- Who you are today is not at all
who you are going to become.
Your narrative does not have to be a life sentence.
You can change your narrative
and change who you are at any time at all.
So why are so many of us scared
and afraid to challenge our norms?
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I see so many clients who live by a narrative.
"Well I'm the baby of the family.
No one expects anything of me."
"I didn't come from money so I can't create it."
"I didn't have a private education."
"There were no books in our house."
Many people say that we didn't even have books
and so I grew up and I wasn't educated enough.
And I tell the what I'm going to tell you,
your life today right now is not your life.
That is your life today.
And your life today is nothing to do
with your life in the future.
So your potential expands as you move towards it.
And as you move towards a new potential, it never goes back.
Once you move your mind to a new dimension
it cannot or will not, does not ever go back again.
And so when I was growing up I didn't think I was clever.
I certainly didn't think I was attractive.
In fact, I thought I had nothing to offer the world
and I decided I'd do something very uneventful
but luckily my own grandmother challenged me.
She was the only person who really believed in me.
And I always feel so blessed that I had her.
And then I became a therapist and I love being a therapist.
And I would've just stayed being a therapist
probably until I was 95 until my husband said look,
you have so much to offer the world.
You've got to teach this.
I'd already written books.
And then I had an agent who said,
"You need to write more books.
People love your message."
And like me, they love my message?
And suddenly I look at my life.
I look at where I was,
this insecure kid who thought I was hideous
and stupid to this woman who has an amazing life.
I see clients, I write books.
I teach my own method all over the world.
I speak on TV, I speak on stages,
I have a YouTube presence.
And it's really hard to reconcile who I am with who I was.
But that's what you have to do.
Who you are, the ugly duckling,
the person who thinks they're a freak.
The eldest, the youngest.
The one who says, "Well I'm not smart.
My teacher said you will never amount to anything."
So many people were told you'll never amount to anything.
John Lennon was told you are on the road to nowhere.
Damien Hurst, financially the most successful artist
in the world got a fail at art.
And you look at many people in life who've done so well
who weren't predicted to do well.
And other people who were really bright at school,
predicted to do everything and just kind of didn't do it
because 80% of your success, 80% is down to mindset.
Not education, not what you look like,
not where you've come from, mindset.
It's never too late to learn, grow, expand, and be amazing.
Some of the best writers in the world
had no training being a writer but they had an idea.
Rather like JK Rowling and wrote something compelling
that actually made children all over the world love reading.
So that's a wonderful thing.
I worked with an amazing man on my course whose parents
put him on the street when he was just a boy,
I think about 10, could have been 12.
When I asked him how, when did he go back?
He went, "No, I never went back.
They didn't take me back.
They abandoned me on the street and I became a drug addict
because it's the only way I could cope."
And he is one of the people I trained.
He's a phenomenal therapist.
And he works a lot with addicts
because he has a great understanding.
He was on the streets.
He was a drug addict.
He got himself clean.
He was already doing counseling.
He came to train with me and he used his great understanding
of what addiction means to help people.
If you would like to change your own narrative
and have a career that is amazing,
that gives you meaning, connections, significance,
working your own hours, click the link below,
and find out how you can train in what I think
is the very best job in the whole world.
Becoming an RTT therapist where you don't just get
to change other people's lives.
Without question, you get to change your own.