Back in april i hosted a live three-day youtube marketing workshop and seen by over
forty four thousand people worldwide this is the number one question
people ask me was hey James how you deal with the all
the negative people and haters?uh...this guy again you know what I'm talking about trolls,
complainers, the detail police do shes source racks debugs neg a bug or as i like to call
a big badger fix rude comments, nasty feedback, an obscene language is inevitable especially
on youtube but it should never freeze you into fear and stop you from taking action
today we'll take a closer look at why people leave these comments how to deal with them
and even somebody interesting comments i've received over the past two years all that
and more coming up soon on James Wedmore TV
You've made a decissions to put your message out there to the world and share with others
chances are someone's knocking on grills with you if you wanna how I overcame my fear of
rejection online keep on watching!
One of my favorite quotes in the world is from Bill Cosby and stated I
don't know the key to success but the key to failure is trying to please everyone because
it's true you you can't please everybody it's impossible in fact i believe that the more
polarizing or the more you take a stand for what you believe in the more successful
and noticeable you become even Tim Ferriss new york times wall street journal and business
week best-selling authors that the best people in almost any field are almost always the
people to get the most criticism the bigger your impact the more
negativity you encounter and hey let's face this no one remembers boring segment either
way those harsh and unkind comments duper i've been told them by a cut
and cut shot extremely childish and much much worse it hurts and these comments can freeze
you from ever moving forward in your business let me ask you questions is the person
who's leaving these negative comments your ideal customer?
are they already giving you money?
most likely NO so why would u ever let someone who's not a paying customer dictate how you
run your business that's crazy now if you are getting player hidden
comments from a past customer it's real feedback from a real customer and needs to be addressed
one of though Okay so i can sit here for the remainder of this video and tell you that
your doing your audience this service if you hold your message within and don't share it
the world and i think you already know that you're still gonna get that's sliming digital
hate mail and still can suck up you know it so how do you just wore mindset so that it
doesn't affect you.
Well it comes down to one thing and that's simply understanding why someone will even
leave a comment or do something negative and nasty in the first place do me a favor for
a moment visualize or picture in your head the most confident and successful person that
you can pick up maybe its someone living like Oprah Winfrey
or Tony Robbins or maybe at someone made up like a superhero maybe its Superman now visualize
the super confident super successful person hunts over desk in the darkroom riding the
waves some negative comments you on one of your videos blog post or articles it doesn't
really fit does in.
The person who is truly competent and successful doesn't have time to criticize their own shortcomings
let me know someone else's and it's probably because they're so busy being awesome dislike
what you have to understand is that when you put yourself out there and in a video you're
simply amer reflecting back to your audience if you have an insecure viewer they will
see something in you that trigger something in themselves that makes them feel insecure
ironically it's usually a positive scolded in you that makes them goes out maybe it your
looks, your age, your energy or just your attitude but in most cases it's simply something
that remind that negative viewer of something they don't have or they don't like about themselves
It immediately triggers a negative emotion and made comment away let's take a look at
one ofthe most famous examples Rebecca Black and her crazy viral song Friday this video
produced so much hate and all she did was share something that she enjoyed doing singing
peter haters get jealous when they saw how quickly fame and success came to it you betcha
despite the fact that she have to leave schools into the death threats and excessive bullying
that she's experiencing both from the internet and locally She's still making videos until
this day in fact shes over a hundred and twenty million views on her channel do yourself a
favor understand that when the negative comments do come in means you're on the right path
people will always tryin to knock you down but highly go, keep going don't stop never
give up as far as those sources goes another best taking significance don't feel to interrupt
don't give them your energy just live right thank you for watching this special video
of me today I hope its made a different and has inspired you to double your efforts and
put more content now on the internet..