Yes, you can have a love marriage in Sikhi
But
There are certain restrictions
You should start with an Ardaas
That's Okay
You like her, she likes you
You might even talked about it, but then
before you do anything
Do an Ardaas
and you should tell you parents
Okay?
You should tell up
Make it clear, there are no Gupt things in Sikhi
There's nothing Gupt
Naam is Paragatt, everything is Paragatt
Gurmat and everything is written down for you.
There's nothing Gupt a part from Dasam Duaar
Now
Therefore, we tell our parents
Make it a public thing
Marriage is a pubblic thing as much is a personal thing
You tell your parent that you want to get married to him..
He has purposed to me
He is a nice guy, what do you think?
Get the parents involved
Do a Hukamnama, do a Mangani
The Mangani is like the engagement
Set a date
Don't go around like now people do
They're dating, this stuff, they don't tell their parents
What's that all about?
Why you are hiding stuff
Sikhi should be Pargatt
So, you can have a love marriage but make sure you go through that way
There's a lot of question about me and Sukhmani on this by the way
We have ignored tham as much as we can
But
We had a love marriage because no one has done a Bacholan for us
But It didn't start off with love
It start off with we doing an Ardaas
And the Hukamnamma saying: "Get married!"
And I said: "Wow"
And then
I didn't want get married that time
Took me 3 months to build up to proposing
But I proposed first
And then, Maharaj Kirpa, she said "yes"
Obviously, then it developed into love
Just try not to go straight in love
Think about compatibility
It's important to think about compatibility because
If you think only "love"
Love comes and then goes
Marriage is much more than love,
it's much more about commitment
Compromise
Showing each other space as well
There are many things a part from marriage
and not just love
So, don't think Bollywood
Bollywood is is going to mess you up
It doesn't work in that way ?
We got to think a bit more in long term
So think about compatibility, like yesterday in the skit
She through out a list.
Have a list of things!
Say: "You should be Chardi Kala Singh"
Or "You should be doing a Paath" all that kind of staff, right?
Don't have like
"He likes me, that's it!"
Value yourself a little bit!
So you have a list of things that you want from somebody
It hasn't to be a crazy list
Like:" He must be earning this much.."
At least: "He should be like believing in Maharaj"
"Should be doing his Paath"
"Should be following Sikhi"
"Should be able to stand up for me"
You men should be standing out for their women.
"Should be able to stand up for me"
He's got some guts.
Believes, follows Sikhi
And not just talks about it
Those things..
And if you got a few things
"He's like hunky guy "
That's not too bad!
But
Be prepared to compromise on certain things
But don't try to compromise on your Sikhi!
And it should certaily be your rule
That he doesn't bend your Sikhi down
Right?
Don't let your Sikhi be broken by anybody
You are going to make Sikhi
to happen first.
Don't let it get broken by somebody