Do you think she's uncomfortable or happy?
I don't think she's ever been happy.
She's so beautiful!
Oooo!
Do you ever just get that feeling
and you have to do it?
What?
Like you love her so much
you have to just scream?
No.
I felt that way about you.
Aww.
'Cause you were mad at me?
No, 'cause I loved you.
...I loved you.
[Gaby laughing]
You have felt you loved me
so much that you have to go
"Oooo!"
Yeah.
Anway, we have an
[singing] international question,
[singing] international question!
Anonymous, Indonesia.
How do you change a relationship
from monogamous to polyamorous?
I wish someone knew anything about that.
How does anyone know how to do that?
[Gaby clears throat]
It's much easier if you are polyamorous
and date other polyamorous people.
Thank you!
I have been telling her that for years!
Has she listened, ever?
Twice, I've listened.
Do both people want to be polyamorous?
No, she hasn't brought it up yet
to her boyfriend.
Yeah, so she's pitching it.
I have a question to Gaby.
Do you think that secretly---
Ask me and I'll tell her.
Do you think that secretly
every person wants to be polyamorous?
[Alison repeats the question]
Igor, California.
I don't think that---
I don't.
Because some people are germaphobic,
some people are very nervous
about being left and they don't...
Some people are not built for it.
You're not built for it, I don't think.
I think I'd like to be built for it.
But I'm not.
I think there is a very big difference
between being open
in the sense of allowing one night stands
and then having full blown relationships
with other people.
Yes. That is a big difference.
Yeah, polyamory and open relationships
have a lot of...
There's a sliding scale.
There's levels.
People who are open
but they only bring other people
into the bedroom.
Or people who are open but it's--
What do you mean?
When both people are there
they bring in another person?
Yeah, like a threesome.
Or foursome.
Fivesome.
Or fivesome.
A sixsome.
Okay, I have one more question---
At that point it's an orgy!
That's our next question:
"At what point is it an orgy?"
We're gonna do an act-out
where first I am Gaby's girlfriend--
Oh! It's happening!
Therese.
We've been together
a year and a half.
We have never broached the topic
of polyamory.
Begin.
Therese---
Where's the milk?
You said you'd get some.
I didn't do that
because I've been thinking hard all day.
About what?
Getting me milk?
No.
I want almond milk!
I have a sensitive tummy!
I was wondering if you...
what level of, uh...
How committed are you to monogamy?
Very.
Okay.
We have to break up.
I'll ruin your career!
Why?
I'm a celesbian reporter.
Wait, wait, I'm dying to know:
Did she end up getting the milk?
You just dump the person
if they're not open to it?
I'm not going to talk you into
something you don't want to do.
That's not nice.
So you think that
if you have any inklings of like,
"Maybe I want to try to be polyamorous,"
and your current partner doesn't
you should just immediately break up?
No! But if they're that...
I mean I was projecting
you onto Therese a little bit.
But, maybe...
We're nothing alike.
You think, opening line,
"How committed are you to monogamy?"
You are---what's your fake name?
My name is Josh.
That's always my fake name.
Yeah, 'cause it's like
what's it feel like to be an American?
How long have you guys been together?
We've been together for...nine months.
Josh is kind of blurry on the details.
Why is it so short?
It should be longer.
Longer?
It should be like five years,
make it hard, you know?
Wow, okay.
I'll try and imagine five years.
We gotta get rid of some of this milk.
Our fridge is full of milk,
there's no room for meats.
Josh, I wanted to talk to you.
Okay, yeah.
How committed are you to monogamy?
I'm mostly committed.
Okay.
I feel pretty committed.
It's been five years.
I don't know.
We seem to have sex
and then wonder why.
But it's been five years.
What?
I'm sorry, just a quick pause.
You seem to have sex and then wonder why?
So I was wondering if we could
discuss some aspects of non-monogamy
such as brining other people
into the relationship,
maybe going to sex parties.
Not even doing anything,
but just watching people have sex.
Whoa.
Why is this a "whoa"?
Well, I'm just interested,
what is a sex party?
Just so the viewers know,
in Josh's cabinet
is seven DVDs called "Sex Party" 1-7,
so he's just pretending not to know.
So there are levels to non-monogamy
that aren't just us going off
and sleeping with other people.
You know, I would be interested
if you wanted to bring someone home
or if you wanted to go out
and have sex with someone
and then come back and tell me about it.
Where we're still connected,
and we're still together,
and the outside stuff is about us, still.
Do you...love me, still?
Yes!
And--
Mommy! Daddy!
Oh, god!
I'm having a scary nightmare
that there's gonna be other people
sleeping in our house.
Oh my god.
Okay. Well, we don't bring people home,
because we have a child.
Okay, so we'll get hotel rooms
or something.
Yeah, yeah.
I wet myself!
You're eight!
You know, we should first talk
about our child
who keeps wetting the bed.
Do we have a chaotic household?
I'm concerned that like
maybe there is some sort of trauma
happening to the child.
I found DVDs in Daddy's closet.
What's a sex party?
End scene.
Do we think they stay together?
Do you think it's appropriate
to now name this an educational channel?
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