Hey guys, it's Wednesday's with Chasey poo. Today we are talking about call-out Culture I
Really really like this topic because it's something that we all need to accept all right
And I'm going to say it
I have said some problematic stuff in the past, and I am glad I was called out on it because I
think it was super important for me to be called out on what I said and the things that I did because it was
inappropriate and it wasn't
okay, and it did offend a lot of people so I think that
calling out somebody
Like at first I was like no
No, don't fucking talk like I was angry and I was like no, but you know when to you keep your cool
You wait a couple of days. Maybe a couple weeks you realize that
The person calling you out probably had a reason what they were calling you out.
I can't give you specific examples of things that I have said in the past, but it was on Tumblr
and this was before Tumblr kind of became like
It's a little intense now honestly. I can't really. I don't really go on Tumblr anymore.
I was obsessed with Tumblr for such a long time and now I can barely go on it
because the call out culture on Tumblr now is
aggressive, and I think that we need to remember when you call somebody out don't yell and don't swear because the second you do that
you've lost and honestly like, as much as that sucks. We're all heated in the moment. I've done it
I've sworn a people and I like yelled and caps and
Doing that makes the person super no-receptive, even if they weren't receptive before now, fuck no
they're going to hate you even more. So I think that the call out culture that we have right now
sucks because of the way that we're doing it so what I like to do if I see a friend post something problematic online
I'll message them and be like "hey, just letting you know like blah blah". I'll be like super sweet
I'll be like "oh like
I know you probably didn't mean it this way, but, you know, it's a little offensive because of this and this" and then
Sometimes they won't answer me, and that's fine like okay
I see that you read my message, and then other times people will get like really defensive
And really mad so I try my message to say like "just don't get defensive don't get angry
I'm just letting you know you don't need to do anything with this information if you don't want but I'm just letting you know"
And then other people have been super nice and I'd be like "oh, thank you for telling me
I had no idea. I'll remove the post" or whatever so as
much as it sucks that we need to kind of reduce ourselves
down and be more calm when we're loud and should be angry about certain things
being calmer helps the person understand more, and I think that that's a big thing that we have an issue with with cis people
we call out cis people like there ain't no tomorrow and
by doing that we
we
It's fine. Oh my God I call out cis people left and right huntys. All the time!
And I'm angry and I'm allowed to be angry but calling people out who are cis and like somebody's like
"Oh. What's your birth name?" I'm not going to "WHAT THE FUCK. Why would you EVER?
I'm not gonna freak out. My manager literally asked me that question like three months ago
and I was like nnn
I don't tell anyone, and then you just go into like it's not really appropriate to ask somebody with their name was
Especially because they change their name. There's a reason why people change their name.
So that's usually what I say and I try to be calm.
And I'm okay to do that because I've dealt with a lot of hate.
I've dealt with a lot of being called out and calling out people and seeing their reactions so kind of going down to the
the level and and just letting them know that what they just said was super inappropriate, but not yelling at them, so
if you have somebody ask if you have The Surgery
Like it's offensive, but if you're going to scream at them can you just imagine how,
how the
person is going to react next time they meet somebody who's trans like they're just going to have a negative view and it sucks because
We're minorities. You're the one trans person that's going to represent the entire trans community when somebody has an interaction with you
that's bad, because that's what always happens, right, so I think that
it sucks, but we kind of need to lay it down and it's very hard for me to do that and
Also in the past like instead of calling out people. I've just been quiet
So when I go to the doctors, and they ask me super inappropriate questions about surgery
And I'm like I'm coming in here for like? I have like gingivitis like what the fuck you asking me
what have a wiener for? Like it makes no sense
I don't say those things out loud, and I wish that I would in the moment
And it sucks because you know I should tell the doctors that it's an inappropriate question
But they're in a position of power and their power is my health and it scares me to
Let them have all the power and then me kind of like rocking the boat. That's what it feels like so
To me those examples are really hard for me to call out people
But what I like to do is kind of vent about it on YouTube in the make videos about it
so then later on if there are doctors or nurses or health practitioners or
Shit like that they will watch my videos, and then they'll be like. Oh, okay
Why is this inappropriate then they kind of do the research by themselves not really good advice, but I think that
We kind of yelled too, too quickly
We're trigger-happy with our yelling and our swearing and our CAPS LOCK when it comes to
people saying dumb shit honestly
And I think that we kind of just need to
step back and realize that no matter what you say this person is not going to change their mind and
Especially if you're yelling, so if you say it, and you present your argument in a soft way
And you let the person know hey like I still love you
If you're officially assess you you have them in your life in it like your family and even absolute of them
and you just like don't hate me, but
Yeah, let's see if I said I got alright. Let me know we think in the comments, though. Have a great week. Bye