Since you're here, you've probably heard of rimming before and you'd love to know more.
Or you clicked on this video out of curiosity and you have no idea what this is all about.
In either case, you're in the right place. Because today I'm going to teach you
everything you need to know to give a fantastic rim job to your lover.
My name is Helena Nista and I make videos that help you have the best sex of your life. And
today I invite you to explore with me the wonderful and mysterious world of rimming.
I recently had some friends over for my birthday party and the topic of rimming came up.
Just in case you were wondering what people talk about when they come to see their sex therapist
friend - now you know! Some of the people were very enthusiastic and excited about it, others
had mixed feelings and others still didn't really know what it was. And this is a good reflection of
our modern society's relationship with the anus and anal pleasure. Rimming is still considered
quite taboo, which creates a lot of confusion and misinformation around this topic. While
in reality it can be an extremely pleasurable and ecstatic experience. So what actually is rimming?
Rimming is the oral stimulation of the anus. It consists of licking, sucking, kissing, etc.
the area of the anal opening. And if you're experiencing any level of shock, discomfort
or disgust at the thought I assure you that when done right, this can be a very safe, pleasurable,
hygienic and even orgasmic experience. The anus is a very interesting part of the body. It serves a
purpose that is not exactly glamorous and most people experience a high level of shame and
discomfort at the sheer thought of anyone else accessing that part of their body. However,
the thing to understand is that first of all, the anus is just a body part. Just like your nose,
toe or a finger, it's an important and functional aspect of who you are. And secondly, the anus is
one of the most sensitive parts of the body. It has a high concentration of nerve endings, making
it very capable of experiencing a lot of pleasure. And this is exactly why so many people enjoy
anal stimulation, anal sex and anal oral, which is also known as analingus, eating ass, rimming,
etc. Rimming can be a part of foreplay and this is how I personally experienced it before.
Or it can become the main event, it's completely up to you. Also, anybody can enjoy it. Some
people think that anal stimulation belongs in the bedrooms of gay men, but that's not true! Anybody
can enjoy rimming: both giving and receiving, both men and women, straight and gay and anybody of any
other sexual orientation. If you have an anus, you can participate in extremely enjoyable sessions
of anal licking. Okay, so there are a few steps to take in order to prepare for the riming job.
As a receiver, you'll need to take care of your hygiene. It's best to take a shower or wash that
area thoroughly right before. Some people like to shave their bum as well, which will make the area
more sensitive to touch. If you choose to, you might even have a douche or an enema to clean a
little deeper in the rectum. This can be handy if the rimming includes a bit of a penetration,
either with the tongue or with the finger. You should also avoid that day any foods that might
make you feel gassy or bloated. Basically, do whatever you need to do in order to feel clean,
hygienic and comfortable about your anus. As a giver, there are a few things you might need.
First of all, a barrier or protection. If you and your partner are fluid bonded, you can perform the
rimming without any barrier. Otherwise, you'll need a dental dam. Dental dam is a thin piece
of latex that you can place between the anus and your mouth. This can be also handy for the
couples who are fluid bonded but are worried about the taste or the smell for the giver of rimming
or about the transfer of any bacteria from the anus. Alternatively, you can use a condom that you
can cut in half along its length. After unrolling it you'll end up with a homemade dental dam.
You might also choose to use a lube or an edible massage oil. Some of them come flavoured so have
a browse online or in your local sex shop. Usually the best position for the receiver of rimming is
to get on all fours. This gives the giver a really good access to the bum hole. So once you're both
positioned the key is to go slow. It might be even a good idea to start working around the anus
without actually touching it at this stage. So give the bum cheeks a bit of a massage, maybe even
some kisses and caresses first. The internal anal sphincter can clench if your receiver is not fully
relaxed. So make sure to soothe, relax and soften the area first. You can even verbally encourage
your partner to keep letting go of any tension in their anus. When you're ready to start playing
with the anus itself, you might need to part the bump cheeks with your hands first to give yourself
a better access. Keep things really slow, gentle and wet at this stage. Apply the lube or make sure
that you're working with plenty of saliva. The anus doesn't produce any natural lubrication so
it's important that you provide plenty as the giver. Start by making circles around the anus.
For any of these strokes you can either use a flat tongue or the tip of your tongue. Experiment
and keep checking with your receiver to see what they prefer. You're just building up
their pleasure and arousal right now. You can place little kisses all over their anus
or you can blow on it. You can do it with cold air as if you were blowing out a candle
or with warm air as if you are saying 'haaa'. You can also allow your licks to go across the anus
in different directions. These can be really soft and gentle licks or stronger ones,
as your receiver is getting more relaxed, aroused and open to the rimming. You can even stretch the
anus itself, making sure to get feedback from your partner to see how that feels for them.
The muscles love to be stretched and the anus is made up of two rings of muscles, two sphincters.
So spread the sphincters with your fingers and then blow, kiss and lick the deeper, exposed parts
of the anus. You can even perform a bit of oral penetration by sticking the tip of your tongue
into the bum hole. You won't be able to get in too deep but it should be still very pleasurable
to your lover. A cool thing to do is to sort of poke the anus with your tongue with the tip of
your tongue, where you're sort of going in and out rhythmically. While you're rimming your partner,
you can also add genital stimulation with your hand at the same time. The combination of anal
rimming and stroking their vulva and clit or penis and scrotum at the same time can be a really
powerful combination. You can also play with toys and stimulate them with the vibrator for example,
while your tongue is busy with their anus. As it is the case with any other sexual activity,
rimming requires a full consent of both people. Just because you consent to the activity at the
beginning, doesn't mean that you cannot withdraw that consent later. If for whatever reason you
change your mind, you have a full right to say 'stop' to the entire activity. Alternatively, you
might just want some changes in how the rimming is going so make sure to keep a good communication
about how you're feeling and what you're desiring in each moment. The whole experience should be
relaxing, pleasurable and even exciting. So don't put up with anything that you're not enjoying.
Rimming also gives you an amazing opportunity to address any guilt, shame or embarrassment about
the anus. As I mentioned before, a lot of people feel discomfort about their backsides. So giving
or receiving a rim job can be a wonderful way to get over that. I hope that you enjoyed this
guide to rimming. If you did, please make sure to leave me a 'Like' and a comment below: have you
ever performed or received rimming? And how was it for you? Make sure to also check out my free
online course Tantra For Beginners and my book "Legendary lover". Links to both are available
in the description below. I really do hope that as you watch my videos, they keep expanding
your mindset about sex and that they keep encouraging you to be more open and adventurous
with your erotic experiences. But whether you do or not ever engage in anal oral sex, aka rimming,
I am extremely grateful that you're here, watching, liking, commenting and helping me spread
positive sexual revolution in the world. Have a fantastic day and I'll see you next time!