so the other day Josh Evans released the video threatening to expose Colleen
ballinger Shane Dawson and Trisha Paytas but it looks like he has changed his
mind and Shane Dawson even reached out to him and there's so much that we can
learn from this entire situation so make sure that you stay tuned what is up
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all right anyways let's jump into this thing so
yeah if you haven't seen yet watch my last video about Josh Evans he has since
deleted that video so I want to say right now
like please for the love of God if you're watching this video if you're if
you're here like learn from this situation like I could not express how
proud I am of this dude Josh like mom man
Josh like this is huge so anyways he just released his new video and he
discusses how you know he you know took down his other video and he changed his
mind he's not gonna do that so like here's
like so many of us can relate to this and you know when he released his first
video I'm like okay like this is just like a warm-up video like he labeled at
part one I'm like maybe he's gonna change his mind right because he could
have just come out and did it all and just released this whole thing but I
don't know maybe a part of him knew it was a bad idea but so many of us do this
like when we let our emotions dictate our actions it gets us in to trouble
alright this is why we need to work on our mental health and regulate our
emotions because it can lead us to doing bad things so like I like Josh like
thank God you know he made that kind of warm up video before the actual video
and he was able to decompress and change his mind
like I can relate to that so much like can I relate to that but I wish I had
you know the ability that Josh did like if you read my book cancel or if you've
been around for a while I made a video a while back in a hotel room at about not
oh no two in the morning released it deleted it the next day it wasn't good I
talked about that in the book right and I wish I would have given it time but
like a lot of us do this so much like when we're feeling depressed and we're
just feeling hurt and Josh opened up about you know his parents splitting up
and he got really vulnerable and everything like that and in my opinion I
don't think he's playing the victim or anything like that like it's just things
that we go through and that's what happens and it's not a valid excuse for
certain behaviors but we need to understand like people are going through
stuff and something that I learned a long time ago
especially reflecting on who I used to be because I used to be a real dick but
hurt people hurt people and that's what Josh was talking about
like and I really hope one of the lessons that everybody can take away
from this is just realize the people in your life who are hurting you or even
the strangers online who are hurting you just know they are probably going
through something all right no this does not give a good reason for
somebody to say terrible things to you on Twitter
or Instagram or Facebook or whatever it is that's not a good reason but I just
want you to look at Josh's situation and understand a lot of people are going
through situations like that and they lash out online like that's something
that keeps me sane on this platform when I get hate
comments when people make videos about me and all these other things like I'm
like this person is probably hurting you know what I mean this person has
something going on in their life and sometimes my emotions get the best of me
but when I'm able to pause and even just take a few breaths I'm like you know
what this person is probably hurting because most of my life I was hurting
and I'm so glad that like I don't know there's no public records of the awful
person I used to be like I hurt and I wanted everybody else to hurt too right
and I was just such a dick online right and that's why I empathize with people
who come after me and hate on me and trolled me right I'm like okay like
you're probably hurting just as bad as I was but anyways so Josh's situation when
he made that first video which he ended up taking down here's my suggestion okay
and this is something that I'm still actively working on but I'm a lot better
at it than I used to be and it's this when you are feeling some type of way
whether it's depression or anger or whatever it is and you're about to make
a decision this is why we need a support group so we can bounce that idea off of
somebody well I mean we're gonna do something we should ask somebody else
and say hey does this seem like a good idea you know what I mean and it seems
like Josh had those people afterwards but not before and this is something
that I've had to do many times that video that I mentioned the video that I
mentioned that I deleted I didn't have people around I was out of town and I
just fortunes right but 99% of time like you guys there are so many videos that
I've roof I haven't made look at a house other people I asked my beautiful
girlfriend Tristan or a mentor of mine or my therapist or like a sponsor like
or people who are in recovery to them I do you think this is a good idea right
and like you guys if there's nothing else if you've been zoned out this whole
like please please please please pay attention to the part of Josh's video
where he says like the answer is never ever ever ever to try to hurt somebody
else and this is something that makes me really sad about the YouTube community
not all the YouTube community but the community that I you know I'm not a huge
fan of right now there are a lot of commentary channels where they hold
grudges and they try to make content as a way as a weapon you know what I mean
they're like you know what I don't like this person I'm gonna make a video right
and that's a sad way to live man it's a really sad way to live like trust me
trust me my feelings get hurt I can be a sensitive mofo right and I check my
motives before I make videos because I'm like am I just trying to hurt this
person do I want them to hurt do I want to cause them harm because I learned
over many many years of my life like that it doesn't help I mentioned that in
my last video about Josh like it seems like a good idea right and I don't have
enough time in this video to explain to you the evolutionary psychology behind a
revenge but there's a reason why we want revenge is the reason why we want other
people to hurt right it actually makes us feel good and let
me know down in the comments if you want me to make a separate video or maybe
talk about it in a podcast but anyways something I learned is that it's never
the answer I used to be the type of person and maybe you can relate to this
where if somebody to you know like got me I wanted to get them ten times worse
you know and it never did me any favors alright so the last thing that we'll
talk about is Josh mentions that Shane Dawson reached out to him and like
that's so cool Shane Dawson is a good dude Shane Dawson
is one of the most legit dudes on the platform is he flawless no he's a human
being like the rest of us but the fact that Shane Dawson reached out to Josh
you know that's huge and we may you know we may never know what that conversation
was about but maybe you know when Colleen and Josh went through that
divorce Shane might have you know inadvertently hurt Josh you know what I
mean and this is why like I just really try to advocate for us to have
conversations with each other just talk to each other I've been talking to so
many people and DMS on Twitter and Instagram and things like it is
mind-blowing how many times people hold grudges like people hold grudges like
you see this with Josh right we hold grudges for months for years right and
it's all based on a misunderstanding one of the worst cognitive distortions
that we can have is being mind reader's right we think we know what that other
person is thinking we think we know why they did exactly what they did but we
don't we need to have conversations with people we need to be grownups we need to
be adults we need to just start talking to people and this is something that
kind of twists us YouTube creators like many of us YouTube creators you look
around look at all the back-and-forth response videos it's like we don't even
know how to have conversations anymore we feel like we have to make these big
expose videos and everything like that and just like reply and everything like
I I do make an effort to reach out to any creator who has a problem with me
most of them 99% of them won't have a conversation a lot of them even you know
tweet publicly because they won't talk to you in DMS I was actually talking to
another creator in DMS who has coming out me on Twitter publicly
I had him open the dance I'm like dude like why don't you just talk to me
privately because like that's kind of the day and age that we live in where
people just want to you know expose each other and it's just it's sad man and
it's just like I accept that that's part of living in 2019 and that's like the
culture we live in but I really hope that all of you start having
conversations with the people in your life and quit holding on to these
grudges because it's just causing your own suffering you know what I mean if
you have a problem with somebody just talk to him about it you know maybe you
misunderstood their motives their intentions maybe they didn't even
realize they hurt you you know what I mean but anyways like I'm super super
super proud of Josh I hope he doesn't leave I'm really happy to hear that he's
you know back therapy and everything like that it
sounds like he's tried different things like maybe neurofeedback or transcranial
magnetic stimulation for his depression or whatever it is but I don't know I
would love to see and talk more about that because I think he's helping a lot
of people well I've been anyways that's all I got for this video make sure you
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