Hey, how you doing? Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com. Welcome to my channel if
you're here for the first time. On today's video, I want to talk about what you need to do if you're
recently single. This can be from a breakup, this can be from you breaking up with someone, of
course them breaking up with you. This can also be the fact that maybe you've just decided that now
is the time in your life to start putting yourself out there and meeting and dating women. A lot of
guys who I've coached and worked with, they decide to do coaching and put everything into it because
for such a long time, they have been focused on their studies. They've been focused on their work
and making money, all those good things. Now that you are recently single, or at least newly single
trying to get yourself out there and have some sort of plan. What are you supposed to do? I like
to break it down and I kind of compare it to sales and sales techniques. Basically, what I mean is,
when you're someone who's a salesman, when you're trying to make sales, make money,
maybe even build a business, the whole idea is getting what's called leads. You have people who
might be interested in something that you have to sell. We call these things leads, people who are
interested. The whole idea with sales is, you want to get a lot of leads so you can eventually make
a sale to one of the people who are interested in what it is that you're selling. We call that
leads. And then we also have what's called a sales funnel. This is gonna sound a little strange right
now, but we'll get to the dating part, it all relates. You have what's called a sales funnel.
Imagine like a funnel at the top, it's very big and then it gets smaller and smaller at
the bottom. The sales funnel is you get a lot of leads of people going into the funnel and it gets
lower and lower to the point where there's someone who's going through the sales funnel and buys what
you have to sell. I like to compare this or use this as an analogy to someone who is dating. If
you're newly single, or even if you're watching this and you're not recently single and you're
still trying to get yourself out there, we can use this analogy. How this compares to you actually
going out there and dating is you want to meet women. All the women in the world right now are a
potential lead. It's a potential lead, someone who you can be with. But you can't be with every woman
because not every woman is available to be with you. And not every woman is going to be attracted
to you. That's why we have a lot of leads and we put them into the sales funnel, or this funnel for
you. And it's the dating funnel where it narrows and narrows until you have some women that have
a good potential of being with you. We call this maybe a match or someone that you're interested
in. The idea behind dating is you want to have a lot of leads. You want to say okay,
there's got to be some women out there that can be people that I can potentially date. But
where are these leads? Where are these women? As a person who's newly single, you have to figure out
where are these women? Where are they hanging out? Where can I meet them? Like if you're a salesman
and you're selling a product that helps you wash your car better, you're going to probably go to
places where people are trying to have a cleaner car. Maybe you sell your product to car washes or
something like that. But for you, you're trying to meet women who are a potential match. Where
do we meet people? We want people who are single. That's a good start. Right off the top my head,
of course, very obvious, online dating. Online dating is a place to start. That's one idea.
But what's some less obvious places to find leads? Where are people out and about that might
be meeting someone? What comes up very quickly, maybe a bar or a club. That's like the very common
place where there are people who are single who are meeting other people. That's one idea.
Where are some other ideas? Where are more leads? Because we want to figure out where are these
leads? And then how can we put ourselves out there and in front of them to then have a lot of options
to then get to a lot of dates? Other unknown places might be in downtown areas out and about.
Places where people are walking around. Now, they may not be single, but still, maybe there's an
opportunity because not every single person is in a relationship or dating somebody. That's a
potential idea. Maybe going out and taking time during your day to go out and meet some women.
Maybe in places where you frequent like the gym or your hobbies or places that you like to go to
that maybe other people might be interested in this. Just think about where you're spending
most of your time. But also, we want to create time to be able to go out there and meet women
like I said. So again, we're thinking about this in terms of leads. All the potential opportunities
for you to be meeting a lot of women. I know this sounds like common sense but a lot of people
aren't thinking about it on this level. They just sit at home and they do nothing because they're
completely mentally paralyzed and not sure what to do. The idea here is we need a lot of leads.
We can do that by going online and making a great dating profile. And then we can also be going out
there and talking to women out and about where people might be single or people are just around
so you can give yourself an opportunity with people who might be single like the grocery store
or something like that. Now of course we need to convert these leads. So like in a sales funnel
process, the idea is you want to sell to them. And I know that sounds strange like okay Tripp,
am I really doing that? Am I selling myself? In a sense, yes, you are selling yourself. This is
all the same thing. You are basically... and I don't want to use the word convince so I'm not
going to use that because a lot of guys use that word. Let's take the word convince out and let's
say inspire. That's a great word to use. We're not convincing or necessarily persuading, although it
is kind of that idea. But we're inspiring. We're inspiring attraction to convert these leads,
to convert these all these possible opportunities for you to come down to the fact that they say,
"hey, I like this guy." Because the idea isn't just to put yourself out there but we need to make
something happen. We need to convert these leads into a date. Kind of like sales. It's like convert
these leads into a sale. In this case, it's converting them into a date. We need to inspire
attraction. You're not going to do that from your home. You need to go out there and you need to
have opportunities to meet people out there. It can be online or in person. And what we do is we
learn how to make ourselves the most attractive possible with our physical, I call this outer
qualities. And your personality, I call this your inner qualities. And making those two things the
best and most optimized they can be so when you do meet a woman, she goes, "you know what, I like
this guy. There's something about this guy, he's interesting. I'm interested in him and there's
something about him that's attractive." And we're talking about making yourself attractive from the
inside and the outside. Let me just summarize so far what we have. It's about, where can I
put myself out there and when I put myself out there, how can I make myself the most attractive
possible? Quick tips for something like online, you want to have the best pictures possible.
You might want to go to someone who's going to take professional photos of you so you look your
absolute best so when women are swiping on you or you're messaging women, and they see your profile,
they go okay, "this guy is a good looking guy and I can see that." You might not think you're
a good looking guy, but professional photos are going to make you look the best possible.
Now we're optimizing your online dating profile and we're taking time to go and swipe and message
and get a lot of leads. You can't just have it all happen to you, you need to be getting out there on
the dating apps and you need to be swiping and making these potential matches possible. And now
that we're doing that, that's not enough, you want to be meeting people outside of online dating too.
Because some people that are online are not going to be out there in person that you might meet and
vice versa. We want to dress our best, look our best and we want to go out there and start talking
to women. Problem is, I know that a lot of guys are very shy. It's hard for. You can't just get
up and go and start talking to a woman. That's a very freaky thing to do. So you need to be putting
yourself out there by slowly desensitizing yourself to approaching women and talking to
women. Over time it gets a little easier. It. might take a month, it might take two months
to get to the point where it's a little bit more comfortable for you to put yourself out there and
start conversations with women who were out and about. And then that's not enough. Just talking to
a bunch of people might not necessarily convert it to a date. You got to make sure that you are using
things that are going to make your personality the most attractive. I have my TED system,
I talk about this quite a bit on the channel. I even teach it in my Hooked program. It's a course.
I'll put a link down below if you want to learn that system. But basically, the system is TED.
TED system; tension, entertainment and dominance. Three things are going to make your personality
more attractive. Building sexual tension with a woman by giving her good eye contact and flirting
with her by making sure that you're entertaining yourself and not just going over there trying to
get this girl interested in you, but you are actually having a good time
talking to the woman. And the woman starts to pick up on this and it makes you look a lot
more confident. And dominance which is leading the interaction, which I believe is the easiest,
but it's something that guys forget a lot. It's not just about going out and talking to women and
hoping for the best. You need to be in control of the interaction. You're starting the conversation,
you're moving the interaction and conversation forward. And then you're the one who's asking them
on a date and getting their number and texting them and setting up the date. A lot of guys
don't realize that that's part of the case that a woman's not going to do it because she wants to be
led by you. That's dominance. I teach more about the TED system in my Hooked program. But I want
you to have this broad idea here on this video of exactly what to do to simplify it. A lot of
it seems like yeah, this is obvious common sense. Now it's up to you to execute it. But I want you
to think about this on a simple level or you won't do anything. If it's too complicated, you'll sit
at home, continue to be single and lonely and it's going to suck. Think about everything in terms
of getting more leads, putting yourself out there more and then converting these leads to dates and
the biggest thing here is, it is a numbers game. Just like sales, everything is a numbers game. You
need to make sure that you're putting yourself out there enough and talking to enough women so that
you get the optimal amount of chances at getting lots of dates because most women are not going
to be interested in you. That's just how it goes. That just the reality of it. Most women,
no matter how good you are with women, they're not going to be interested in you because they might
be married, in a relationship, maybe you're just not their type, maybe you're a guy who they can't
see themselves being with. However, there is still going to be a number of women that are going to
want to be with you but you have to put yourself out there to do it. And a lot of guys will give
up on this at this part. They'll realize, well, I don't want to be going out there and doing all
that work. That sounds like a tremendous amount of work. I don't want to be putting myself out there
as much. But this is the reality. And I don't think it's a sad reality. It's just the way it is.
I try to look at this with an objective viewpoint of it's not bad, it's not good, it's just the way
it is. And I know a lot of guys the way they get too far into this think, "it's unfair. It's
easy for women and they get approached all the time." Yeah, you know what, I do agree with that.
Dating is a lot easier for women because they get to get approached and a lot of men will
want to be with them. That's just the name of the game. But it's not desperate. It's not pathetic.
It's not weird for you to put yourself out there enough. And I know that once you start doing it,
you're not going to be thinking it's too weird. Once you start getting more dates with women that
you're interested in. At that point, you're going to be happy you did it. That is the whole thing
put together. Now, I know a lot of guys struggle with conversation. They're like okay, I want to
talk to girls, what do I say? I have something free for you. It's a gift. It's something I made.
It's the 4 topics of conversation that women go crazy for. It makes conversation easy and makes
them very invested in the conversation. All you have to do is bring it up. I have a free video
for you that explains these 4 topics. It's down below, hit that link and you'll get it
for free to your email. And then you'll also jump on my email list where I send out free advice and
tips and techniques every single week. I hope that helps. If you're newly single now you have a plan.