"My hotlist has over 50 women.
"Question: how can I determine which one might meet me,
so I can refine my list before I go on a tour?"
[John] "How do I create and submit lists of women I want to meet?"
"Is there an online process to submit the list when I pay up for the tour?"
[Dina] You will go on our site, and you add--
go to your wish-list, and you will send
--just before you go on a tour, you pick like maybe 10 girls.
I don't think you need more than 10.
So your top 10, and they will try to contact the girls,
arrange a meeting with them during your visit there,
and if they have time and possibilities, they will meet with you.
[John]
But here's a little tip on that--
and there's nothing wrong with the list
--and we do our best, and many guys will meet many women from the lists,
but I think that most guys will end up marrying women that were never on their list.
I don't think Dina was on AJ's list.
Were you on the list?
[Dina] Number two.
[John] So Dina was on AJ's list.
So Dina, AJ knew--
he knew what he was looking for!
But I will tell you a lot of guys will end up marrying women
that were not on the list, and so it's very interesting.
That's why it's great to go--
[Dina] Like you go shopping, and you know what you go there for,
and then you come out, you go home with something else.
[John] Happens all the time
"My hotlist has over 50 women."
"Question: how can I determine which one might meet me,
so I can refine my list before I go on a tour?"
Take out all the women that you have
more than a 30-year age difference with, first of all.
People getting closer--
I don't know.
What do you think? I mean how can you refine that?
[Dina] You have to select them by age at least first.
[John] If you have some really pronounced age differences,
maybe put those off to the side for now, and try--
[Dina] We don't recommend more than 20 years.
[John] We really don't.
Try to keep it to at least 20 years or younger--
or 20 years or less is what I'm trying to say there.
Then look at geography, if some of those women,
they'll say you're going to Kyiv,
some of those women are like 50 miles away or 100 miles away,
let's take those off for now and try to focus just on the women in that city,
so that might get your list down a little bit more.
Maybe you can focus a little bit more on women who speak a little bit better English.
All these different things that you can narrow down a little bit.
"Most ladies on my hotlist are 15 or 22 years younger than me."
"Am I doomed to failure?"
"When I travel on the Ukraine trip upcoming in September,
I chose the ladies based on common values, of common interest,
not just on physical appearance."
"What can I do to increase my chance of success with the hotlist ladies?"
So 15 to 22 years younger--
is he dooming himself to failure because of that age difference?
[Dina] No, you shouldn't think like that.
I mean 15 years is okay or 22.
As long as you have a similar lifestyle,
and you like the same things, and the chemistry is there.
I don't think it's a problem at all.
So, for sure, you should meet them, and see what
[John] And it seems what's happening from my experience--
Dina correct me if I'm wrong
--but it just seems that the women
normally would rather have someone who's like 10 or 15 years older, at least.
Instead of someone their own age because they think that you're going to be more mature.
[Dina] Yes, more mature, more responsible.
Yes, that's that's for sure,
but I'm just talking about if you feel chemistry.
I don't think it matters 15-20 years old.
It's not really a huge like gap.
I like the fact that you are making your list of women
based on what you're seeing that they put down in their profile.
You're choosing the women, and then you're gonna try and meet those women.
Instead of just relying on like intro-letters or stuff like that.
I want to meet her.
I always tell guys, you should be out there choosing the women yourself.
The man should be the man, and you should try to find the woman you're interested in.
Then, either when you join the tour,
they'll give you a free hundred dollars, or so, of credit.
You can write some of these women before you go, let them know you're coming.
If you do that with a plan, there's nothing wrong with that.
Just don't write endlessly, forever for seven years,
and we won't talk about that one.
You know who you are out there!
But just do it with a plan.