead and sign up at relationshipinnergame.com or
just go ahead and reach out to us through the website and we'll tell you how to sign
up today.
Other than that, thanks for watching this video.
And again, if you want to learn more about how we can help you with your relationship,
head over to relationshipinnergame.com and sign up there.
Thanks.