Welcome back, everyone.
Something's never go out
of style like etiquette.
Well, the cut from New York magazine
just released 150 new etiquette rules
that we should be living by, apparently.
So in this things to care about,
Kara is going to share her thoughts.
We've picked out just a few.
Or she has. I like to be surprised.
So I have not seen them.
So I'm very excited.
Let's dive in.
OK, get. Let's get into it. Yeah.
All right. Here's the first one.
And maybe you've come across
this in a social setting or.
It could just be you and your best
friend kicking about something.
So if someone starts telling you
a story you've heard before,
you have a few seconds to tell them.
You can say something like,
Oh my gosh, that was hilarious.
Or oh, like, unbelievable.
You told me that.
But if you don't say it right away,
then you have to listen to them tell
the story again and act interested.
If you're in a larger group,
you just have to listen.
Period.
Now.
Oh, I don't know.
Unless it's my mom or you.
I might go, oh, I I know you.
Right, right. But I don't feel
like I can do that to people.
Sorry, I'm turning up my ear. No, I,
I I don't know if I agree with that
because I feel I would say I think I
do say ohh you told me that or ohh.
Right, right. Like I think I do that.
You do. I think I do.
I mean, I never take offense
because at the ripe old age
of almost 54, I repeat myself.
Well, I mean, my mom does.
She's watching. Yeah.
Sometimes people
look just uninterested in what I'm saying.
I'll be like did I tell you that before?
Right, right. You know, also you tell.
A lot like me.
You tell a lot of the stories again.
Yeah. Like I I myself. Molly. Right.
OK. This one was interesting.
On a date, if you're dating,
all individuals present should gently and
politely compete to pay the entire bill.
All right.
Now the historical mandate is hard
coded into most people and should
be considered like considered,
you know, you think like if
you're on a date like he pays or
the person who asked pays.
OK.
The person who acts.
So I'm sorry say that again. OK.
So I lightly fight over the bill. Yeah.
So if I ask you out on
a date then I'm paying.
I think that's what we have always
been tough and they're saying
like that you should both people
should be like no no no I'm paying.
I'm paying. I'm paying.
You should fight over the bill.
I think I still I'm maybe I'm
a little old school on this.
I think if you ask you pay.
That's kind of what I think we want
you guys to go to our Facebook page
at the end of all this and weigh in
but and Twitter as well at ATL and Co.
I I I'm old school. If you ask, then you pay.
Yeah. I feel like if I was,
if I was dating, it's been so long
and I said no, no, let me pay.
And they were like,
alright, I'd be like, yeah.
And I would definitely be
calling all my girlfriends
and say word. Yeah. Can you believe
it? I know. If you don't want to,
don't offer to what?
I think that's what I think. OK. OK.
This is another interesting one speaking,
since we just had Valentine's Day,
don't wait for the right time
to break up with someone, OK?
There are fewer blackout dates than you.
I think you think it's compassionate to
wait until January 2nd to dump them.
No, no, it just shows you're planning
to do it all through the holidays.
Just do it when you think of it.
Now in college I had a shady boyfriend who
I realized was telling me things in the
guise of his roommate and his girlfriend,
but really it was about our issues.
It took me a while to pick up
on it and then he said to me,
should I break up with do you think they
should break up now or should I wait?
And I said they should break up now.
And then literally the next day I had to
post it because there were no cell phones.
A post at my door that said we're
done. You know what who is this
guy I'm gonna his name is Mike.
Find him on Facebook. OK.
So but OK I don't like the
posted idea but I mean I don't
know there's something to be.
I I wonder what Chesley would
think cause you know he's so wise
with his love doctor advice right.
And I think he always feels like
honesty is the best policy.
And so yeah I guess so.
I mean yeah if you're feeling it
I guess you should just go for it.
But but of course use kindness
and compassion
right now I will say if you can be
like friendly enough to if you have
like a a family commitment maybe you
should stick it out. But whatever.
I agree with that. There's new ones.
I agree with that. OK, here's this one.
If you've met someone and they clearly
don't remember your name, I love this.
This is a good refresher.
Say hi. We've met. I'm Kara.
It's the perfect middle ground.
It's assertive. We've met.
I know it. So do you.
But you're also being generous because
then you're telling them your name
so they don't have to think about it.
No. No. OK,
let me tell you what I don't like.
And I love people.
You know, I talk to everybody. Really do.
We've met a lot of people on this show.
I don't like when somebody goes.
We've met like five times.
And I'm like, no, no, I know.
I'm so sorry. I just forget your name.
Sure. I I think that it's kind of
rude to say we've met. Ohh. OK.
But I mean, I guess you could you
could say or say it nicer, right?
Maybe we've met 16 times or whatever.
Yeah, that's it. Like, don't say that.
OK. So it's just in the tone.
You can't say tone. We did.
I know. We've met before.
Right? I'm Christine.
Yeah.
Got
it. Yeah. Don't say like girl we met
like 100 times. That would be nice.
Yes, I know. OK, Cara,
thank you so much. We had
so many more. And if you guys are
interested in more, I can share
them on a future care about. Yes,
OK and let us know which
rules you do and don't agree
with on Twitter at AT Illica.
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