so you failed a job interview now what in this video I'll talk to you about a
brand new way to view failure and how it can lead you to more confident self if
you fail in an interview before or recently or have been failing interviews
repeatedly and you're coming across as nervous this video is for you it's all
about how to think if you do happen to fail why failure is not a bad thing and
why it's really no big deal at all so stay tuned the number ones benefit of
failing the benefits of failing are endless let's talk about little kids for
example a useful example of failure is when they start to walk and they have so
many epic fails in the process so they're trying to get up and they're
just like grabbing things and they're trying to walk and it's just not fun
they are falling down eating crow hurting themselves sometimes every third
step but what's really interesting about this is that they are actually gaining
the strength to walk every time they fall because they don't actually have to
strength yet in their legs and they don't actually know what to do so by
lifting themselves up and by falling and getting back up that's how they're
getting the strength to actually walk and that's where their confidence
ultimately starts to develop if they stopped because they fell down and they
said oh I failed I can't walk the opportunity to get strong enough to be
able to walk so it can actually do it consistently that would never happen
they would never have the opportunity to do it if they quit right and that's what
we are doing we will fall down one or fall down twice or fall down three times
and just be like oh well I guess I can't walk and that's what we're doing in
interviews so if we fail one we're like oh I guess I'm just not cut out for this
or I guess I can't get the dream job that I want so what I'm offering you is
that it doesn't matter how many times you fail you will eventually get there
and that's what you need to be focusing on so the good news is is that
confidence is your willingness to fail for me for example I like to try new
things and I like to try to put myself out there in as many uncomfortable
situations as I can I might not want to but I know it's necessary for me to get
to my goal so I was trying to figure why I like to do this and it's because
I'm I've decided that I'm going to be willing to fail and when I'm willing to
fail in front of other people then I can get a result and then I can use that
result to move forward I remember that a the first time that I grabbed a
microphone and I actually sang in front of the entire school I was shaking I was
super terrified and it would have been considered a epic fail because I did not
win the contest I stumbled across a couple of words I forgot them but since
I did that at a really young age failing wasn't such a big deal to me anymore
I did it I realized I didn't die I still got a lot of positive feedback and
that's my failure isn't the concept that you think it is we talk about it like
it's a bad thing but it's not like you just failed a math test failure is
something that you have to consider as part of your life you want to include it
it's not something to avoid it's something to do on purpose and get very
good at doing it if I feel confident about my ability to fail you can see how
I'm probably going to do new things that are scary I'm gonna put myself out there
more and I'd probably be more successful in the end because I was willing to fail
maybe sometimes I even knew I was gonna fail but I did it anyway I will continue
to succeed and stretch myself to see what's really gonna be possible for me
through my failures reframing failure so I have several students frame failure in
a few different ways so for example believing in our own capability to learn
instead of using the word failure we can use the word learning or experimenting
or experiencing the second way we can think of it failure is the road to
success if you failed you are on the right track you may have heard the quote
before by Thomas Edison regarding the light bulb he says no I didn't fail a
thousand times I learned a thousand things that didn't work so that's how we
can look at our own failures quote unquote failures as learning experiences
of experiments as lessons as a step in the right direction
another quote I really like is you are one failure away from your goal because
every success is built on a pile of failures
seeing failure as okay we didn't our expectation we just didn't take the
correct action so we just need to adjust that and change it until we do meet our
expectation until we figure out what the correct action is so when we think about
the word failure think about it in a new positive way think about it in the way
of something that we want to move forward towards instead of something
that we want to move away from and avoid practicing failure so failure is a skill
that we developed if we are good at falling down
we're actually learned how to fall down really well and then when we're gonna
have the confidence to get up easily and keep going so when I think of this I
think of skiing when I was learning how to ski I would fall down lock and at
first I avoided it and then I kind of didn't mind it cuz it wasn't a big deal
right just get back up keep going so for example what if your goal was to fail
five times then what if you just failed five times when you did something that
didn't work in a job interview for example or at work you didn't do the
normal thing and just get really disappointed or regretful or angry or
have those feelings that weren't serving you but instead you skipped all that and
we're like okay failure number one I can put that in my notes now I can take that
lesson let's move forward I'm still focused on my goal I'm still gonna do
this so it's a whole new perspective it's like fail one fall down more
failures to go no worry when I started doing this I had so much more confidence
when I tried something new because I knew that the worst that could happen
was I ultimately fail and that was fine because I knew I was gonna keep going so
the worst thing beyond that is how I would feel about my quote unquote
failure but what I decided to make it mean so I know that I'm not gonna make
it mean anything negative about myself or anything negative in general I'm just
gonna make it mean hey I failed three times got two more to go it's really up
to me and up to you how you define it so now I'm excited anticipated and take
that failure as momentum to move forward because of the willingness that I have
now to simply fail if you want to get super prepared for your next interview
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