By the end of this video,
you're gonna know exactly what you should do
if that narcissist cheats on you.
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So, what do you do if a narcissist cheats on you?
I know you want to, I know you want to go,
“Hey, loser, I know all about you. I know what you are”.
But let me tell you something,
narcissists are prone to what I call
the three deadly sins of a relationship
abuse, addiction and adultery, the 3 A's,
they do these things and
I call the three A’s, the three deadly sins of a relationship,
because those are the things that are owed,
they rode the very base of a relationship,
the very integrity of a relationship and
narcissists are prone to these things and
obviously cheating is one of them,
but don't confront them right away
because this could potentially be your leverage.
Cheating is something that you could potentially use in one of these situations.
So, do not confront them right away and
S.L.A.Y is my methodology for winning in a negotiation,
strategy, leverage, anticipating and focusing on you.
So, be careful, alright?
So, don't confront them right away, that's number one.
Because you want to know what they’re doing.
So just observe, this is your opportunity
to figure out what's actually going on.
Hang on. This is your opportunity to see.
Do we have information on the bills?
Do we have information on the phones?
We have information that you can observe pictures, video.
That sort of thing. So don't let them know first gather information.
I mean depending on how much money you want to
throw at this thing, how much money you have?
Don't go into debt for that but if you have the money to throw at it
then you might want to consider hiring a private investigator.
Here's what I'm going to tell you about this.
I'm going to dispel a myth for you right now.
Many people think that there's this whole no-fault thing out there, right?
Just means you don't have to prove fault in order to get a divorce.
It doesn't mean that fault never matters.
It means that years ago you had to prove fault in order to get a divorce,
you had to prove grounds, you had to prove that the adultery was
happening in order to even get out of a marriage.
Now, you don't have to prove those things anymore.
You just have to say that the marriage is irretrievably broken
or whatever you proved so or whatever you say in your particular state.
Irreconcilable differences, or whatever it is.
Doesn't mean that fault never matters.
It means that there are times that fault,
sometimes can matter and by the way,
you might want to check out my video with Judge Lynn Toler
on beating narcissist in divorce court where we talk a little bit more about some of this
paramore's, third parties,
that can be considered waste and dissipation of marital or community property.
So that's why you want to have information about,
how much money was being spent on this third party.
I've had situations, where I've seen a guy who spent for many years house for this third party,
had a child with this third party.
Spending private school on the child,
had the third party mistress on the payroll from his company.
This went on for like 15 years.
Serious amounts of cash being spent on this third party
half of which the wife was entitled to
because it was considered marital waste and dissipation of funds.
So, depending on your state,
that could be something that you could potentially get.
Alimony could be something that could be considered around
that in Florida, Adultery is actually listed in the alimony statue.
I've never actually seen any judge given alimony award based on that but hey,
and judges don't like liars.
So if they think that a person is a cheater and a liar,
then that could potentially be relevant.
So that's something that you might want to think about
when you're getting ready to try to beat them in court
and if you are so ready to beat them,
give me a beat them in the comments.
if they were bringing the kids to this paramore's house
and leaving them on the sofa while they went into the bedroom,
you know, maybe not so great for the kids,
introducing them to the girlfriend,
you know, saying things that were inappropriate,
maybe the girlfriend or boyfriend isn't in the best line of work.
I mean, I've seen situations where,
you know, the new boyfriend was,
you know, an ex-con or something like that.
all these sorts of things.
So it could matter in a custody situation as well.
So, when this narcissist potentially cheats on you,
these are all the things that you may want to consider.
You may want to think about.
So that's why you don't want to necessarily confront them right away.
You want to gather your evidence, gather your information,
confirm the information,
gather as much information as you can against them
because it will be part of your strategy.
It will be part of your leverage down the road
and then you want to definitely consider
how you want to use it when you go forward with your case
with your negotiations and when you are getting ready to negotiate
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