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Hey, what’s up everybody.
This is Stephan Labossiere
aka StephanSpeaks.
Today I'm going to answer the question
or I'm going to explain to you
the three reasons why men lie to women.
Now, I know a lot of women out there
have experienced deceit,
a lack of transparency,
and downright frustrating situations with
men because
of their unwillingness to be more
open and honest.
It’s led to a lot of women asking the question,
why? Why do these men struggle
with being more honest
in theses situation and just telling the truth?
Now, let me first make the argument
that lying
is not just a man issue.
People are lying in general.
People are struggling with
being more honest
and being more open.
However,
I’m going to discuss the men today.
I'm going to
use these reasons and apply them to them,
but they can be applied to both men
and women in a lot of situations.
With that said, let’s get to reason number one
and that is,
he can’t get what he wants
if he tells you the truth.
The reality is that,
if a man felt like
he could be honest
and still gets what he desired
then he would be honest.
To give a perfect example,
let's use a scenario where
women will say,
“If a man would just be honest about
his sexual intentions upfront,
she may be willing to do that
and everything can go smoothly.”
That’s not the way it plays out.
In reality
so many men have actually
tried that and have failed miserably.
Now, whether it’s right or wrong
that even he should be trying
to approach a woman
just with sexual intentions.
That's a whole different video,
a whole different discussion,
but the point is that.
Men have seen
that when they are very upfront
about their sexual desires,
it doesn't get them anywhere.
Yes, there maybe some situations
here and there that play out in their favor,
but for the most part,
it doesn't go that way.
For that reason,
men will lie.
Men will take the alternate route
to get or detour essentially
to get to the outcome they desire with that woman.
Again, I'm not saying it's right or wrong,
I'm simply explaining the motivation
behind why
that man is lying to you.
Now, number two
is because
you keep believing the lies.
Listen, the reality is this
as a woman you have
intuition
and your intuition is
telling you somethings wrong.
Your intuition
is picking up on
a lot of the inconsistencies
and the red flags that exist
with that man and dating him.
However,
when he gives you his story,
when he feeds you his lies,
you believe it.
Because you want so badly to hold onto situation.
You want to give him the benefit of doubt
despite you knowing deep inside
that this may lead into trouble.
You have to stop shooting yourself
in the foot.
He's going to keep lying to you
if you're going to keep accepting it.
If you're going to keep buying into it,
he has no reason to come clean and be honest,
so understand the role you
play in stopping the lies.
Granted, you don't
always know it's a lie,
so I'm not knocking you for that,
in any kind of way.
None of this is is to knock you,
it’s to help you, and encourage you,
but when you do sense a lie
or when you do sense a discrepancy
address it.
Address it in a calm, loving manner
because attacking somebody
isn’t going to get you anywhere,
and isn’t going to make them be more forthcoming.
Be calm, be cool,
address the issue,
but again,
trust your intuition at the end of the day
because it doesn't lead you wrong.
It's a blessing.
Embrace it.
Now, the third reason why
men continue to lie to women
is because that man lacks
maturity and he's selfish.
Now, again,
this is what people do in general,
but we’re talking about men.
The reality is that to tell a lie
is a very selfish act.
We try to cover it up
with a bunch of
white lie validation
or I'm telling them this lie to save them.
In reality that individual’s trying to save themselves.
The reason why is important for you to understand it
is because many times,
you're internalizing
his deceit.
You're questioning why he chooses
to lie to you when his lie isn't about you.
It’s about him.
It’s about his selfish desires,
it’s about his unwillingness
to face the undesired
outcome in that situation.
It’s about his unwillingness
to have to deal with any kind of confrontation
that may come from him
being more honest.
He has some deeper issues
so he struggles with
honesty.
That's all it is.
Don't take it upon yourself
or don't internalize it to now question
your own self-worth
and value
because this man
or many men
have lied to you.
The reality is that many men
are lacking maturity.
Many men
are selfish but again,
many people
are struggling with these things.
Those are three reasons but before you go
let me tell you, I have a fourth reason.
To find out what that fourth reason is,
I want you to get this book,
He’s lying sis.
It is my best-selling book.
It is flying off the shelves.
It's breaking down various
situations - very specific situations -
where men tend to lie
or where men maybe lying.
It helps you understand how to decipher it,
how to handle it,
and how to increase your chances
of not having
an environment where lies are constantly being
told in your relationship
because yes, there’s role that we can play
in either increasing the honesty and openness,
or
or making it drama-filled
and filled with lies,
over and over again.
Get your copy.
Once again,
He's lying sis.
You can click the link in the description
or on the comments section.
You're going to love it.
Women are
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The reviews are coming in
and they're amazing.
Again, ultimately though,
the one thing I will leave you with once again.
It's a repeat of what I said earlier
but I feel like it's the most important
thing for you to take away from this is
trust your intuition.
Stop ignoring
what your spirit is telling you.
Again, it doesn't mean just fly off the handle
when you sense something.
It means address the issue
and then if you cannot get honesty
or you cannot get to a place of
peace
in that situation,
then it’s simply time for you to go.
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