Do they really regret anything?
They actually do regret some things.
I'm going to be telling you all things
that a narcissist actually regrets in this video.
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So, what does the narcissist actually regret?
I know you think that they don't regret anything,
because it feels like they have no remorse,
but you're gonna be surprised
with what a narcissist actually regrets.
The things that they regret,
are not the kinds of things that you want them to regret,
because remember, they don't have any feeling of empathy,
they don't have any feelings toward you.
You're dealing with a person that feels no sense of inner value,
they don't feel like they have any sense of inner value,
they're almost like they're starving inside,
like, they're gasping for breath, desperate for air,
like, there's like a inner black hole inside of them and
so, they want you to fill it and
so you're there trying to fill that hole for them,
but it can ever be filled because it's like a bottomless pit and
so you're like feeling depleted and yet,
they're still starving, they're still feeling empty.
So, what do they regret?
They regret losing that source of supply.
If you walk out the door and
you're a huge source of supply for them,
they might regret losing that source of supply,
so they might say to you,
“Come back, I miss you, I miss having you in my life”,
but you might mistake that for,
oh, they miss me, they miss having me in their life,
but what they really miss is your adulation,
so you're gonna come back and
then, you're again gonna be feeling depleted,
you're again gonna be feeling exhausted.
They don't miss you,
this is not a a two way street kind of a relationship,
this is not a relationship where they're gonna care about you,
so I want you to think about that.
What's happening when a narcissist is hoovering you and
I have videos on that,
what's happening when a narcissist
is actually trying to come back into your life?
What's really going on?
That's why you need to shut them down.
So, what else does a narcissist actually regret?
They regret being exposed,
they definitely regret being exposed,
they are trying to look good to the rest of the world,
happens to come out, they definitely regret that,
they hate that, they don't want that to happen,
which is one of the strategies that I teach is,
threatening that source of supply,
but you you don't wanna actually expose them
when you're trying to negotiate with them if you can help it,
because if you do, then your leverage is gone.
But, they never see what their impact is on others,
they don't really have remorse
because they can't possibly see what their impact is on others.
So you're never going to have that closure you're looking for.
But they might regret getting caught,
those are the kinds of things that they regret.
They regret getting caught,
they regret losing their source of supply,
but the real thing that they regret might be,
being able to do the worst things they want to be able to do.
Having their wings clipped,
lying as much as they want to,
or being monogamous if they want to.
A lot of times they'll say how wonderful they are,
because they're being monogamous.
They'll say things like that,
“Look at me, I'm so great, I'm not cheating on you”,
things like that.
I mean, they're just pretty sick in that sense and
I want you to know everything they do is a manipulation.
Everything they do is a manipulation.
It's all lies.
I want you to remember that,
it's all lies, it's all lies,
even when they try to come back and
they try to pretend like they're all so good,
it's all lies.
They may regret not being able to have sex with whoever they want to,
they might regret that,
they might regret not being able to be as bad as they want to,
not being able to exact the worst revenge they might want to,
because sometimes they know they can't get away with things
as much as they want to,
because they know that they might get caught,
so they might regret that.
I think they regret not fitting in the way they want to,
I think they regret that sometimes,
because they know that they don't fit in the way they want to.
They regret they're not like other people and
I think that they inherently know that and
I think that they regret that as well,
but they don't regret how they treat you,
they don't regret that they didn't acknowledge you
for how great of a mother you were,
or how wonderful of a dad you were,
or they didn't treat you as well as they should have,
they don't regret the things you want them to regret.
That's the thing you need to understand,
they're never going to truly be sorry and
you need to check out my video, “Do narcissists apologize?”.
They're never going to truly be sorry and
that's what you need to understand.
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