hi friends i hope you are doing well um lately i've been struggling a lot with social anxiety
to the point where it's been really hindering my everyday life but it also made me reflect
on my depression and the fact that i'm still sad sometimes but i'm not depressed anymore
and the tips and the changes i've made in my life that allowed me to completely heal from
my depression and i really wanted to share them with you i thought i'd tell you a little bit about
my backstory first if you want to just skip to the tips i'll leave timestamps so you can just skip to
the part you want to hear about i've started being depressed very very early probably at the age of
five around my parents divorce and i was diagnosed with clinical depression in my teenage years
and i got medication for anxiety insomnia and depression despite seeing many therapists and
being on several kinds of medication and trying other kinds of medication
nothing really helped and i just felt worse and worse obviously medication didn't help and i'll
also touch on that a little bit later because i don't think medication is the right answer anymore
i moved to france when i was 18 and i finally started living on my own terms and i know there
are so many ways now that you can heal depression so i'll tell you all my favorite tips the first
key thing that i think is really important in your journey to healing is completely understanding
that depression isn't your fault i really want to tell you this because i think it's very common
at least in my experience that family and friends sort of blame you for your depression i think most
people don't mean any harm but anytime someone expresses frustration that you're depressed
or even the fact that they're being tired of you being depressed which is a very negative
circle that i think can happen in families or when you live with someone who's depressed
it can really hurt the person who's depressed negatively but they obviously shouldn't express
this and it's really important that you don't take it to heart because depression is not your fault
and that is really important to understand for you to heal and also for you to feel better and
be empowered over your own health one day the second thing that i think there's a lot
of confusion about and a lot of stigma talking about but that is that medication does not heal
depression many people have asked me for advice on medication and i used to say that i didn't know if
medication helped me or not so honestly i couldn't say anything about it but now truly being on the
other side of depression i can honestly say that medication should not be encouraged some of the
side effects of anti-depression medication is depression suicide self-harm anxiety
there are so many reasons to not be on medication and i think an even bigger issue than the
medication itself is that the premise on which the medication is given or prescribed is faulty
antidepressants are serious drugs with really really serious side effects yet they are being
giving out as it was free candy this is because antidepressants aren't given to people to heal
from their depression antidepressants are given to people so they can go back into society
and function pretty much as slaves in our current capitalist system now if you think this sounds
severe i think you should truly truly before you react first look at our capitalist lifestyle the
history of the schooling system and the history of working when i was prescribed antidepressants i
truly felt like i had no other option i felt like this was my last lifeline or my last thing to try
but the crazy thing was that i had a thousand different things that i could try
but the no doctors none of the therapists not even my parents no one told me about these options so
of course it was very difficult for me and it took me many years to be able to find these
tips or ideas or lifestyle changes myself my personal experience with medication was a very
long journey i took medication for several several years my the final drug i was on was prozac i was
on the highest dose that was allowed in sweden the american dose is higher crazy enough and
one day i had to go to the doctor to get some blood checked and if they found out the prozac
was damaging my liver now instead of taking me off this medication or talking about other ways
to heal my depression the doctors just lowered my dose and i think this is just symptomatic of how
medication are being given to people especially young people who are maybe not necessarily
completely in charge of their health what we want is to heal from depression and to feel truly happy
and there are so many better natural alternatives to antidepressants and that brings me on to the
next point number three and this is one of my favorite points because it's so mind-blowing
and that is the magic word sulforaphane if you believe in science if you believe in health or
if you believe in healing you should try sulfur fame you don't even have to be depressed to try it
there is so much science on sulforaphane i'll leave some links in the description down below and
i hope you check them out sulforaphane is truly amazing it's been proven to help with depression
it's also been proven to help with autism and i am really passionate about sulforaphane because
you can grow it at home is not a supplement you just need to eat a little bit of it and it's
super cheap and easy to make furthermore it's very effective at protecting you against cancer
so this is something everyone should add to their diet whether you're depressed or not the easiest
and cheapest way to consume sulforaphane is to buy some organic broccoli seeds sprinkle them in
a little tray with some wet paper or a little bit of soil and then just let them grow for a
few days before you consume them my fourth tip for healing depression is looking at the root cause in
our modern society and in our capitalist society there is a lack of focus on nuanced conversation
that still has sinful results what i mean by this is that there's often a reason for depression or
several reasons but the problem is that the doctors do you see the therapists you see
and the society around you they don't really care about these causes they just want to fix
the problem now i think it's way more beneficial for you and your future happiness
to ask yourself why you're sad we want to heal completely right so just as how you're trying to
heal from a disease not by taking painkillers but trying to figure out the root cause we want to do
this with our depression and our mental well-being too how i started this was by slowly starting to
look at anything that triggered my depression or anxiety or anything that made me feel worse
and i slowly started to see which of these triggers or problems that i could change or fix
or change my feelings towards i started by healing my eating disorder i completely stopped
exercising for i think five years and allowed myself to eat absolutely anything i wanted
i stopped self-harming by making a sort of pact with my therapist and also by starting to
draw butterflies on my arms i stopped talking to certain people i stopped doing certain activities
i stopped reading the news for example and another pivotal point was becoming vegetarian
and then also vegan which also really helped my eating disorder lots and lots and so many other
things that slowly but surely made me feel a lot better and the reason i'm emphasizing this so much
is because it's so so important to completely heal from your depression i think that there has to be
a certain realization or awakening within you the truth is that our society is a recipe for
depression we live disconnected from other people disconnected from ourselves we are working for
huge corporations instead of spending time in nature even in developed societies we no longer
have access to clean produce or water and we live in toxic homes and we really have to understand
that all of these things do contribute negatively towards our health it's a lot more difficult to
be happy if you are constantly sick it's a lot more difficult to be happy if you're constantly
working i do believe this is a very big topic and i will talk about it in a future video too
the fifth point for healing your depression is to realize that you have to heal yourself
it is not your fault that you're depressed however it is completely your responsibility
to heal yourself it's not the responsibility of a therapist or a partner or even a pet
that is in fact very selfish and we really need to make sure that we heal our depression ourselves
so that we then can be with other people and beings in the world so you have to actively
take responsibility to heal yourself i just want to make a side note that if you're under 18 this
can be very very difficult and all i can say is do your best and when you become 18 or when you can
move away from your home i think there'll be many more possibilities to do this a key point that
shifted my depression and something that most of my friends seem to never ever do is to stop doing
things that don't bring you joy apparently this is a controversial statement anytime
i say something like this anytime my husband says something like this in one of his videos
there's always someone who says you can't always be happy or you're gonna have to do
things that make you unhappy or you're gonna have to do things that you don't want to do
now i have two responses to this one of the responses is that i would like to live and i
believe it's completely possible in a world where my mental state doesn't mind doing things that
might be useful but not be fun now the second point is that our lives are extremely short
everything is impermanent and to believe that we should do things that doesn't make us happy
in this very very short time we have here for absolutely no valid reason is frankly ridiculous
some of the things i stopped doing was drinking alcohol going to parties eating meat
later on doing drugs stopped doing these things changing jobs when i didn't like them and trying
to find a job that i liked and or a job that at least i could do in the meantime
and all these things really really helped my well-being and just important to say here when
we're searching for happiness is we shouldn't harm ourselves but we should also not harm others with
our actions number seven is change your physical surroundings again i might have the same naysayers
here who believe that we can't just change her surroundings to feel better but i think you can
absolutely do that i'm not saying that that will completely heal your depression but i am
sure it will change things in our western society and i think especially in the us
people are told that they need to work hard and that they pretty much need to be in pain
to reach success and that they don't deserve to just live a happy easy effortless life
people tend to stay in situations which aren't making them happy but i think you should change
these situations and change your circumstances and physical surroundings one of my favorite
examples about this is the tibetan monks and their story now the tibetan monks are some of the most
highly realized meditation masters in the world when tibet was invaded by china a lot of these
monks were captured and tortured these monks tell stories about how they tried to meditate during
the torture to evoke compassion towards their torture and a lot of them tell stories of how they
found happiness in captivation however when the door was opened and they were allowed to be let go
they didn't stay there although they had enough mental capacity to be happy even in the worst
circumstances when they were allowed to freely leave they did so and i think this is such an
important lesson because i think we're being told to stay in relationships where our partner is not
making us happy i think we are being told to talk to people like our parents even if they're harming
us but i think it's really important to realize that even if you attain complete enlightenment and
freedom of suffering in your mental well-being in your mental state it's really important to still
be aware that if something is not serving you it's time to let go and it's time to leave that
situation so this is my favorite story and i hope it can benefit you too now after we've changed our
physical surroundings it's time to start working on the mental experience i think this should be
done after the physical surroundings because i think this one is a lot harder i said before that
to truly heal from depression we need to find some sort of awakening within ourselves to realize that
what we do is empty or fake this is important so that we don't go from one belief to another
again this is a big topic i'll talk about this more on my other channel a spiritual saga
but there's this difference between the conceptual reality and the absolute reality or the absolute
truth now the conceptual reality is where most of us live that's where everything exists money being
pretty being ugly good bad any kind of concept you can think of all these things are just concept
but if you would close your eyes or if you would just be in this present moment these things would
no longer be true for example i conceptually know that my dad is in sweden however i don't
know that to be absolutely true all i know is my present experience that's all i can say i know
so i can't know that my dad is in sweden i could call him and then he would be in my experience
through technology but i can't be with him and i sit here in this room in new zealand and i have
no way of knowing that he is alive that he's in sweden that he is thriving i have these are all
conceptual ideas so here we have the difference of the conceptual versus objective or the absolute
truth again this is a spiritual journey but i think it's an important journey to go on to
truly heal depression number nine is that we need to heal our depression without drama to
heal our depression in some ways we need to heal the entire world holistic healing shouldn't mean
crazy supplements and beliefs scientific healing shouldn't mean hardcore drugs or invasive surgery
but in our very crazy mad world they do this is another reason why we need to be able to discern
and learn what is real and what is not real i have a list of very practical tips that i find very
helpful so i'll put that on the screen so you can save that for later the last tip is that healing
depression means changing depression means that something currently in your life and in your mind
is not good so in order to heal our depression we need to change our life change is not necessarily
comfortable or easy and not everyone around you will be comfortable either with you changing but i
highly encourage you to go for it and change and improve so you can feel better because we're
talking about life and death here people seem to be so careful and cautious when they talk
about depression but when we try to actually do something about it they don't seem to be on board
because then we're changing we're changing our ideas we're letting go of our beliefs
and then we become a threat to their conceptual reality but this is about life and death and i
think everyone has to realize that depression is really a question and a matter of life and death
so we need to treat it that seriously radical change is absolutely necessary and i'm fine
making uncomfortable changes to survive thank you so so much for watching this video was
way longer than i anticipated but i really hope you can find it beneficial i think the
depression topic is a lot more nuanced than people tend to make of it so i really wanted to put all
my points in there and i really do believe that you can heal from your depression and i really
really hope that you do i want to say thank you so much for watching and commenting and liking it
really means the world to me and every time one of you share your stories it just makes me so
motivated that i'm gonna cry to keep doing these videos and it really makes me very very happy so
thank you so much for watching again and i'll see you next week with a new video bye
you