GAYNOR: I didn’t want to get married again.
I didn’t want anyone living with me. I wanted to just enjoy being me and being free.
GAYNOR: I really enjoyed being…I nearly
said “young, free and single”, but actually that’s a lie. Um…slightly older, free
and single. And I’ve had a great time in the last five or six years; it’s been really
fab, and an unexpected pleasure to find myself out there doing what I like to do without
anybody telling me that I can’t.
COMM: After two marriages glamorous grandmother
Gaynor Evans is now devoted to having fun, and has a string of younger men on the go.
GAYNOR: I always like to keep a little flow
going. So I am always, you know, I Tinder and Toyboy Warehouse, so I’ve spoken to
two new ones this week, but it’s been one of those weeks, I have had loads of old ones
come out of the woodwork. I mean I’m one of these people who obviously stick in people’s
minds. I have had no less than four people that I haven’t spoken to in months suddenly
text to see how I am, and was I free to go out for drinks.
AMANDA: Men are just instinctively attracted
to Gaynor because I think she has got that sense of fun, she is really approachable,
she makes time for people.
GAYNOR: This is my friend Rob who is really
gorgeous but unfortunately he is wearing a jumper tonight. So I am gonna see if
we can get him to take his jumper off.
GAYNOR: He has gotten even bigger. And you had these…Oh my god.
COMM: The 56 year old has met with some disapproval
including mixed reactions from her two daughters.
GAYNOR: At first it was quite tricky. I was
out with my daughters. I had a daughter that said, “Look, don’t worry about it, you
know, enjoy yourself mum because you’ve had a really tough time, and you know, you
need to enjoy life, you know.” And the other one was like, “I don’t think you should
be doing things. And what were you doing chatting to that young man?”
LAURA: I didn’t like it when my mum first
started going out with toyboys, and I didn’t want her to sort of be made a fool out of,
and also, you know, embarrass herself, but over the years I have got used to it because
I have had to and because it makes her happy.
COMM: After her second marriage ended, Gaynor
knew she needed a change.
GAYNOR: I think my marriages must have impacted
on me. I think they made me stronger. I will not now tolerate being spoken to rudely. Suddenly
“oh my god, you are on your own”. And it could have gone two ways. I was pretty
unhappy but I am a bit of a fighter so I thought, “No, sod all this, I am just gonna have
to reinvent myself”, and I did.
COMM: Going out with her daughters, Gaynor
found herself talking to younger men.
GAYNOR: After a number of approaches, me thinking that they were
just trying to help the aged across the road and you know better speak to the
old dear in the corner, which was my perception. They are just being polite because obviously
I am here with all these younger girls. They are just being nice to me. Actually they weren’t
because in the end I realised they were serious. The sexual benefits are really obvious because
younger men have got stamina, drive, enthusiasm, are able to repeat perform. Older women can
offer great sexual experience and good, really good company but this is how it should work
in my opinion, and they are not gonna smother you with demands and requests because they
are self-empowered. They are a little bit in awe of you actually. They give it lot of
good “wait till I meet you”, you know, “I am gonna do this and do that”, and
then they are like little lambs when you meet them.
COMM: But she appreciates that there are downsides too.
GAYNOR: I have got attached to about two or
three in the last five or six years, one of them particularly badly, and we’ve struggled.
He struggled and I’ve struggled with it because we couldn’t do anything with it.
With the age gaps I am talking about, 30 years, 25 years, something like that, there is no
future long term, I’m realistic. You might borrow them for a little while but you are
not realistically keep hold of them in the real world. It can get on your nerves if they
keep getting these bloody same age girlfriends you think, “ oh, I haven’t had enough
of you yet, come back,” you know, it’s annoying. These boys don’t intentionally
hurt you. And you have to keep your feet on the ground even if you’ve got your legs
in the air. But you have to be real about it.
GAYNOR: It’s such good fun, why would I
want to settle down? Who wants to settle down? Done that, been there, done that. Maybe this
life suits me better, maybe I am bit of a free spirit. I think probably that’s the truth.