Are you struggling with addictive thoughts about your narcissist? Have you been broken up for a while or just recently split up
and you can't seem to get over the thoughts? Well, I've got good news for you today. Number one:
you're completely normal and number two: today at queenbeing.com,
I'm going to share with you five ways to break your addiction to your narcissist. So let's get started.
My name is Angie Atkinson on this channel, I offer free daily video coaching to help you discover, understand and overcome
narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. I like to call it toxic relationship rehab.
So if that sounds good to you, hit that subscribe button and let's get going.
How long does it really take to get over a breakup?
Anyway, let's be honest. One study says that it takes about 18 months to get over and divorce. Another study says it takes anywhere from
3 months to 18 months to get over a regular breakup.
Then there's the How I Met Your Mother theory which says the length of the relationship, one week for every month you were together
Exactly 10,000 drinks however long that takes?
I'm not sure that one's accurate. Either way, you might find yourself thinking
about your ex a little more than you want to. A lot of times, these are addictive thoughts.
So what can you do to stop addictive thoughts?
Well here are five ways that you can change your mind,
change your life by stopping the addictive thoughts about your ex. So take a look. Number one:
Figuring out a way to play the tape all the way through. Well, what do I mean by that? Before you decide okay
I'm gonna reach out to this person,
I'm gonna call the narcissist again. Maybe they're not really a narcissist or maybe you know I jumped too fast,
I was too hasty. Before you do that, I want you to stop and I want you to think about it.
What are the long-term consequences really going to be here? Because the fact is that only through being aware
personally of yourself and your own
self-evaluation can you arrive at the place that will stop you from going back to the old ways, going back to the narcissist, back to
the old codependent type of behavior and then implementing change.
That's what you want to do. You want to implement change.
So take a moment and think about if I go back to the narcissist,
what exactly is gonna happen? Is it gonna be amazing or am I gotta get back into
exactly what I tried to get out of before? Number two: you've got to get support going through
narcissistic abuse, going through feeling addicted to someone and the patterns that go along with that, the different behaviors,
well those things all really thrive in darkness.
So if you come out to people in your life who you trust or
to a support group life span which is support for people affected by narcissism and relationships,
my support group you can join at queenbeing.com/SPAN, it will help you . You can share your stories.
You can talk with people who understand and maybe can provide some really helpful insight. Sure you can work through it alone
but it's so much easier.
if you give yourself a little bit of support because the fact of the matter is it's too simple to return to your old ways
to the codependency when there's no one holding you accountable.
So whether you choose to
join an online support group or come to my live chats Monday through Friday or something like that or you choose to join a group
in your town or even just get some friends together and talk about it,
you've got to get some support. Do something. Number three: you got to know what triggers you. So make sure
that you get rid of everything in your house that might trigger you to get reach out to or
stay too focused on the narcissist and so if the narcissist gave you a
particular item, get rid of it. If you can't stand to get rid of it,
put it in the box down in the basement or back in the closet somewhere where you don't have to look at it.
And then stay away from people and places and things that might suck you back into that really negative
self-destructive behavior. Of course this could mean that you need to make a whole new group of friends
but if that's what you have to do, then
that's what you have to do even if it means moving or changing your job. Do what you need to do to keep your head
in the right place. Number four: don't forget self-care. So many of us are so good at forgetting self care.
We don't eat well. We don't get enough sleep or we sleep too much.
You know the fact of the matter is being properly nourished, getting enough rest and keeping your
positive state of mind, those things are gonna all go hand-in-hand.
It's so much easier to rest well when you're eating well and maintaining a positive state of mind
and it's easier to eat well when you're maintaining a positive state of mind and resting well.
And of course resting well and eating well also help maintain a positive state of mind.
So don't forget those things. Go get a massage or whatever.
Do something to make yourself feel nice and healthy and good and make sure that you move your body too
because all of those things will also be enhanced by exercise. Whether that means that you get in front of your TV
and you do some shaunti insanity or something or you actually just go outside and walk around the block. Do something.
Even turning on the music and dancing around the house with your kids can be fun. Finally number five:
don't forget to shift your focus. Use a pattern interrupt. Do something that is different. One of the best things about
going through this with a support group is that you can
contact them as outlets up to a point because the fact is it's a two-way street.
But when you listen to the stories of other people and you practice kindness, and you share your own stories,
then you change your old addictive behaviors and your old negative behaviors
and you can commit to a new and more powerful, more positive way of thinking.
What do you think about that? This brings me to the question of the day and the question of the day is
Have you struggled with
addictive thoughts about your ex? If
so, let me know your thoughts, your experiences in the comments below and let's talk about it. Make
sure that you check out the videos in the links above and in the description below because I've shared with you several videos that will
help you to stop thinking about that narcissist and start moving forward.
And don't forget to check out the video
I did yesterday on
how you can become addicted to a person. If you're interested in hearing more about how to let go of your
narcissist and move away from feeling addicted to that person, leave me a like and hit the comments below with that information
so that I can make exactly the videos you're looking for. Alright. That's all I've got for you right now. As always,
thank you so much for being a part of my day and a part of my life.
And hey, thanks for letting me be a part of yours. It really does mean a lot to me. I'll see you soon.
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You really can create the life you want. Take care of your body, take care of your soul.
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