Want unstoppable confidence to try something new!?
Well you're at the right place as we get guidance from Tony Robbins on achieving incredible
confidence!
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Ok, you want to do something which wouldn't be the norm for you, you prepare and set yourself
to go ahead and at the moment you need to take actionou stop.
Fear grips you and you stop yourself following through.
Guess what?
We've all been there, confidence is a problem for many and all have a moment or two in life
where they lost all confidence when they wish they'd followed through.
In this video, I want to change that, I want YOU to be confident and follow through with
doing what you want to in life.
Therefore, I'm looking to none other than Tony Robbins to understand five practical
tips you can apply to build incredible confidence and take action to do what's important to
you.
The five areas to be covered will be: 1) Have Belief
2) Prime Yourself and Set Your State 3) Build Momentum
4) Focus 5) Do what you don't think is natural to you
So, let's start with having the belief to take action.
1) Have Belief First and foremost, you need to have belief
in whatever it is you're undertaking.
If you want to grow a business, ask out your dream date or simply meet new people, you
need to be in a state where you fully and completely believe that you will succeed.
Without belief, what happens is the seeds of doubt are placed in your mind.
When you work towards your target and hit any moments of difficulty, those doubts are
instantly highlighted and magnified in your mind.
This in turn lets the fear of failure control you and force you to give up hope to achieving
your dream.
However, why is it doubts can have such control over us?
It's actually how our brains are wired.
Historically we learn and use experience to work as a defence mechanism, both in our behaviour
and how we react chemically to different situations.
Take for example someone who has been in a serious relationship and had a bad break up.
In their next relationship do you think they're going in showing the same level of vulnerability
they previously showed, or do you think they're going to go in a little guarded.
Chances are for most it would be the latter right?
That's because our brain, notably the amygdala, provide emotional responses of fear as a form
of self-preservation.
Historically, this was critical in survival when in the wilderness, whereas today we have
more opportunities to overcome that response and pursue what we know is of value to us.
And this is why Belief is so important.
In the moments where your brain is working to try and hold you back to protect you, your
belief will overcome the doubts and allow you to take a risk, which ultimately you know
isn't likely to be life threatening and not taking
action
is actually more likely to hold you back.
2) Prime Yourself and Set Your State Now this leads us to the next point, we have
beliefs, but how do you put yourself in a state to act on your belief, be prepared to
take action and follow through with what you want to achieve?
The key is what Tony Robbins calls "priming", or basically taking actions to put yourself
in a state of taking action and not sitting still.
Now there are two key areas of focus when looking to set your state through priming,
the physical and the mental.
On the physical, you want to work towards putting yourself in a physical shape where
you feel like you can take on the world.
So how do you do this?
Well, think about a moment when you felt on top of the world.
This might be a moment you achieved something great, or even just a moment you remember
feeling great when you saw something great.
Now in this moment, what was your posture?
You were stood or sat straight, shoulders back and ready for action like a superhero
right?
Therefore, the first point is take up this posture, where you felt you could take on
the world, and do something, move, walk, runust something!
You see, movement is exercise and exercise benefits our body.
Exercise is critical to feeling good, and therefore key to getting in a state of confidence
and readiness to take action.
When you exercise, you secrete dopamine, the neurotransmitter that makes you feel good.
So take up a good posture and exercise for you physical well-being.
Next you want to focus on the mental state.
First I'd say meditate, because mediation has a number of benefits, notably helping
you focus and relax, two key components of confidence.
From there, do other exercises to help build you mental state of believing, whether it
be through incantations or affirmations, give your beliefs references to help make them
stronger and work on your psychology and thus, your state.
3) Build Momentum The third point to building confidence is
building momentum.
When you watch a motivational video, or a video on starting a YouTube channel, what
is the one consistent point they make?
It's to just get started and take action right!?
Why is this?
Why get started even if you're not ready?
It's because nothing can happen if you don't take action.
After all, you can't score a match winning point if you're on the bench right?
You have to be on the field of play.
Same goes for anything, nothing happens if you don't do anything.
And from action comes another fundamental point, action builds momentum.
Let's take working or studying as an example.
Usually most of us struggle to take the first step when we have to do something right?
We'll put it off, hesitate, just procrastinate and not get started, despite knowing the benefit.
However, after you get started what happens?
You do a task, feel good, and then often do the next task right?
Soon enough we're talking about being "in the zone".
Here's what happens, we take action, we gain a little success and on success we get a hit
of our friend dopamine again, making us feel better.
When we feel better, the brain is triggered to think "I like that, I want another hit"
and guess what, momentum builds from there.
Momentum is key because each time we succeed we get our hit of dopamine and that helps
build our confidence, along with our positive experiences, which going back to our earlier
point, breaks down the fear that stemmed from the amygdala.
Now you might be wondering how to make the first critical step.
To do this, do a simple exercise that Mel Robbins has built a career around.
What is it?
The five second rule.
Simply put, when you have to take action, do a count down from 5 to 0 and launch into
action as though you're a rocket ship.
This simple but ingenious method is the perfect way to push yourself into action before your
brain can make you stop.
Do it and build momentum!
4) Focus This one is incredibly simple yet something
so many struggle or fail to do, which is focus.
So let's say you want to build your own business, what do you focus on?
Do you focus on the outcome you're working towards, or the potential pitfalls you might
face?
At this point you're probably thinking "well clearly the outcome I work towards".
But that's the thing, many people shift focus from what they are working for, to what might
go wrong.
Instead of saying "I could have financial freedom with this business", they think "what
if I fail to grow this business, I'll be laughed at by all my peers".
This is the same point I made earlier about fear stemming from the amygdala, people let
fear hold them back because the brain is trying to protect them, which leaves them with regret
later down the line.
Now here's the key, where your focus lies is where you end up.
If you focus on the negative output, the results will be negative.
If you focus on the positive, there's a chance you might not achieve what you set out to,
but you've just significantly improved the odds in your favour.
So focus on the outcome you have every intention to reach and stay focused, or as Gary Vaynerchuk
would say, go tunnel vision!
5) Do what you don't think is natural to you Finally, do what isn't natural to you.
Humans are strong, skilled and adaptable creatures, it's the reason we're the dominant species
on the planet.
We often place limitations and beliefs on ourselves without realising we're often capable
of so much more.
For example, you might struggle with speaking to people.
The best thing to do in this scenario is push yourself and talk to people anyway.
Go beyond your comfort zone, because that's where the growth takes place.
Learn and practice and if you suck, try again and do it anyway!
Here's the thing, people can overcome what doesn't come naturally by learning and practicing.
Learn from those who can do it and apply what they do yourself.
It's because there were people willing to do this that we've seen some of the greatest
feats in the history of mankind.
So to reiterate, if you want to build unbeatable confidence, follow these tips:
1) Have Belief 2) Prime Yourself and Set Your State
3) Build Momentum 4) Focus
5) Do what you don't think is natural to you So go out there, build you confidence and
take action.
Soon enough, you'll be able to live the life
of
your dreams!
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