So what we do naturally without thinking,
as we start using our inner resources and
we dump on the good feelings and we
don't honor our good memories and
experiences. That's what we must do. If
you find yourself going to something,
someone said something nice to you and
this is a very big program everywhere
around the world, is I say something nice
to you and you go," Yeah, but they really
didn't mean it." You know or "You just
don't really know me." or, or you find
something wrong with somebody says
something nice. And you know, it's in our
culture we've been taught don't think
too highly of yourself. I mean, you know,
in Australia it's a tall poppy syndrome, in
Oklahoma it's your pants are too big for
you. But the truth is, if you honor
yourself, love yourself, like yourself,
nice to yourself, you won't let people
control you. You know, it's if, if I, if I
beat you up and I say you're guilty, I
say you're bad and I treat you like
you're never amount to anything, it's
easy to manipulate you. But if you love
yourself and you're nice to yourself, you're
kind to yourself and what you do inside
yourself, you do to other people, you
won't put up with people who are going
to treat you bad. That's what we want.
People who, and by the way, people like
this will train up their children better.
They will teach them to like themselves.
But here's a problem. People who don't
like themselves and think very little of
themselves, don't like you because you
like you. You understand that? People who
think very lowly of themself think
they're guilty, they're bad and they're
not intelligent when they see somebody
who's intelligent, who like themselves,
they want to throw mud on them. But
what you can do about this, well, here's a
deal. If your value comes from you, now
see, by the way, if you logically try to
do this, it's not easy. You have to do it
inside yourself. Because, you know, I say I
draw line and say, hey, love yourself, like
yourself, I said," Oh good. I agree." But it
doesn't go that way. You have to go
inside your head and change the memories
when your dad hurt you and said things.
You change the memories when somebody
else made fun of you. You go the memories
where you felt like you were abandoned
and no one loved you. You change those
memories. You go change the memories
where you, where you beat yourself up and
what you say inside yourself that's not
nice,
change those memories. That's how you
build self-esteem. Your self-esteem come
from your esteeming self. Your esteaming
self comes from the memories in which
you carry and hold. If you have
unpleasant memories inside you. you're
going to build your value from it. By the
way,
memories of the past are now just
creations in your mind. It's not the real
thing. Yes, you can learn from it, because
here's the truth.
I remember being made fun of as a kid. I
was put in the middle of the class and
they were doing spelling and I was the
only one in the class and I was
embarrassed and ashamed of myself
because I didn't know. Now that would
build those self-esteem.
Most of my life I was very quiet shy
then won't be in front of people. But
when I went and changed that memory,
guess what? I'm in front of people all
around the world. And it doesn't bother
me.
Matter of fact, it's just a normal thing.
I think all my friends are here. So when
you take your worst memory and you
change it, it becomes your best memory.
Because those bad memories are actually
catapults to making you greater. Pass
this back if you would. Thank you. How are
you able to change that memory? I will
show you. By tapping you mean? Tapping.
Oh. I'll show you.
That's the key. How many in here do not
know what tapping is yet? Don't know what
tapping is much. You know. You know what
it is. Well, oh yeah, you're slow. So by using
the tapping, I change my memories. Now by
the way, if you change your memories in
your head,
does it change what happened in the past?
No.
So, if you change your memories in your
head, did it change anything in the past?
No. Can you change the past? No. Why? It's
gone. If you change your memories and how
you hold it inside yourself, does it give
you better value? Yes. Yes, if you have
memories inside you, in your head where
people made fun of you and laughed at
you and you change it, they're not making
fun of you, laughing you, who's going to
benefit from that? You. That doesn't mean
that didn't happen. So what? You're not
five years old. How old are you? It's time 119 00:04:52,290 --> 00:00:00,000 to let it go. Subtitle: Liu Chin