most people are not really hurt by the
world they're hurt by their own
expectations uh I read somewhere that HG
Wells was very disappointed in people he
felt we would have arrived at more of a
scientific Community than what we have
today but what hurt him was not the
world it was his
expectations he expected people to lean
more toward science and less toward
metaphysics and he suspected that the
system would be would gather
intelligence and know the right
direction so what really hurt him was
his own
expectations the real answer to that
question is whatever happens in the
world is real what you think should
happen is not real so you're not
disappointed by the world you're
disappointed by your own
projections if you meet a person you say
that's a wonderful person and they turn
out to be different than you
suspected you get mad and you say she
isn't that wonderful or he isn't that
wonderful and it's your own projections
that you're mad at the right way to look
at a person is I don't know enough about
them to make a judgment and in time when
you make a
judgment uh you say up to now they
appear to be so so but uh something may
come back that reminds them of something
else so they hurt you they really don't
hurt you they're normal that is normal
to their
values like my mother would believe in
religion because it's normal to her
background and when things get tough she
prays rather than cuz she doesn't know
what else to
do what you have to do is take time out
and try to inform people as to how to
look at things it may take you two or
three years to do that but we would
expect to find people that understand
what we say when they shake their head I
guess that doesn't mean they understand
means they understand a limited
amount so the point is what are your
expectations now in chemistry if you mix
certain things together certain things
happen at a certain
temperature at different temperatures
the same thing doesn't happen you can
get M and throw the experiment on the
floor if you don't follow the
rules so if a person wants to be more
analytical then have to learn how to say
I don't know or up to now everything
seems to be okay my relationship seems
to work out in many different areas or
more areas than I expected sometimes
we're pleasantly surprised by the
reaction of people we had a negative
view of I may have a negative view of
you but in time observing what you do my
negative view becomes a positive view
but if I have a negative view it means I
was projecting I really don't know so
the point is when events occur that are
tough if a person deserts you at that
time you understand that they can't live
under those conditions they're not bad
people that revert back to their
conditioning now reverting back to their
conditioning
means if if the world is
catastrophic if a man is shot he's
laying in the battlefield he says I hope
the first a people come soon I don't
feel very good they don't come if they
don't come soon he says where the hell
are
they he expected them to come sooner but
they come as soon as they can come
whatever that is and if you can't take
it you can square all you want to but if
you can't continue to swear and continue
to get angry they're apt to arrive
during that period and you say well it's
my prayers cuz I hoped they would come
and rescue me that goes
for H Wells had a scene in the movie I
think was called the shape of things to
come in which a pilot shot down a German
pilot or another pilot and he went over
to the plane craft
and the guy was uh very ill he couldn't
leave he says the plane is going to
explode and I'm badly damaged so this
guy gave him a gun to shoot himself and
the motion picture air mail there was a
guy caught in an airplane couldn't get
out it was
burning so the guy shot him twice guy
loved him but he didn't want him to burn
to
death does that Mur
what is
it if anybody claimed he was suffering
so much from cancer I shot him is that
love how do you talk about
love you know what I mean if a person is
suffering from cancer he say please take
my life the doctor says I can live three
months with this condition and you hear
him crying out suffering and you shoot
him are you a murderer are you kind all
those words words are very difficult to
deal with it depends on the situation
depends on how attached you are to the
person if you don't give a damn about
their suffering you know what I mean so
people begged certain doctors to take
their lives they were suffering too much
it was too much on their family they
didn't have a bank account to pay for
this medical condition that they were
under and they said please end my life
because of pain is
unbearable and the Bible says you're not
supposed to take a life no matter what
the pain is that's so your entry into
heaven especially in India a person is
suffering a great deal they're paying
off that Karma if you end that you shoot
them they can't pay off that Karma so or
you got all these crazy things that you
are exposed to and you use your logic
thinking that it makes sense it only
makes sense if a person says I see your
point but I'm unable to accept it
emotionally there are people like that
that can't do that they can't shoot
their father even though he's suffering
because it says Thou shalt not kill and
they figured even they shot their father
that was suffering they committed a
crime against
God so remember it's your own EXP
expectations that hurt you not the world
you live in whatever happens in the
world is real what you think should
happen is unreal so people are hurt by
their expectations any questions about
that if you have reasonable expectations
such as I don't know and whatever
happens you say J I didn't think it
would be that bad how do you know how
bad it would be
whatever happens no matter how bad it is
if 50 kids are killed in a bus crash
that's a problem why were they killed
the bus slipped off an icy Highway what
can you do about it I don't know and the
condition will
prevail unless you come up with uh a new
way of friction tires that can't skid on
icy highways that's the best you can do
but if you make made those ties and you
put them on the bus and the bus still
slipped it means you got more to go you
can't say I made I tires it won't
slip that's a projection unless you test
it out many
times do you understand so what does man
really want he really wants accurate
predictability you cannot achieve that
unless you're
technical accurate predictability
if an engine fails it means there's
something wrong with a fuel pump or any
number of things if you can't attend to
those things then the probability is
that at some time or other the engine
will
fail now I don't expect you to walk
around accepting everything that happens
I expect you to be angered and say what
can I do about it I don't know but I'm
going to try I'm going to try to make it
possible for people not to be injured
I'm going to try to design a conveyor
that's on the tracks and under the
tracks that's locked so even in an
amusement park the loop the loop can't
go off the tracks CU it's got under
braces but the under braces may be
perfect but the structure of the unit
may not be so to the ability of an
individual ual to handle all those
things is very difficult but he only
knows or she only knows what to handle
after the
event do you think in order the event
has to occur first then the person makes
a safety device and he solved that
problem but there may be other problems
and another event may occur that's
negative and the person says what can I
do about it I don't know enough about it
I'm going to read up on it and try to
become familiar with the nature of the
problem and try to solve it and when a
person says to you have you solved it
this is the device I made in an attempt
to solve it will it work well according
to the test I did it will but in reality
it was cold and the oil didn't flow so
the thing wasn't lubricated and it
didn't work there are other factors you
learn about later on
that's called after the facts so some
people get mad at technicians they say
you're a technician why did that thing
fail what do you
suggest is what you put to that person
if they say you designed that unit and
it failed yes it did fail apparently I
didn't know enough about solving that
problem what do you suggest don't get
mad at me what do you suggest you've
done nothing but expect me to solve the
problem