Tripp here from Tripp Advice.com and a question I get a lot is “How do I break
the touch barrier?”
“How am I supposed to initiate touch with a girl?”
“How do you go from not touching her at all to actually start getting physical with
her?”
In just a minute, I’m going to send you over to a little video of Courtney and I.
Courtney is a good friend of mine.
You might have seen her from “Where To Touch A Girl Before You Kiss Her”.
Now, we’re going to be demonstrating how to initiate touch and I’m going to show
you a couple examples and demonstrations of how to start the touch process, when you do
it, and how to do it.
Before we go there, if you’re interested in learning how to turn a girl on with touch
then I highly suggest you check out Tripp’s Tension Technique and you can get that for
free right here on the screen or below in the description.
I’m going to show you and demonstrate how to start getting physical with a girl and
do it in an intimate way that actually turns her on.
Go get that after you watch the video.
Without further ado, here’s Courtney and I demonstrating how to initiate touch.
What I’m going to do here is give you 4 points of touch.
There’s 4 different points on a woman’s body that you can start to break the touch
barrier.
These are more non-sexual versions of touch that you’re going to use when you’re with
a girl.
This is going to sub-communicate to her and say “Hey, we’re starting to open up this
touch relationship.
I’m starting to flirt with you a little bit.
This is not just friendship.”
That’s the important part, again about breaking the touch barrier.
Let’s go through these one by one.
First, there is the arm.
The arm right here, anywhere from this will be shoulder down to right there by the wrist
is a great first place to touch the arm.
Imagine you’re talking to a girl so we’ll have a little conversation.
You tell me that you like sushi.
Where in Detroit is your favorite place to get sushi?
Probably Wasabi.
Wasabi is really good because I like it fried on the outside.
Wait, so explain this to me again.
See what I did there?
I would have taken it back sooner but I’m just showing you using the back of your hands.
I’m like wait a minute, what is this place?
You’re going to be able to touch her when you’re saying something in conversation.
Imagine if she was talking and I was just like uh huh.
That’s a little weird right?
It’s a little awkward.
It’s going to be done when you’re actually talking to a girl.
Wait a second, where do you go?
Whatever it doesn’t matter what you’re talking about.
There’s something where you’re exclaiming something.
Again, using the back of your hand.
It’s a very non-threatening way to open up touch.
The next point of touch, which I really like to use and this is in a good way, invading
the personal space.
A very easy way in the personal space and that’s going to be lightly, very lightly
grabber her shoulder.
I don’t want to say "grab", I want to more say putting your cupped hand on her shoulder.
This is going to be another way of breaking the touch barrier and you can do it in conversation.
I’ll show you how it’s done right now.
You like to do a lot of outdoor activities?
Yeah even just hanging out outside.
I like to go kayaking and stuff.
Okay listen to me.
You have to go kayaking with me.
That sounds amazing.
That’s a really kind of like semi-weak example.
But anything she says that you’re excited about or your’e like whoa, wait a second.
That’s when you can very lightly grab the shoulder.
Wait, kayaking?
I love kayaking.
And you do it for 2 to 3 seconds tops.
Again it’s like wait kayaking, 2..3..I love kayaking.
Just like that.
It’s another way to introduce touch.
Does it matter if you do shoulder first or arm first?
It doesn’t, but those are two initial ways to break the touch barrier.
Another one is the stomach.
This is more advanced.
This is something that I urge you to think about more as you’re talking to a girl.
Maybe you think about when you would do it.
That’s a good way of practicing it.
Don’t actually touch her stomach but think about when a good place to do it would be.
That’s your first step and then when you find the different areas of conversation when
you’re like oh I could have done it there.
That’s going to train you and see the next time you could do it.
You’re probably wondering, when am I going to touch her stomach?
What does that look like?
It’s going to be very subtle and again with the back of your hand.
I’m not talking about grabbing her stomach.
It’s going to be so subtle.
Almost like you lost your balance.
Like you fell over but not really.
I’ll show you right now an example of that.
What kind of people?
Just like you know seeing everyone who walks in there’s just so many different people.
So is there like a lot of.
Okay, see what I did there?
I was a step forward, I was thinking I was going to say something.
How did it feel physically?
How hard I pressed when I touched your stomach?
Comfortable not feeling much but just knowing that you’re there I guess.
It’s the same idea as if I’m going to touch her arm.
It’s different than the shoulder.
It’s more subtle like the arm touch.
Almost like you’re thinking about something and you’re just lightly touching her stomach.
Another thing I want to add on is when you’re doing these touches, especially the ones that’s
going to be lightly on the stomach, you got to make sure you’re close to her.
If I’m over here and I’m going to grab her like this, but it’s just such a far
distance to do that touch or that cupping your hand or even touching her stomach.
It’s just very awkward so make sure when you’re doing these touches, again especially
the stomach one, that you’re really close.
It’s as if you’re making a gesture to her with your hand but since it’s so close
to the stomach, you’re naturally going to touch there and it’s not going to seem weird.
Again, you’re talking you’re going like this, oh interesting, you do it again, oh
ok cool.
And then you grab her shoulder.
It’s so much easier.
There’s less distance between you and her and it makes it that much more comfortable.
Here’s another one.
It’s a bonus one.
It’s more specific.
It’s going to be like if you’re at a bar or you guys have been talking during the day
or on the sidewalk and you guys have gained this great rapport and you’re going to go
somewhere.
This is going to be the hand touch.
Imagine you guys have been talking or a while and you want to take her somewhere.
You want to show her something.
You’re talking to her and “Hey, let’s go to the other side of the bar I want to
get a drink.
Come with me.”
Just like that.
You’re like hey come with me.
You don’t even ask her, you just grab it lightly and walk away.
That’s going to be another point of touch.
There you go.
Those are four points of touch.
Remember that is the arm, shoulder, stomach and the hand.
Use those the next time you’re with a girl and check it out.
And also don’t forget to pick up Tripp’s Tension Technique.
It’s 100% free again like I said.
It’s going to be on the screen or below in the description.
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Thanks so much.
I’ll see you on the next video.