- In this video,
I will share with you the seven things
that a high value woman never does with a man.
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what high value woman never does with a man.
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So without further ado,
I will just start with the tip number one.
She does not go against her values,
against her standards.
So for example,
let's say a guy approaches you at the nightclub, right?
And you feel really attracted to him
and he looks really good,
and he looks really successful,
and he's charming you,
and he's telling you you are the one,
and he's promising you the world and whatnot, right?
And he starts to like, manipulate you.
Kind of like,
"I'll take you on this holiday or that holiday."
"Have you been to Thailand?
We can go there next week," et cetera.
"But let's enjoy the moment right now.
You know, cause life is short.
So, come on over to mine."
So many naive women nowadays would behave like,
"Wow, he's so successful.
All the girls are looking at him.
He's so hot and he is coming after me.
And if I'm not gonna sleep with him right now,
I might actually lose him.
He can just simply go for someone else."
So in this case,
what a high value woman would never do,
she would never go to a guy's place
because for example,
her values and her standards
are not to have the one night stands
as it would be devaluating for her.
So when you have standards like that, ladies,
when you have values like that and you keep them,
and you say no to,
let's say, the best looking guy,
the hottest, the most successful guy on earth,
this is how you stand out to that guy.
Because majority of other women
all for his charms,
we get desperate.
We go like, "Oh wow, I'm so lucky,
this like diamond fell from the sky just for me.
I have to sleep with him,
and do some acrobatic moves in bed to impress him."
Right?
So a high value woman sticks to her value, to her standard,
doesn't give those values away
even if it's like literally the president charming her.
And the secret is
this is how she actually wins that guy.
By showing her values, by showing her respect,
and not giving them away for a guy.
Number two, what high value woman never does,
she does not control a guy.
So, what a lot of women do,
when we date guys that again, look good,
or are successful, you know,
we after a while we start to get insecure
because we start to see these other women pursuing men.
Because nowadays we live in a society
where women hit on men,
women pursue men,
women throw themselves at guys.
So the girls that dating the successful guys,
not only that we are insecure that the guy might cheat,
like approach some women,
but now we getting double insecure
because women are also seducing men,
women are pursuing men as well.
So when women don't get enough of attention
from the guy we are seeing for whichever reason, right?
A lot of times we get insecure
and we start to ask controlling questions.
So such as, "Where are you?"
"Who you with?"
"Why are you taking such a long time in the gym?"
And then, "Are you coming home?
You said you're gonna be home in 20 minutes,
you took an hour and a half, why is that?"
"Did you meet someone on a way?"
"Did you talk to somebody?"
All these suspicious questions make you look very insecure
and it makes you look like you don't trust him
and it also makes you look like
you're trying to control him.
So after a while,
he might actually start to feel a bit suffocated
and he'll start to see you as an insecure.
And once a guy starts to see you as an insecure,
his attraction for you drops.
And this is when he actually gets interested
in those other women that are approaching him
or he might himself,
will start to approach other women.
Number three, what high value women never do.
We don't pursue men.
We know their value and worth,
and we are attracted to masculine men.
Everybody knows that
if you will pursue a masculine man,
you will turn him off.
He's gonna lose interest.
Yes, he might use you for that moment,
or for couple of weeks,
or he may even get into a relationship with you for a year,
or half a year, or five years,
but he's not gonna fall for you
because you are being the leader.
You are leading him.
A masculine man complements a feminine woman.
You know, this is how the attraction happens.
If you going to lead a masculine man,
he is gonna feel like he's dating another man.
It's a turn off.
Number four, what high value women never do.
We don't worship guys.
We don't put them on a pedestal.
As I said it in my other videos,
it's also a sin, you can only worship God.
So if you're gonna start to worship your guy,
God will get jealous.
You know it's not gonna work out.
When you put guys on a pedestal
and when you start to like look at him like,
"Oh, you know, he's so hot."
You know, getting obsessed over him by texting and calling,
pursuing like having this kind of thing,
it's a turn off, ladies.
Don't create fantasies
about men that you don't even know.
I see this a lot with naive women.
We go on one date
and we create a fantasy about a guy,
you know, or a guy himself sells them a fantasy,
because he's a very good salesperson, right?
So he's like, "Look at me, I'm so hot,
I'm so charming, I'm so wealthy,
I'm so rich, I will take you on this holiday.
I'll buy you this house.
You won't have to work.
We'll just travel around the world." Right?
This is what guys say nowadays
because we know that this is a majority people's dream.
So a lot of women when glamorize these guys
and we put them high on a pedestal
even after the few days without even knowing them,
without knowing anything about them,
just like falling for this fantasy.
And yes, sometimes these fantasies are true,
but you don't know that for a fact.
You need to actually date a guy and get to know him
to know is it BS, or is it real,
or what is going on here.
So high value women
don't put men on a pedestal
and we don't worship them.
And we look at their reality,
we try to keep their emotions in check
and we try not to get clouded.
We stay realistic, we see logical,
we observe a guy's behavior, we observe his action.
And ladies, when you see the real person,
it's a human being.
You are not going to idolize a human being
because we are not perfect, you know?
And I'm not telling you to look for a perfect guy
because such man does not exist.
But when you look at a person
from a more realistic point of view,
you will just not idolize him.
You will not put him on a pedestal.
So I think this is like basically the biggest difference
between high value and girls that are naive.
Girls that are low value, as they say,
it's a fantasy that separates them.
Number five,
what high value women never do, they don't mother guys.
And I don't mean that we don't care about guys,
you know, like yes, of course.
Like if he cares about you,
if he sweeps you off your feet,
if he's nice, if he's giving, et cetera,
You are gonna care for him too.
It will just naturally happen, right?
However, by mothering,
I mean, don't be with him like he is your child.
Like for example, "Oh, make sure to have a safe trip."
"Don't forget to take these gloves when you go skiing."
"Don't forget with scarf."
"Did you brought your hat?"
"Do you have your packed lunch?"
You know, this is mothering,
like something you would say to a child.
I'm sure majority of us want to be with a grown up guy
who takes responsibility for himself,
and perhaps for you and for people around him,
who knows that he's a man, a mature man,
and he's not a child.
Mature man don't like to be treated like children.
You emasculate them when you treat them like children.
You become like his mom rather than his girlfriend,
rather than his other half.
He doesn't need you to go like,
"Oh, you're so cute and you're still handsome,
and I just wanna," you know, like, no. (chuckles)
This is like, this is yucky.
You know, like guys,
even when we like 10, we go like,
"Mommy, stop that, I'm cool now."
You know?
So why would you do it to 30, 40, 25 years old?
You know?
Number six, what high value women never do.
She does not seek a guy's attention
by creating drama.
So, if you are dating a high value guy,
he will be busy in life.
He will have his goals, he will have his dreams,
it's gonna be busy.
And sometimes you may not get that much attention.
Or perhaps sometimes he'll have his pull aways
where he wants to spend time with his friends,
or just have some time alone,
or just reflect on things or focus on his business,
or whatever else, right?
So in those moments,
if you don't have many things going on
and if you are really, really into the guy,
you might feel needy,
you might feel like you want more of his attention.
And then what a lot of low value or naive,
or silly immature girls do,
we try to get a guy's attention by creating drama.
By, for example,
starting to tell him that some guy approach her
somewhere on the street
and you flirted with her and he was hot.
Or you know, creating a drama in a restaurant,
where you're purposely flirt with the waiter.
Or you know, just kinda like looking for attention,
trying to make him jealous, trying to make a competition.
Just to have that moment of reassurance that he still cares.
Ladies, when you behave high value in a relationship,
there is no need for that.
You will get a lot of attention
'cause he's gonna be crazy about you.
If he is a smart high value man,
then you'll start to see these things.
It's gonna be a turnoff for him
because he'll start to see you as a drama queen.
And seeing all of this, ladies,
you need to learn to have some space
when he is not there giving you attention 24/7.
Like focus on your stuff.
You have a life,
you have your priorities,
you have your family and friends,
get some hobbies, get busy,
distract yourself.
Don't make it all about the guy
because if you will do that,
this is how you going to lose him.
And here comes the number seven.
She does not give up on her dreams for him.
So, what naive women do,
or low value as they say,
a lot of girls,
we try to impress a guy
by giving up on their dreams for him.
So, sometimes a guy says like,
"Oh, I don't like what you're doing."
"I want you to quit this job."
Or "I don't approve you going for these dreams."
Or "I don't approve you go doing this or that."
"I want you just to marry me
and just to like be there for me at all times."
So I actually know a real life story
which happened to one of my friends
a very, very long time ago.
She came from another country to London
and she got into a relationship,
and we started to live together.
And he told her,
"Look like I just want you to cook for me
and be there for me at all times and I'll take care of you."
She had a job,
she started to work part-time in our job.
When she stopped working in her job
and she was always at home cooking for her boyfriend
and just completely looking after him.
He started to take her for granted.
He started to cheat on her
and at the end he actually kicked her out.
He kicked her out of his house.
She had no money.
She actually was homeless,
for I think a week or something in London,
not knowing anybody, you know.
So ladies these things happen.
You have to be careful.
And I'm not saying that every guy is like that.
Definitely not.
This is an exception obviously.
This is just like,
I can't even describe,
his behavior is so horrible.
But my point is,
look for a guy that inspires you to be better
but wants you to be the best version of yourself.
Look for a guy, but if you have dreams,
he encourages you to go for those dreams.
He lifts you up because he is confident in himself
and he believes in you.
He encourages you to have your own kinda life,
or your own hobby, or do your own stuff,
because he knows that it's a part of his attraction
towards you too.
Because he knows that it will make you happy.
And when you are happy, he is gonna be happy.
'Cause life is gonna be easier to live with you.
People that have a passion in life,
people that have goals and dreams in life,
we naturally are more interesting to talk to,
and we are naturally more attractive.
And with the passion,
I don't mean like run a business, you know?
It can be anything.
Just make sure that the whole focus does not go on a guy
because this is when you step onto a very slippery road,
and this is when you get a chance to slip. (chuckles)
So ladies, these were my seven things
what higher value women never do.
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