Today I'm going to hopefully blow your mind a little bit.
This is Tripp Kramer from www.trippadvice.com talking about dating, attraction, sex, relationships
the usual.
Specifically today, I want to break down a new concept I've been working on regarding
attraction.
Here's the thing when it comes to attraction, a woman being attracted to you, she's attracted
more to your behavior and personality than anything else.
You have learned all your life that looks is something that's important, because you've
seen it on TV.
Maybe you experienced it as a kid when you're dealing with more superficial attraction.
But you have to understand that while looks do play a part in attraction, again, I'm talking
about women being attracted to men, they do have a part, but it's not as heavy weighted
as your personality.
Because many, many moons ago, back in the caveman days, women were attracted to men,
this is based on evolutionary theory, because of the way they behaved, the way that they
were able to provide resources for the family.
They were able to provide for the family and it was their fearlessness and their courage
and the way they behaved that made them able to do that.
Not their chiseled jaw or six pack abs.
Women basically learned to be attracted to that.
How does this all play into today's video?
I have a 5-letter word for you that I want you to really think about when you're going
up and talking to a woman for the first time or maybe even on a seventh date.
The five letter word is relax, R-E-L-A-X, relax.
When a person is confident, when a person is sure of themselves, when they have high
self-esteem, by the way, everything I just said there, those are the things that women
are attracted to, these intangible behavioral traits.
When you have those going on you are relaxed.
Or I should say that when you're relaxed, you are more confident, you are more sure
of yourself.
I want you to paint the picture here.
A guy who's very nervous, very shy, who wants to go over and talk to a woman, it's going
to be a very tense conversation.
He's not going to be able to give her good eye contact, he might have his hands shoved
in his pockets, he might be slumping over a little bit.
He is not relaxed at all.
Women are attracted and can become attracted to a man who is very relaxed in their presence.
I want you to think about when you're talking to a girl, whether it be on a date or for
the first time when you're doing an approach, how could you be more relaxed?
I gave you an idea of maybe what relax looks like.
You're just more open through body language, giving good eye contact smiling a little bit,
sure of the words that you're saying you're not stumbling over your words.
These are the things that make you appear relaxed.
I want you to relax, when you're talking to a woman that you are attracted to.
A lot of guys can't do this.
And listen, I understand.
When I first started approaching women, I was not relaxed.
I was quite the opposite of relaxed.
I was very scared.
I was nervous.
And that's okay, you're going to be that way too.
I'm not telling you, okay, you better start relaxing right now, you better be comfortable
with the women right away.
No, it's going to be a process.
You might have to talk to like 500 women before you fully become comfortable and relaxed in
their presence so they can say, oh, this guy's not scared and become attracted to you.
It might take a lot of approaches and that's okay.
You will become more confident through the process of being competent.
When you're competent in something, it means that you are comfortable doing it.
You've done it over and over again.
That's where confidence comes from.
I'm saying that because you might need to do a lot of approaching to become competent
to become confident and then appear very relaxed in the presence of a woman.
Think about it this way, the next time you're talking to a girl that you're interested in,
I want you to just breathe.
That's going to help you relax a lot.
Take 5 deep breaths before you go and talk to her or when you are talking to her, if
you can try to multitask here when you're listening to her, try to just take some deep
breaths.
Not like whew in her presence, like that.
But when you're in your presence, just take these nice, deep breaths while you're with
her and before you talk to her to slow your heart rate down a little bit.
Don't be afraid also to talk slow.
You can't talk slow enough, you can always talk too fast.
But it's going to be very hard for you to ever talk so...slow...that people will get
annoyed.
Because you're never going to talk that slow but at least you'll be trying to slow down
your speech which will get you to a normal speech pattern.
Take some deep breaths, relax, talk slow.
Focus on what she's saying, look her in the eye and just breathe.
Meditation helps a lot with this.
If you meditate every day for 5 minutes, just focus on your breathing, close your eyes.
There's apps for that like Headspace, places that you can go wherever you live, that are
quiet that you can just breathe and take a minute.
When you do this enough, you can start to take that and put it into your everyday life,
especially when you're going in approaching women.
Understand that you need to be relaxed.
My program Hooked goes all deep into this.
Not only do I talk about how you have to be relaxed, but I give you other mindsets and
techniques to build attraction with a woman.
It's about being relaxed.
There's a few other things that you need to do to get her interested in you, excited by
you and wanting to see you again.
It's all laid out in a step by step system in the Hooked program.
A lot of you guys have it.
A lot of you guys don't.
You're making a big mistake.
You should go check it out.
And if you don't like it, you can always get a refund.
Go check it out at www.getherhooked.com.
I gotta let you know about it because it works and guys are getting results with it because
it's teaching you everything you need to attract women.
Go check it out and I will talk to you on the next video.