Speaker 1 (00:00): Hey there it's clay
with modernlove.life. And in this video, we're going to be talking about the law of attraction
and getting your ex back in a little bit more detailed. So in the previous video,
I did go into my thoughts on the law of attraction, how there are certain things out there
that defy like a logical explanation and how I do think that there are also like logical ways
that the law of attraction can also play a role in getting back together with your ex. However, I did
want to go over an important point that I forgot to mention in that video. And that is that yes,
when you bring yourself into alignment with what you want. So maybe you want to bring yourself into
alignment with getting a great relationship, having a loving relationships, getting back
together with your ex or something like that. Speaker 1 (00:53):
Right? What you want to do is you want to focus on the specific outcome,
the feeling that you want, rather than the outcome you want to focus on. The feeling
of being loved, the feeling of being accepted, the feeling of being close to the feeling of all
of these sorts of things. And as you focus on that and bring yourself into alignment with it, I have
had experiences in my life and I've heard other people share experiences in their lives as well.
That somehow very strange things start happening. That cause things to line up in just the right
way. However, I do want to also be very clear with you as well, too, that, you know, if your ex has
just made up their mind completely that they don't want to get back together with you for one reason
or other, you're probably not going to be able to change their mind without, especially if they are
just like really stubborn to it. Speaker 1 (01:45):
Right. You know, it's like, why can you use the law of attraction
to get some celebrity or something like that to come and visit you in your house? Yeah.
Maybe it's possible, but, um, unless they really want to do this, or if they're not
totally open to doing this, then, um, it's, it's realistically probably not going to happen.
So what actually is happening here is as you bringing yourself into alignment,
you're bringing yourself into a sort of feeling state where you can kind of be in a place where
you can be congruent or compatible with a certain feeling stage. And what happens is if your ex or
if a specific person is the shortest path between where you're at now and the, the,
the state that you want to experience, then yes, they will come together. And the two of you can
create a relationship together. Speaker 1 (02:41):
However, if they are closed off to that, and that is a path that is just, you know, closed off,
like, you know, okay. A certain celebrities are probably never going to come and visit me in
my house here. I mean, I, I don't know, even unless maybe I, you know, somehow came up with
some sort of way to orchestrate this happening. It's probably not going to happen mostly because I
don't live anywhere near Hollywood. I live kind of in a small town, not particularly close to
anywhere that a lot of famous people are known to go to. And so I really have a hard time imagining
that being possible. Again, I don't know, it's not outside the realm of possibility. It just seems
highly unlikely. And so, so that sort of path is closed off. But instead I focus on the experience
of like, I don't know, being able to interact with someone famous or being able to interact with a
celebrity or something like that. Speaker 1 (03:28):
The energy might find a way to bring us together. Like, I don't know, man. I might be able to do
like a zoom call with them or, um, interact with them in some other way. Maybe I go to visit them.
I don't know, but, uh, uh, it can happen, but you have to be focused on the feeling, state, the
feeling that you want to experience on the other side of all of this, because we don't want to just
get fixated on the externals of like, okay, I want to be in a relationship with my ex. I want to have
a million dollars. I want to do this. But instead of what you want to do is you want to focus on the
feeling state of like, okay, what would it be like to have financial freedom? What would it be like
to be loved for the person that I am? Speaker 1 (04:10):
What would it be like to be appreciated and feel safe and feel secure? What would it be
like to have this adventure? What would it be like to feel alive and excited? Right. You know,
like we don't, we don't, we don't want these material things for the sake of just acquiring
stuff. I know that when you talk about law of attraction, people often talk about, you know,
like money and cars and stuff like that, but we don't want these things just to have them. We want
them because they're going to give us a certain emotional state. So focus on that emotional state,
the same is true when it comes to using something such as the law of attraction for, um,
getting back together with your ex or having some sort of great relationship. You don't
want to focus so much on the outcome, but focus on the feeling that you imagine you would get
from having that outcome, focus on that, feeling that closeness, you know, close your eyes, imagine
being hugged in the most loving sort of way, where you just know that you're going to be accepted and
appreciated and all of these wonderful things. Speaker 1 (05:10):
And can you focus on that feeling? And can you constantly bring yourself into that state? Can
you bring yourself into your life in that state? Can you bring yourself into your interactions with
your ex or with other people in that state? And as you start to interact with someone that state, if
the path for you to have that physical experience, so being loved and accepted for you are with the
hug and all that stuff through the relationship, if that is through your ex, then that will come
directly to you through them. They're closed off to that feeling. If they're closed off to that
possibility because of their own things, you know, they of course have the power to make their own
choices and their own life. Just like you have the power to make your own choices. Then that feeling
will come to you and you'll become real. Speaker 1 (05:52):
It will become manifest to you through some other mechanism. You know, maybe you'll
a different partner. And I know that might sound kind of disappointing. You know, if you really
want to get back to go with your ex, but I promise you if they're closed off energetically to you,
you're probably not going to enjoy what you would need to do to, in order to get into a relationship
with them. And then secondly, you'd probably enjoy and appreciate the relationship that you
were able to get from some other mechanism from some other means or channel or,
Speaker 2 (06:22): Or, or, or whatever, a whole lot more
Speaker 1 (06:25): Value that feeling of closeness, connectedness,
appreciation, love all of these sorts of things. And you would really look back at your previous
relationship history and say, Hey, all of these things led me to you. All of these previous
failures led me to you and you wouldn't want it to be any other way, way. Okay. So, um, that, that,
that again is my take on the law of attraction. I realized, I forgot to explain that really crucial
important part in the previous video. I, once again, if you did miss that previous video,
it's right up there. Once again, I also know that this is a controversial topic for a lot of people,
or maybe I'm just building it up to be that way in my own mind, if you've watched more than one of my
videos, if you've seen other videos of mine, you probably get the sense that I'm a pretty
left-brained kind of person. Speaker 1 (07:09):
And so, um, the law of attraction was something that I felt really uncomfortable
talking about. Um, you know, again, usually when you hear people talk about law of attraction,
they're all like, you know, really right-brained expressive, spiritual, all that sort of stuff.
Not, not really, you know, left-brained analytical types like me, that has been
my experience. That is my current view on this. Uh, this is something that has, you know, really
snapped into place over the past, uh, several years. There's definitely things out there in
this world that really defy XPLAN explanation. And as long as you're willing to bring yourself into
that way of being that you want to experience that intention that you want to experience.
Interesting things can start happening to you. Interesting things can start happening for you.
And maybe that involves you and your ex getting back together. Maybe that involves
them, uh, you know, picking up the phone and texting or calling you out of the blue.
Speaker 1 (08:05): Maybe that involves some sort of other path
that's going to align itself so that you can create a, this kind of relationship or this kind
of connection that you want. Um, but again, what we want to do is you want to stay focused on the
process on the experience rather than the outcome, rather than on the material, external outcome,
but stay focused on the experience. Because again, your job is to just bring yourself into that way
of being, to get clear on what you want, bring yourself into the way of being that embodies that,
and then it will, your job is not to figure out how it's going to happen.
Your job is not to figure out how am I going to make this happen? Who, who is this going to
come to me through all of these sorts of things, your job is to just know what you want to bring
yourself into alignment and then surrender and let the path reveal itself to you.
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Or do it. So I want to work with the right people. Um, and also number two,
I obviously also want to know that I can actually help you. I'm not going to invite you to join us
in this thing. If I don't actually believe that, that I can help you because that's
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Speaker 1 (09:47): Still struggling with this thing. That's,
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quiz. So just go to your web browser and type in modern love.life/quiz. But anyway,
thank you so much. This has been my take on the law of attraction, this and the previous video. I
hope you've enjoyed it once again, hit that thumbs up button and I'll talk to you next time.