As a transformation coach many people often write me and they're like 'Drew, you know,
what transformation did you go through' and they see my before and after pictures and
their impressed, you know I changed physically.
But one of the biggest things that we often neglect is the mental transformation.
I'm talking about mindset and recently I read a book by Carol S. Dweck she's a Stanford
psychologist, an amazing book, and I'm going to talk to you more about the book in this
video, but first I want to tell you a personal story that happened a long long time ago.
As a kid growing up, I was abused, tortured, you probably seen some of my other videos
in regards to this, but there's a lot of healing that took place in my younger years.
Long story short I was adopted into a family that was ultimately the most loving, caring
family that I've ever wished for.
My mom and my dad, Connie and Jeff, amazing people, they were so loving in fact that,
I see a lot of parents doing this today and it can almost be a pitfall where instead of
awarding me for the struggles that I was going through in school, they were always praising
me, so if I got an A, it was always like 'Drew you're the best, you did such an amazing job'
and every single thing that I would do I started choosing things that I know I can master quickly
and that's a trap because it's like a quick fix.
In America, is so hung up on quick fixes nowadays.
I mean, take for instance, extreme weight loss challenge, as a transformation coach,
I love Chris Paul's work, I'm not knocking him by any means but you can watch the show
and in forty five to sixty minutes you've seen somebody who's almost three hundred pounds,
and it's almost like a quick fix.
So people have this on their subconscious mind, they go out throughout the day and they
think that that's obtainable but this is the reality that we're living and that's not to
reality.
What happened to awarding people for their struggle, rewarding people for their triumph,
for all the trials and tribulations that they went through.
I look at you and I see many struggles, I see people that have all these diverse diseases,
things that they're going through, weight loss challenges, and mental challenges that
their running into constantly and the world doesn't want to see that, all the world wants
to see is the victory, the victory is very sexy, they struggle not so much.
So as a transformation coach, specialize one thing that we work on, for you, is your whydentity,
once you start our program we work on your whydentity, it's formulating your why based
around your identity.
Because you could have a physical transformation, you could get in the best shape of your life,
have more energy, mental focus and all the other benefits of the transformation process
but at the end of it you could go right back to the way that you were.
And the reason for that is because your identity hasn't changed around it, also known as identity
coaching.
So one of the big cornerstones of identity coaching is working on two different distinct
types of mindset.
Number one is fixed mindset, number two is a growth mindset, and it can be taken from
this book Mindset by Carol Dweck, amazing book by the way.
So what is a fixed mindset, and what does it have to do with you?
A fixed mindset is relating back to my story, is you choose things that you can do easily,
effortlessly, where you look good, right?
You look good to the world and this is a trap.
You know, everybody wants to look good, but not everybody wants to work for it, so you
go out and you choose things that are real, simple, easy just to knock it out.
And a growth mindset is you do whatever it takes, you wake up every single day springing
up out of bed, you know wanting the challenge, wanting the struggle, wanting things to come
in that are going to force you beyond who you were previously, it's going to force you
in a state of your higher self, somebody who's thinking more creativity, you know creatively,
somebody who is in control of their life, not letting their life control them, not waiting
for the victory, but instead going out and finding something that's challenging, finding
something that have fear over.
And this person with the growth mindset is also the person that doesn't look as fear
as fear, they look at fear as excitement, and the feeling of fearful, but just that
bottled-up excitement, ready to take on that challenge on that struggle.
So there's two very different mindsets that we have today, we got the growth mindset,
we have the fixed mindset.
So there's a way to evaluate, in Carol's book, she explains it I'm not really going to get
into it in this video, but maybe I'll do another future one and explain to you as well but
you can definitely check out the book.
The next thing that I want to talk about is and it's all relative, it's going to tie this
thing together, is that parents raising their kids okay?
There's effective ways to communicate with your kids, that are going to raise a child
with the growth mindset, somebody that is much more successful in their life growing
up, it's simple.
Instead of always awarding your kids for getting that A, start recognizing the journey, so
instead of waiting for them at the finish line and depending on how to do is how you
award them, let's cultivate a society that awards people for their journey, for their
struggle, for the triumph of getting up because what we don't really see is if, you know,
little Suzie is awesome at math and she get straight A's but she's terrible at science,
she may be trying fifty times harder insights and growing as a person, infinitely more than
she did not in that Math class, but we kind of just disregard it when she comes home and
see that C on her report card.
What we need to start doing is watching the journey then applying that to your own life
regardless of whether or not you're a parent.
I want to ask you a question, how are you having a fixed mindset whereas you're just
doing things that are easy, effortless, and you just can stroll through your day it's
just simple, it's a state of complacement, maybe you're in a fixed relationship, you're
in a relationship that you know probably isn't serving your higher self, it's not conducive
to you growing as a person but yet you continue to stay in it, because you're afraid of being
alone.
Ninety percent of America is actually in fact afraid of being alone, so they'd rather be
in a bad relationship than have a good relationship with growth relationship, something that's
going to propel you into the future together, that's a growth relationship.
Same thing can go for your finances, maybe you have a job, you've been doing the same
thing for two or three years, you're at the point where you're fixed, it's easy for you,
you have all these sales relationships with these other companies, money just seems to
be coming in, it's not pushing you to triumph along the journey longer.
So I want to encourage you to today, to start thinking about getting a growth mindset in
this transformation process, it's vitally important and literally has the power to change
your life.
This book is great, it's filled with all other stories, all other ways to apply it, tools,
tips to recognizing the test to see if you have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset,
I highly recommend it.
I want you to know and I really want you to feel this, when I say this to you, that failure
is awesome; it's a really really good thing because that's just another opportunity to
see success on the other side.
Thomas Edison failed over two thousand times in creating the light bulb but he created
the light bulb because he was comfortable with the growth mindset.
Walt Disney, same way, he went to two hundred and eighty banks or something like that before
a bank actually says yes we'll give you the money loan.
So I want you to start thinking about failure is being fun and you can say things to your
kids like that too as a parent you know, isn't the struggle great?
This is amazing; we're having so much fun struggling through this.
During the downturn of the economy, things are hard but as a family we're coming together
and we're having fun, we're figuring out creative ways to make money for the family to put food
on the table, veggies and the juicer.
I want you to start thinking that okay?
Also the language that we choose to use with kids, if something's too easy, you know if
they're getting an A in class we're like 'oh that's great you're getting an A' wouldn't
it be nice to kind of have a challenge, this isn't even a challenge for you to me, let's
start doing things that will challenge you and get them involved in the process, get
involved in the journey so that they start choosing things that are going to force them
on the growth mindset.
Anyway, leave a comment below and also if you like these types of videos I absolutely
love making mindset Mondays, give this a big old thumbs up and when you do comment below,
let me know all areas in your life where you've had a fixed mindset and make a commitment
to me to the push past those, okay?
As a coach I love hearing from you, the struggles, the trials, the tribulations that you're going
through, so that I can really read through those and respond back to you accordingly
because at the end of the day you know this and I know this, remember we're in this together..