so they say that we spot the flaws and others that we actually have within
ourselves so in this video we're gonna be looking at Gabbie Hanna verse JessiSmiles
and ask a very important question which is does therapy even work what's
up everybody this is Chris from the rewired saw where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is
all about mental health and sometimes what I do is take all of this nonsense
going on in the YouTube community and try to see what we can learn to improve
our mental and emotional well-being and we do this by learning from people's
mistakes as well as their successes when those successes are available alright
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and Twitter at the rewired soul all right so let's get this started before I
jump into the story of Jessismiles and Gabbie Hanna everything let's chat real quick
all right so let me be let me be 100 with all you real quick so for those of
you Loree wired soldiers out to hell for
being honest for anybody out there who is familiar with my big goofy face
alright if you are familiar with this show that I've dealt with and largely
put myself into earlier this year and like and if you haven't learned from it
my question is what are you doing with your life alright so many of us so many
of us lack self-awareness all right and I can definitely be one of them like one
of the reasons I even started kind of doing this format with my channel is
because is so easy it's so easy to sit back and just judge others so I was
watching this Jesse smiles video earlier and I'm sitting there I'm like girl
Gabby Hannah what is wrong with right and then I sat back and I
reflected on it as I'm judging right as I love to do some of you can relate to
that I'm like wait a second Chris like what's what's your life like you know
what I mean what's going on in your life because this is something that we're
constantly doing watching reality TV or watching all of this nonsense drama
going on on YouTube and Twitter and everything like that and a lot of us use
this as an escape from our regular lives but the reality is a lot of us can
relate to friendships that are no longer there and the beef we have between
people and things being brought back up and everything like that all right so
let's start asking ourselves these questions see what we're doing if we can
relate and try to develop some self-awareness and try not to judge
everybody else so harshly alright so anyways yeah I saw Jesse smiles made a
video earlier today had absolutely no clue who Jesse smiles was but I got kind
of caught up to date and with her video or almost 30 minute long video like you
kind of get enough contacts that you need so Jessismiles and Gabby Hannah
used to be friends now they're not what happened alright so again this isn't
about them if you just want some tea if you want some mindless tea y'all can
go somewhere else alright but like I want you to look at this from your own
perspective and ask yourself can you relate to this situation alright they
used to be friends now they're not okay so basically Jesse smiles she she made
this video after Trisha Paytas made her video talking about Gabby Hannah you
know all this other stuff okay so this is something I've noticed a lot too and
by the way this is just how we operate as a society as human beings as part of
our nature okay I don't have time to dive into the evolutionary psychology
behind it but once somebody is you know quote-unquote exposed everybody comes
out of the woodwork alright just real quick example
remember when James Charles was exposed by Totti Westbrook right then everybody
- popping up all right all of a sudden Sam from Seattle and you know this guy
gage my story to tell all right so anyways this is what I
believe you know wall she admits it Jessismiles then share her story about
Gabbi Hanna and as I'm you know watching it and everything like that you know the
first thing we have to recognize is everybody lives in their own reality
okay like where especially when friendships break apart right or even
breakups like I'm telling you guys right now I'm told you there's only one way
only one way that I landed that beautiful woman sitting right behind me
my beautiful girlfriend Tristan and it's because of this all right all of the
breakups that I went through and all the toxic relationships I went through all
of those things right three years it was so easy to look at everything the other
person did wrong in those relationships but the only way I was able to get into
this healthy relationship is because I was able to reflect on those old
relationships and say oh you know what I wasn't perfect
alright there were definitely things that I did but I just want you guys to
develop this self-awareness like everybody is the hero of their own story
alright gabby is in her reality she has had all of her own experiences all of
that information and she believes that she is absolutely 1000% right in this
situation right like maybe she was a little bit wrong but she thinks jesse
smiles was even more wrong then you look at Jesse smiles in her reality Gabby's
wrong but maybe Jesse smiles did something a little bit wrong but not
nearly as bad as Gabby right now think about your own life has this ever
happened with a loved one a family member maybe an ex maybe an ex friend
right will you admit a little bit of fault but they're way worse right this
is just how we are but check it out we are never ever ever going to improve if
we keep blaming everyone every single relationship is 50/50 alright we are
each 50% responsible for that relationship
so anyways going into it how did this all come up oh my god so I'm sitting
there and like feel free to correct me if I'm wrong on this but what it appears
so I'm like who's Deanna so I think Dianna is some random fan of Gabby and
Jesse smiles and somehow was talking to Gabby in DMS and Gabby just unloaded all
of this information about Jessie smiles and then Deanna gave it to Jessie smiles
like just explaining that story makes me feel like I'm 15 years old again just
throwing that out there so anyway it's like as I'm looking at this though like
again it is so easy like I'm sitting here I'm like Oh Gabby why would you do
this why would you say all of this stuff in a DM like what is wrong with you why
aren't you thinking right and that's why I paused and I got this self awareness
which we all need to do when we're sitting back and judging everyone else
I'm seeing I'm like oh wait Chris all of your BS that happened earlier this year
happened because you open your big stupid mouth in DMS and that got leaked
out why am I so Chris like who are you to judge you're guilty of it too but as
I'm seeing this and you know I have my opinions and everything like that but I
wanted to make this video because this thought popped into my head when I
started this channel it started you know combining what's going on in the YouTube
community with mental health conversations I have so many people say
Gabby Hanna Gabby Hanna check out Gabby Hanna stuff she talks about mental
health she talks about therapy one of the first videos I saw with Gabby Hanna
was her and dr. Mike doing a collab talking about physical health and mental
health and everything I absolutely loved it and then it was actually probably
about a year ago because then Gabby Hanna started doing vlog myths and she
was talking about a lot about mental health I was talking a lot about therapy
but anyway so I'm sitting there and I was actually gonna make this video just
using Gabby Hanna as an example and saying like how do you know if therapy
is actually working right cuz Gabby Hanna she has been very vocal about
therapy she's been in and out of therapy noticing like that I made a video a long
time ago about that about kind of being self aware of
you're at in your life in your mental health journey and sometimes you need
therapy and other times your life starts getting better and you can back off but
then it's fun to dive back into therapy it's just about knowing our own
fluctuations with our mental health anyway it's like I said I'm sitting
there I'm judging Gaby Hannah I'm looking at my year the year of Chris
right some of you saw the video I did last week or this week about having an
emotional relapse right like I'm sitting there and I'm like well Chris who are
you to ask if therapy is working for someone else is it is it working for you
like I made so many decisions this year based off emotions that I am embarrassed
right and things like that and I'm sitting there but here's the thing and
this is all I want you guys to take away from everything you consume on YouTube
on Twitter on Instagram and everything like that is learn from it learn from it
okay so my process is and this is how I'm trying to continue to learn and
continue to grow because I don't know if you got the memo but this guy is not
perfect and one of the best things we can do is realize that none of us are
perfect but when I see this the first thing I noticed was my judgments of
Gabby Hanna the next thing I noticed was that I have done the same things right
and these are things that I need to reflect on then the next thing is what's
the solution what is the solution and the solution is self-awareness right
like looking at these things because I have seen so many people and I've been
one of these people where you just coast through live life and you don't change
you never change you never evolve but here's a thing I want to end with this
so listen to the words coming out of my mouth okay I don't care who you are I
don't care if you're a therapist a psychologist if you're someone who's
been in therapy your whole life if you've been going to a or ma or if
you're on marriage whatever all of us at some point in our
life because we are human we are going to have setbacks we're gonna slip up
alright and here's my hope for all of you okay recognize it sooner rather than
later I was in a state of unmanageability and chaos for about six
months okay like I could have done worse like I didn't pick up a drink or a drug
I maintained my sobriety and I continued to you know go to therapy and read books
and try to learn about myself and everything like that but it took six
months until I just let go of some stuff that was not benefiting me before I got
this clarity to start progressing in my journey right the way I kind of
envisioned it is just being on this path and then just gonna be knocked off right
and I was knocked off my path for about six months and gradually found my way
back on it and for the last I don't know a few weeks to a month I feel like I've
been back on that path you know what I mean so hopefully in Gabby Hanna's
situation she recognizes this because those DMS were absolutely ridiculous but
you because this video is it for one person it's not just for Gabby Hanna all
right what she probably won't even see this this video is for you okay so
please please please please remember whenever you're having a dispute with
somebody you both have your own version of reality and what happened the sooner
you can do that the sooner you could chill and then you have three options
this is something talking therapy all the time
accept it change it or eliminate it sometimes you got to cut that friendship
out right sometimes you got to accept the person for who it is sometimes you
make a change and what that means if it's somebody that you're trying to keep
in your life like maybe a loved one a family member a significant other you
work through that issue but the next thing is whenever we're judging somebody
else make sure to check in with yourself and say okay where am I at in my life do
I do these things right if I'm spotting it in someone else is this something
that I actively need to work on because if you're not checking in with yourself
when you're watching all this nonsense down on YouTube you're absolutely 1000%
wasting your time all right but anyways that's all I got for this
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