Hey Dan here and in this video you're going to learn the easiest way to become
disciplined if you are an ENFP or an INFP now if you're new to the channel my
name is Dan as I said and this is Dreams Around The World where my mission is to
help you become the best version of yourself. One of the most requested
topics I received in one of my videos five skills ENFP should master is how
to be more disciplined and this is not surprising right
as ENFPs and our friends the INFPs we tend to be very creative, very fun, very
interesting people. Discipline is not always something you hear about us and
yet I have to say some of the most disciplined people I know are ENFPs when
we commit to something we can be insanely disciplined so when we take the
right approach we do have the ability to be very very disciplined and to stick to
things but if we take the wrong approach he can be all over the map know if
you're someone who feels like you have a bit of a scattered brain like you're
already debating clicking over on another video there's something I wanted
to add to the end of this video about how to deal with that and not feel like
you're all over the map like there's no hope of discipline and I thought as I
was planning out this video wait if that's at the end of the video these
people aren't actually going to make it to the end of the video so it won't help
them so if that is you please do stick around to the end of the video for if
you don't yet have that ability skip to like the last two minutes of the video
and then you can always bounce back here so the first thing you need to know
about discipline is it really is a muscle it's something that you can build
and you can lose and I've had parts of my life where I've been very very
disciplined and parts where I've been a lot less discipline and I've seen that
across the board where if I become really disciplined I've built that
muscle it becomes easier to follow through and be disciplined in all areas
and if I've let that slide and got more and more laid-back it tends to affect
all areas of my life so keep that concept in mind as I go through these
steps and things to do now the next thing to keep in mind is your
relationship with being comfortable if you were planning to go running in the
morning say you're a runner and you wake up in it's rainy outside do you consider
going for the run still do you decide never mind it's raining not running
today or does it not and cross your mind to stop running
because yeah maybe it's uncomfortable being out there in the rain but that was
your plan and you're gonna do it your relationship with comfort will have
a big impact on your ability to be disciplined because as your mood maybe
fluctuates in the day as you get tired maybe hungry whether or not you stick to
something and follow through will depend a lot on your own ability to be
uncomfortable this is why you may have heard a lot of people talking about this
cold shower trend of people intentionally having really cold showers
in the morning it's a way to train yourself to be comfortable being
uncomfortable and say yeah this does not feel good but it doesn't kill me it
doesn't hurt me if anything cold showers apparently help you from a health
perspective and so you train yourself to be comfortable sticking to something
even if it is not actually comfortable and this leads me to the first proactive
thing you can do to really build that muscle pick something small that you
don't currently do that would make you a little bit uncomfortable and that you'd
have to be disciplined to do and make an effort to start doing that everyday it
could be getting up 15 minutes earlier or getting up and going for a walk or
going for a run it could be trying out a cold shower
eating some kind of health food that you don't really like but having a small
salad every morning in the day something that is going to have a positive impact
on your life and that you'll need to be disciplined to do but won't be so
difficult I know I'm speaking to a lot of ENFPs here and you might have the
tendency to be like okay every day I'm gonna get up and have four raw food
smoothies and climb Mount Everest and go for a 20 kilometer triathlon is that
what you mean ten No don't do the ENFP thing on this do the small steps thing
pick little things you can do that you'll stick to that easy that's clear
and that you can commit to and build that muscle and then after a few weeks
after maybe let's say two to three weeks make it a little bit harder same use as
you would do at the gym if you were lifting weights right if something
becomes easier add more weight make it more difficult and continue to build
those muscles and this is where the next step comes in which is to be intentional
and to plan out your days and your weeks after
planning your days in advance is actually one of the biggest ways to
trick people into making them think that you're disciplined but really just
following a plan and making yourself like dumb cavemen who does what he is
told Monday was one of those days for me where a wrench was really thrown into
the machine a couple of times I woke up I'd set an alarm I was gonna get up
early and go for a run I slept through the alarm a little bit I'm not used to
using alarms some of you know that I just haven't used an alarm in years
unless I have an appointment and so I slept through the alarm and then I went
look out the window for this run and there's some smog right now Prague has a
bit of a smog issue some weird weather thing happening and you're not really
supposed to run in smog so it was the first thing where I started like okay
well this day is not going as planned but I committed to running and the smog
wasn't too too bad so I still went for a run and then later in the day I'd
committed I'm going to this acting class I wanted to try out and I was not
feeling like it by time it was 6:00 p.m. the action class was gonna start I did
not feel like taking a tram to the other side of the city going to this new class
but I'd committed to it in the schedule and that is this little superpower that
allows you or at least allows me to be a lot more disciplined because I looked at
the paper I said hey I committed to this I committed to this plan just do it just
show up and so this is why planning your days in detail can be really effective
for us ENFPs and INFPs because we can have some save mood swings energy
changes things like that throughout the day and if we trust ourselves to just do
what feels good in the moment that is a recipe for a changing direction for not
going to the gym or not eating well or not following through in projects but if
we commit ourselves to a plan then all we need to do is follow that plan if you
say hey today I'm gonna do these five things then all you need to do
throughout the day is just stay on the plan not question it not rethink not
give yourself an out just stay on the plan truthfully this is one of the
easiest ways to stay disciplined because you're not questioning everything you're
not rethinking everything all you do is stay on that plan and so as long as you
follow step one and start to build that discipline muscle even a little bit
it becomes really easy to stick to the plan and actually follow through so step
one build that discipline muscle step two make the habit of planning your days
in advance and then committing to following that plan and just doing it
not overthinking now I mentioned earlier in the video about having a fried brain
and if you're someone who really can't focus on anything and I'm fortunate that
this is not me very often but it is happening to a lot of people and I have
been in this state of mind due primarily to electronics to social media to having
these addictive games and I feel like an old man here right this social media and
these addictive games but truthfully this fries a lot of people's brains I
got a message on my Facebook page a few months ago from someone who was referred
to me they said hey one of my friends referred me to you and they said you
your good coach that you might be able to help me and I quickly looked on this
person's Facebook page and they were posting stupid things every 20 minute
and I just responded back take a week off Facebook until you can do that I
can't work with you like there's no point us having this
conversation because if you're that addicted to social media your brain is
not going to work to the level where I can work with you or where you maybe can
develop part of this discipline habit to follow through on things so if you're at
the point now where you can't watch a ten minute video even at one and a half
or two times speed the bad news is you may have fried a bit of your brain but
the good news is we can rebuild it and ultimately you rebuild it following the
same steps I talked about you're just gonna want to start smaller and it's
going to be a little bit harder but trust me if that's the state you're in
this is so so important to transform in your life and being able to do the
things you really want to do one thing I'd recommend for your discipline habit
if that is you is take a one hour walk every day with no phone I don't mean
your phone on silent I don't mean your phone off your phone stays at home or in
your office but if you have an office job when you go for lunch leave your
phone in the office if you're at home leave it at home go for a walk for one
hour a day now I'd like to also challenge you to take an entire day like
Sunday every week completely off your phone take the battery out that might be
a big ask so start with the one hour a day know
and then gradually build it up the same way I talked about building that
discipline muscle build it up by leaving your phone completely off battery out if
you have a battery otherwise just fully turned off and do that for an hour a day
and then start pushing that for longer and longer times and start taking back
your mental capacity and your attention because that's the number one thing you
can do right now to regain control and be able to follow through on your bigger
goals so I hope that wasn't too preachy but really social media phone addiction
that kind of stuff I think is so dangerous and really ruining a lot of
people's lives and I got to speak my mind on it right let me know in the
comments what is that one thing you're going to start doing each day to build
your discipline muscle I respond to all comments at least those within the first
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